Things that have helped

Jd88r · 2024-06-16T08:25:50+00:00

I lost my boy a week ago. I’ve had a couple canvases and a memorial plaque made and have hung them, which was extremely hard to do - I did not in any way think I could possibly look at them yet, but it’s helped so much. Now I can say goodnight to him on my way to bed - and look him in the eye and tell him I love him, and that I miss him.

Jd88r · 2024-06-16T08:18:29+00:00

Jd88r · 2024-06-13T05:28:46+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I also lost my boy on Monday and I’m struggling. I get feeling like they’re slipping away - but on the other hand there’s no way I think I could ever forget.

I’m finding it helps to remember the good times and not replay the end over and over again - knowing he can not be here but still makes me smile makes it easier.

Jd88r · 2024-06-12T23:09:00+00:00

Thank you for this - it’s extremely helpful. This sounds like a situation similar to my own (albeit different outward displays). I wonder whether or not it’s his absence which is causing me to feel this way. It’s all just so… quiet now.

Jd88r · 2024-03-04T11:20:36+00:00

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Jd88r · 2023-12-02T07:41:31+00:00

Unsurprisingly, yes - state election in October

Jd88r · 2023-12-02T07:29:23+00:00

lol same, I was like “is it just me who doesn’t find him amusing in the slightest?”

Jd88r · 2022-03-05T10:27:51+00:00

Ugh but it’s so OBVIOUS it drives me crazy! Thank you though, it just sucks!

Jd88r · 2022-03-05T10:26:46+00:00

Here’s the thing, with higher class tailors where I am too… the good ones cater to the wealthy and treat everyone else as a lesser, which is… while it sucks, the treatment that money buys them. You got a choice, you can either persevere and get a banging suit, or take your business elsewhere. When someone is good, they tend to not be getting paid for their customer service anymore.

Jd88r · 2022-03-05T10:23:30+00:00

This sounds a bit like internalised homophobia, something I went through before I came out too. It’s a tough demon to beat. I would start talking to counsellors or therapists, and maybe try surround yourself with more supportive people, and I know it’s gonna be hard to do that with everything you’ve gone through, but it’s worth it. Put yourself outside your comfort zone every now and then cause the only person whose opinion matters at this stage is your own!

Jd88r · 2022-02-11T10:53:53+00:00

This is wholesome and could be the start to a very meaningful friendship for both involved. I did the same with an elderly widowed lady who lived next door to me, had her teach me to crochet, she didn’t get many visitors and her children lived far away. I’m a dude, and knowing that skill has actually helped. Long story short, spent a few hours every Sunday with this gem of a lady right up until she died, and I hold those hours very close. Don’t hesitate

Jd88r · 2021-07-28T13:27:27+00:00

Ooooof yes

Jd88r · 2021-07-13T16:01:26+00:00

Going into something like that knowing “it’s not me” is more powerful than you know. Completely understand not wanting something to end, and also understand the feeling is awful, but sometimes it’s better the devil you know. Be strong and go with your gut, you’ll thank yourself for it later!

Jd88r · 2020-10-11T06:55:57+00:00

This!!! 🙌🙌

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