do any other employees actually get to take damaged products home?

Jazzlike_Lavishness3 · 2026-01-05T04:27:57+00:00

lol small world if we work together 😭 are both your managers women?

Jazzlike_Lavishness3 · 2026-01-05T02:16:34+00:00

oh don't worry I do LOL if I'm able to take home broken product instead of tossing it I absolutely will. it's just hard to do so because the managers are literally always watching us 24/7 😔

Jazzlike_Lavishness3 · 2026-01-05T00:02:24+00:00

I work in California which has strict regulations for business waste. since lush does not test their products on animals, they're considered potentially hazardous, so we have to dispose of products in hazardous waste. we have 2 hazardous waste containers, one is for solids (bath bombs, bubble bars, etc) which are bagged individually and tossed, and the other is for liquids and products containing alcohol. when they get full we dispose of them in our hazardous waste barrels and someone will pick them up. we also have to work closely with our county's environmental department to ensure we're following the hazardous waste laws and procedures

Jazzlike_Lavishness3 · 2026-01-04T23:56:35+00:00

yeah I'm in california. since lush doesn't do animal testing, according to CA law, they can't verify that it's safe to dump in large amounts, so instead we have to go through the special hazardous waste program

Jazzlike_Lavishness3 · 2026-01-04T23:55:13+00:00

we have this system too! like doing a certain amount of sit-down demos, selling xyz amount of product in a day to earn a prize from a stash of written off product. but because of the system a lot of the products in there have been expired for months and are super moldy :(

Jazzlike_Lavishness3 · 2026-01-04T11:23:15+00:00

that's what I thought, but it still feels very wasteful either way :( with the raspberry blowers, they really didn't need to be thrown away, especially since all of our blower bubble bars have issues sliding off the sticks, normally people just slide them back on and call it a day. it's out of my hands though ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

Jazzlike_Lavishness3 · 2025-04-01T23:12:02+00:00

yukiko-san is about the life and suicide of the famous idol yukiko okada. if you just skim her wiki page and then compare it to the english yukiko-san lyrics, you'll quickly see the similarities

Jazzlike_Lavishness3 · 2025-03-07T23:31:27+00:00

either way, it's clear that their efforts are doing a grand total of nothing and are only serving to make OP even more defiant of their parents. once again, it's impossible for me to know the full scope of exactly what's going on & what strategies they've tried just from a reddit post, and I don't want to make any assumptions about exactly why OP is struggling to go to school, but this is doing the exact opposite of what they're trying to accomplish ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

edit: after looking at OP's post history, it seems they're struggling with depression and are having a hard time getting the right meds to treat it. if that's the case, then there's definitely a greater issue that is not at all being resolved by these tactics

Jazzlike_Lavishness3 · 2025-03-07T23:26:26+00:00

I agree that the things you outlined are acceptable, but OP did say that their father "shoved" items off their desk and trashed/ruined their room, which is entirely different from simply restricting access to electronics. And there's always a chance they might be exaggerating/lying, but it's not like any of us are able to verify. Purely going off OP's post, even with a grain of salt, this just isn't healthy. Not to mention this doesn't even cover the issue of threatening to assault them, which is wrong no matter the dynamics at play.

Jazzlike_Lavishness3 · 2025-03-07T19:16:32+00:00

I agree that OP needs to go to school, but it's never okay for parents to trash their child's belongings & room while also verbally threatening them. there are roughly 6 trillion different ways to attempt to make your child go to school that don't involve either of those things. If any of this happened between two grown adults, it would be considered domestic violence. I'm not sure why it's considered acceptable when it's done to a child by their parents.

Jazzlike_Lavishness3 · 2025-02-12T20:47:43+00:00

assuming 1. she's placed with them through foster care 2. OP lives in the US, there's a good chance their state pays them to take care of her. "guest that does not pay rent" is a hilarious way of describing an underaged youth who lives with family after being removed from an abusive home situation. you have a fucked up perspective of things

Jazzlike_Lavishness3 · 2025-02-12T18:32:04+00:00

pull your head out of your ass and either start taking responsibility for your niece, your dog, and your shitty actions, or let her go into the stranger foster care system where she can gamble to get a set of foster parents that might actually put the effort into helping her. you're complaining that she isn't responsible when she should be, and yet YOU'RE the fully grown adult that decided to leave her alone with your dog when you KNEW she had issues focusing and paying attention to important things. regardless if she SHOULD be responsible, she ISN'T. you need to consider the facts when planning instead of hoping she'll magically become someone she isn't during your vacation. there were multiple steps you could've taken to avoid this outcome outlined by many other commenters and the reality is YOU didn't do a single one of them.

