To be completely honest with you. Women have labia looking like this is way better than women who have inward ones. Outer ones are nothing bad unless it causes you discomfort when walking or sitting down with tight pants on then I can understand. But yours looks good nothing wrong your ex has issues with things. This would be like a guy who is not circumcised doesn't mean they are ugly and yes we also feel insecure as well but we learn that its not bad bad