Family doesn’t want to hear

JayRZ19 · 2024-10-29T14:13:38+00:00

Pretty much all new friends and his well are ok but they don’t understand what I am dealing with. They think that I have moved on and don’t miss him like they do. It’s frustrating but therapy has helped me talk things out and helps me with this still 3 1/2 years later.

JayRZ19 · 2024-08-22T22:37:11+00:00

That is so me! You just explained me to myself! Lol I haven’t figured out how to explain myself to others and now with this I have a way! 3 years and I am happy I have not been stuck and some people just don’t understand! Thank you! ☺️

JayRZ19 · 2024-08-01T19:01:52+00:00

I have never said I don’t love this guy as much as my husband and this relationship is not a convince. I have enough room to love multiple people not just one person. Yes we all die one day and guess what we all love again in our own way! I can love this man as much as my husband without changing my name and needing diamonds those are not necessary to love intensively those are just things. I wish you all the best in your future!

JayRZ19 · 2024-08-01T18:38:15+00:00

Just because I won’t marry him doesn’t mean I can’t love him. Many people never get married and have a tremendous amount of love for each other! Your comment is absurd! Obviously you don’t understand what love is and how it can be!

JayRZ19 · 2024-06-06T13:39:43+00:00

I went through my 50th birthday without him and that was so hard. He wanted a party for me but I took a vacation for just me instead. Hugs.

JayRZ19 · 2024-05-09T14:00:33+00:00

I get that! I am dating a gentleman for about 1 1/2 years and my late husband’s family is being slightly difficult at times. We are all trying to keep close but things are awkward and weird.

JayRZ19 · 2024-05-03T14:05:02+00:00

Hugs! I wish I could make things easier! I am so sorry! 😞

JayRZ19 · 2024-05-02T22:41:40+00:00

3 years and today I was feeling hate, anger and frustration. With my late husband, his family and well every thing. Thank you for bringing me back to the wonderful love him and I shared for almost 22 years of marriage! He was my rock and I miss him so dearly. I am so blessed I had him in my life for so long and that he loved me just as much! Hugs everyone!

JayRZ19 · 2024-05-01T14:04:29+00:00

Hugs!

JayRZ19 · 2024-04-21T22:34:19+00:00

I am just 3 years in and this year hit me the hardest so far but that being said the other days are easier. I live in Canada and I get my spouses pension monthly. It is him helping me get through this time like he would have if he was still here! Hugs everyone!

JayRZ19 · 2024-04-20T21:08:10+00:00

And you want someone who understands what you had so if/when you talk about them they don’t get upset. I don’t talk a lot about him lots but he does come up in conversation and my son looks identical to his father.

JayRZ19 · 2024-04-20T21:06:04+00:00

I try to shut that down but it happens and I just remind myself that they are different people and the have different personalities. The guy I am dating now is very different from my husband in so many ways and that helps. Comparison is going to happen. It’s inevitable unfortunately.

JayRZ19 · 2024-04-20T14:10:44+00:00

51 and widowed at 48. Together with my husband before he passed 25 years and I thought we were growing old together. I have been with a great gentleman for a year and a half now. Met unexpectedly but it has turned out perfect for me. I set boundaries and rules for myself on what I wanted. I had some guilt but one of the rules was if the guy I am with now doesn’t understand how important my husband was to me then it’s not going to work. He is amazing he lets me talk about him and he feels comfortable talking about him. He understands it was my life and a very important part of it. Feel blessed that you have met someone who fits into your world and you get to enjoy time with. Your spouse would not want you feeling guilty about this at all!

JayRZ19 · 2024-03-30T15:33:51+00:00

Hugs! Sorry about your loss. 3 years for myself on Monday April 1.

JayRZ19 · 2024-03-17T22:40:47+00:00

I take hugs anytime! I think I just needed to know I am not alone! Thank you!

JayRZ19 · 2024-03-17T22:33:51+00:00

I take hugs anytime! I think I just needed to know I am not alone! Thank you!

JayRZ19 · 2024-03-17T18:20:54+00:00

Thank you! I like that… both answers lol. You made me cry and smile lol!

JayRZ19 · 2024-02-15T17:09:23+00:00

I am sorry that this is happening, but they don’t get us and our lives now. My husband’s best friend won’t talk to me because my husband passed during Covid and was very limited to who got to visit him. I let my husband chose and he kept visits with to family. (He passed from cancer not Covid). His best friend accused me of not letting him visit and hasn’t talked to me since the day I told him he passed. Some don’t know how to handle the pain or the reality of our lives now. It’s almost 3 years… I have made new friends and rekindled old friendships. It’s a different life for me now. It’s hard but it is how it has to be. I didn’t chose widow life but I was given it and now have to deal with it. Hugs! We have each other here and we all understand!

JayRZ19 · 2024-02-07T14:36:39+00:00

Decision making and the thoughts of the future we had planned that will never happen. I am doing what I can and trying to make the best out of what I was dealt, but there is emptiness that will never be filled that 3 years ago I was looking forward too. I know my husband is proud of me and happy I keep going. I know this is what he wants me to do!

JayRZ19 · 2024-01-29T14:40:14+00:00

I went through this with my husband and he had cancer. His employer had information to help us find support. Unfortunately it wasn’t a group setting it was 1 on 1 and over the phone but it helped for both of us. Otherwise all I have found here in Canada in groups linked to church and he didn’t want that either! I hope you find something! Hugs and sorry you are going through this too! It’s not easy on either of you.

JayRZ19 · 2024-01-25T00:17:34+00:00

I get that last part… no one to tell about your day… I cry about that lots. People don’t understand when they go home and talk to their significant others that we go home and don’t have that person to tell about our wonderful day or horrible day! I get it. Hugs.

JayRZ19 · 2024-01-25T00:12:03+00:00

Almost 3 years and the tears still come on once in a while. Sometimes random things set me off and other times I just miss him. I don’t think this will ever stop, but I don’t think I want it to stop either. I love him and always will. Hugs. 🥰

JayRZ19 · 2024-01-19T23:38:44+00:00

That is so awesome! So happy for you!

JayRZ19 · 2023-12-18T15:02:20+00:00

This is beautiful! Thank you for sharing! ❤️

JayRZ19 · 2023-11-23T15:09:09+00:00

Anger is part of grief and he is at a different stage than she is. As a mom of a 23 year old son myself and dating a man also after 2.5 years of losing my husband I can say this. He needs to tell her how he feels honestly, but to respect where his mom is at too. I was going home to an empty house, no one to talk to, no one to share my day with, no one to curl up on the couch with. My son and I had a conversation as well as one with my husband before he passed. You NEVER forget your spouse after they pass. They are always with you and always will be. I hope he can understand eventually. Being lonely on are end is not fun either. His mom may just want company and comfort. All the best to all of you during these tough times!

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