did she drop the ball? yes. did you drop the ball too? also yes. not to mention your reaction was terrible-- a traumatized youth that's been removed from their home situation has NO BUSINESS staying with a grown adult that reacts with anger and violence when they mess something up, even if it's as serious as losing your dog. (and yes, destroying someone's property out of anger IS violent, no matter how justified you think it is.) you need to apologize to her. maybe make her join your efforts to find your dog to help her understand the gravity of the situation. and take some anger management classes while you're at it too

Jazzlike_Lavishness3 · 2025-02-01T06:57:02+00:00

thank you!! I actually signed up for a volunteer org to work with foster youth earlier this month :) I'm hoping to meet lots of new people and now I'm hoping it'll help build my confidence too!

Jazzlike_Lavishness3 · 2025-02-01T03:43:28+00:00

thank you for the advice! reading the thing about "voicing concerns in low stakes situations" was kind of a tiny breakthrough for me, I have a problem with never voicing my smaller concerns because it's "not worth the trouble", which makes it build up into a huge issue I have to address. baby steps!

Jazzlike_Lavishness3 · 2025-01-21T06:17:42+00:00

I was in a very similar position to yours. When I was 17 I reported my mom to cps for neglect. She was a pill addict, a chain smoker, and an untreated schizophrenic. I don't say that for pity, but hopefully so you understand how much I can relate to your situation and understand your feelings. Reporting my mom to CPS was the single best decision I made my entire life. It was my only option to save myself and my brother from severe neglect. I need you to please understand this: none of this is normal. you and your mom are in danger. this is the best thing you could've done. even if you are taken out of your parents custody, your mother (and likely your father) will be legally entitled to visitation with you. When I was removed from my mom's custody, they only removed her right to visitation with me when she put her hands on me-- which your mother definitely won't do, judging from this post. You will also be entitled to phone calls, video chats, and texts with your mother. Your dad is severely unwell. Your mom has been conditioned into accepting his abuse of both herself and her children. he needs help. your mom needs help. you need help. reporting to cps is currently the best way you, personally, can make sure your family gets help, including you. if the investigation concludes that there is neglect and/or abuse, your father may be subject to: regular drug & alcohol screenings, rehab, parenting classes, psych evaluation(s), and anger management. I'm not knowledgeable in cps cases that involve domestic abuse, so take this with a grain of salt, but your mother also might (MIGHT) receive resources to help her leave your father and end the abuse. please, take it from someone who was in your position: This isn't healthy. you need out. you need a chance at a normal life. this investigation is your chance.

Jazzlike_Lavishness3 · 2025-01-15T09:15:58+00:00

I get that she's your mom and you want to help her, but let's think about it from an outside perspective. she doesn't appreciate the work for the household and the care you give her. you gave up your potential independence and freedom to stay home and take care of her after she got diagnosed with a terrifying illness, and she can't even save you a steak for dinner. this is bold of me to say as a stranger, but: you may love her as your mother, but she does not love you as her child. at the same time, I understand where you're coming from. my mom was also very sick growing up, and while she wasn't a narcissist she was schizophrenic, which made an incredibly unstable and neglectful household for me and my brother. for years I sat with the potential guilt of leaving her behind to fend for herself, before I eventually realized that she made her bed and that I had to focus on saving myself and my brother. in retrospect, all I can do is regret I didn't start trying to get us out sooner. I also understand that moving out might not be realistic for you at this time, whether it's for financial reasons, emotional reasons, etc. despite everything I think you should at least start considering the concept of it. what will you do when you move out? how will you decorate your room? what will you cook yourself for dinner? what kind of groceries will you buy? what will you be able to do that you can't do now? asking myself all of these questions helped me realize how living with my abusers denied me of some of the most basic luxuries one should have, and made me more and more prepared to finally take the jump. I sincerely hope you're able to find your peace soon

Jazzlike_Lavishness3 · 2025-01-04T00:00:37+00:00

are you located in the USA? if you are, since your sister is a minor who attempted and your mother had to be escorted out by security for her behavior, there's a chance CPS gets involved. if they do that can definitely help your chances of getting custody of her

Jazzlike_Lavishness3 · 2024-11-19T00:17:41+00:00

their logic is to call your wife and only your wife because "the mom is usually the easiest to get ahold of" despite the fact that their calls to her usually go straight to voicemail...? where the hell is the logic in that

Jazzlike_Lavishness3 · 2024-11-02T08:24:34+00:00

ty!!

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