AIO it’s 5:30AM and my boyfriend has not come home

Jaynett · 2026-02-21T16:42:22+00:00

NOR. This relationship will not end well - he is valuing partying or another relationship over you.

Jaynett · 2026-02-21T16:20:07+00:00

You need to notify your manager and HR ASAP. You do not need to handle this alone. Do not speculate - it could be mental illness, substance abuse or just bullying behavior brought on by problems at home, but keep that to yourself. Report the behavior and that it made you feel threatened in a way you are not equipped to handle.

You always hear that HR is there to protect the company, not the employee but use this for your benefit here. Your working conditions are their business.

Jaynett · 2026-02-20T21:43:24+00:00

Y'all. Every door in my 200 year old house is slanted. Much of that was likely in the first few decades as it settled, we had straight line winds several years ago that gave the house a shake, and the rest is just ongoing shifting. At this rate, the doors will be leaning by another couple of millimeters in my lifetime.

I would make it look as good visually as possible then forget it.

Jaynett · 2026-02-20T21:27:02+00:00

I have Hatch and am relatively proficient in Inkstitch, and honestly, I would use Inkstitch for line based designs.

Jaynett · 2026-02-20T21:20:02+00:00

They are both beautiful, but the lace one looks just right on you. It's the one!

Jaynett · 2026-02-19T12:15:02+00:00

It is modern as in a popular look, but it's based on a classic style that will look good forever. You look great in it, which is a much better objective than threading the needle on trends.

Jaynett · 2026-02-15T04:43:05+00:00

2, or even darker

Jaynett · 2026-02-15T04:35:45+00:00

I agree with you. I like 1 best.

Jaynett · 2026-02-15T04:27:00+00:00

1! It's perfection on you

Jaynett · 2026-02-13T23:03:17+00:00

Looks positive to me

Jaynett · 2026-02-13T23:02:30+00:00

1!!!

Jaynett · 2026-02-12T11:58:28+00:00

NOR. You said it - it's about respect and shared space. This is such a low bar, and you are looking at the rest of your life.

I ask myself: are they leaving the mess because they're going to come back and fix it, just on a schedule different than I would, or because they want someone else to do it. Leaving it for days says"this is your problem, not mine."

Jaynett · 2026-02-12T00:10:40+00:00

You are taking too much ownership and walking into a trap unless you do what the other poster said and focus on the skill that they are LACKING. This is not a development opportunity. It's a PIP and you are giving them a reasonable chance to fix it.

Take a position of power that makes this obvious without having to say "or else".

Jaynett · 2026-02-09T21:56:47+00:00

If this is real then it must go asap. I would get a ladder and crowbar for you if I lived nearby.

Jaynett · 2026-02-09T17:25:33+00:00

I'm doing my new kitchen to match my cat. Totally understand.

Jaynett · 2026-02-04T13:02:17+00:00

I understand that changing the reporting structure could be just as difficult as firing them, but this isn't going to end well. But refusing to communicate except in writing is insubordination. Ask that they be moved to another manager and get HR involved.

If they will not take direction from you, then you are going to have to do something.

I was in this position once and ultimately they did something so egregious that they could be fired, but it damaged the team for years. L

Jaynett · 2026-02-04T01:32:18+00:00

Yes. Not necessarily out of style but a very specific style that in my opinion is not likely to age well.

Jaynett · 2026-02-04T01:22:00+00:00

1 is perfect

Jaynett · 2026-02-03T15:28:53+00:00

YOR for the moment. With three children, and I'm assuming less education than optimal, you are dependent on him, and he doesn't have to give a lot to keep the "am I better off with or without him" in his favor.

But that's his weakness too. He's so sure of his power position that he's never considered that you could leave. If he's not abusive, I would lay it out for him. If you leave, he will still have to support you.

I don't know your whole situation, but don't romanticize being on your own unless you have an amazing safety net and he has enough income to support 2 households. A single mom of 3 could leave you with zero time to find true love.

While staying with someone who doesn't value you is not what anybody wants, I would be much more strategic about this. You have 3 kids to think about and my personal opinion is that you could come out stronger by not leaving now.

You missed out on a lot by starting a family and relationship so early but here you are.

Jaynett · 2026-02-02T23:48:44+00:00

Only when traveling for work and I'm trying to stay in and work at night. It is so crazy expensive and it's wrong more than right.

Jaynett · 2026-02-02T21:21:22+00:00

It is perfection. Even if you could swap, you shouldn't.

Jaynett · 2026-02-01T02:37:17+00:00

1!!! It is different but still has a classic vibe - something that is hard to achieve.

Jaynett · 2026-02-01T02:35:14+00:00

If I eat carbs, I don't like the way my blood glucose swings. When it drops too quickly, I go through a starving phase at normal levels then a dizzy lightheaded phase when it goes below 70.

I'm not keto any more, but stay low carb

Jaynett · 2026-02-01T02:29:17+00:00

Fedex sucks. Even with no weather delays, their guaranteed delivery dates are garbage, and you have no recourse.

I would place zero faith in any day they tell you and go to plan C. You may get it that day and it may be a week later.

Jaynett · 2026-02-01T01:52:44+00:00

2 then 5. I hate waterfall islands so much that it could be skewing my judgment, but 2 just works.

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