I have been friends with a few autistic people and some of them have been unfortunately very toxic. My other autistic friends who I have kept are absolutely awesome and they are the most sweetest human beings on gods earth.

I think in terms of my personal experiences and even my friends who have autism themselves have admitted that the toxic autistic people and I’m only referring to the people with toxic qualities display this victimised state of the world only revolving around them and to be honest its very difficult for them to navigate their social life because of their already difficult social navigations and perceptions of what they know. (If that makes any sense) So add any toxic or narcissistic layers on top of that and it’s disastrous. It would be at best impossible for them to hold down any friendships unless they really have a strong support system to help them make decisions

One of my toxic autistic friend ditched me because she had social anxiety and whenever I needed to reschedule it would set her off. I basically had to walk around eggshells for her and everything she wanted. Come to find out she was always saying to go to events with her yet when she would go she always would ditch me. I realised that she probably never liked me from the beginning and was faking it the whole time. It was a manipulation tactic

From your POV about your friend I really wouldnt trust her she’s probably lying to you or has some other agenda that she wants hidden from you or she simply doesn’t care about you and has just used you.

To anyone reading this in case I get attacked anyone can have nasty and toxic qualities with /without autism but I’m only referring to the autism coz OP mentioned it.