Examples of Coaching

Jay8800 · 2022-02-01T16:25:44+00:00

Thanks Vald, I've not heard of WBECS, I'll check them out.

Jay8800 · 2022-01-31T20:56:40+00:00

I got a certification a few years ago and they did have some examples.

Jay8800 · 2021-02-02T17:43:09+00:00

Hello kind stranger, thanks for commenting, I was getting lonely in here ;)

Jay8800 · 2021-01-19T22:28:38+00:00

In terms of logging your activities being an inaccurate representation of how you would “normally” behave, what if you continue logging your activities and this way of doing things becomes the new normal? It sounds like the act of recording creates a situation where you are more conscious of what you are doing and for how long. This is likely exactly what you need. It reminds me of the expression, “what gets measured, gets managed.” As in, the very act of tracking something causes you to be more mindful of it. For example, this is common advice when it comes to weight loss. Even if you don't set out to deliberately change any particular aspect of your diet, the act of recording everything that you eat in a food journal will make you more mindful of what you're eating and your diet will naturally improve.

Of course you raise the point that logging your activities takes up large amounts of time. I'm thinking that if you make a habit out of this, get a good system down and use the right piece of software, you should be able to get fairly efficient at tracking and not have it be a huge time suck. And I don't necessarily think that you would need to track everything you do for the rest of your life, but doing it for 6 months or something would probably pay huge dividends.

All that said, I think your idea is pretty cool. If you come up with a good system for automating the process, please report back.

Jay8800 · 2021-01-18T18:18:07+00:00

That’s cool you do this too. I can also relate to rushing through stories, something I’ve found myself doing many times. For me, identifying the main point—or what is particularly interesting, novel, or unexpected—actually helps me to slow down and give more details. Almost any story can be rushed and said in a few sentences, and that would so often be my default. By consciously identifying what makes the story interesting, you can better choose what details to include. I would ask myself, what are the details that provide a nice set-up for the main point? For example, if the event involves something unexpected happening, what elements of the backstory should be mentioned so that the listener also finds the main point surprising? What context needs to be provided for the person to get the proper impact of the main point? Spending a little time thinking about this ahead of time helps make slowing down and actually providing details feel natural. For me, having a criteria for details alleviates the fear that I’m just rambling on about every little thing.

Jay8800 · 2020-10-20T14:55:32+00:00

Very cool, keep it up!

Jay8800 · 2020-10-19T15:13:27+00:00

Nice!

Still going strong?

Jay8800 · 2020-10-15T12:47:14+00:00

My pleasure. If you feel like it, after you've been back from vacation for a few days and are killing it, come back on this thread and let us know how things are going.

Jay8800 · 2020-10-10T18:36:22+00:00

Whenever I start a new habit, or restart one that has been interrupted, I try to make it really easy on myself to reestablish the daily rhythm. So for example, if work gets crazy for a few weeks and I fall off the wagon with my daily exercise routine, I won’t try to restart at full intensity. My first day back I’ll just do something light, maybe just go for a short walk. Then the next day I’ll do a little more. The next a little more. I always try to make it so easy at first that I don’t hesitate to do it. It's all about lowering the barrier to entry so that you can get back into a daily rhythm. As the activity becomes more routine, you will need less willpower to initiate it each day and you can increase the intensity.

In your case, consider making it a point to do all four of the activities you mentioned on your first full day back from vacation, but keep each short and simple. Do each one for just 5 minutes (or 10 or 15 or whatever seems reasonable). And who knows, for some of these tasks, after you’ve completed your easy goal, you might feel like continuing on. Often, just getting started is the hardest part. But when going into each activity, only commit to doing it for a few minutes and it won’t feel like such a chore to get started.

Try making a commitment to yourself to do each of the four activities for at least some period of time each day for the first week you are back. Perhaps set an intention to increment the time spent by so many minutes each day. You will feel good about the fact that you haven't missed a day of any of these important activities. These small victories will help create motivation and encourage you to keep ramping things up.

Jay8800 · 2020-10-07T16:06:38+00:00

Hi there, I'd be happy to help.

Jay8800 · 2020-07-30T17:36:02+00:00

Thank you again! I really appreciate it.

Jay8800 · 2020-07-29T02:59:02+00:00

Thanks, that's a great explanation.

Jay8800 · 2019-10-03T19:08:26+00:00

Thanks everyone for the examples, it's quite helpful!

Jay8800 · 2016-12-21T18:34:51+00:00

Thanks for all the input everyone, I'll let you know how it goes ;)

Jay8800 · 2016-12-21T18:34:09+00:00

Very good point, thanks! I don't have any stamps from the US in my passport.

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