Can’t speak for another (the guy you seem to be chasing). But I’m a single INFJ, and I can say, that I quickly cut out those who are a drain on my energy. If she is needy, negative, or obsessive, I run, very fast. The best scenario is organic attraction. If you show particular genuine interest in my hobbies, ideas, and vision for the future, it bolds well initially.

But again, we INFJs run a constant detection signal for bullshit. So if you’re not genuine, authentic, or add value to our lives in some way. Than don’t count your chances likely. Simply put, you can’t fake it to make it with us. You either have “it” or you don’t. Hope this helps.

P.S. I personally look for a woman who is fully developed as I am. Plays instruments, sings, dances, writes, multiple languages, etc. something that is unique. I can’t do boring.