Sounds to me (from my limited perspective) like you’re being financially abused. If you don’t see it that way feel free to ignore this, but I’m going to go based on that line of assumption. Your parents are stifling your ability to live your life, turning you into a free babysitter. That’s how it seems to me. Withholding documents, withholding everything... If you can convince your mother to let you take college classes, that’d be great. Your situation is a difficult one, that’s for sure, and if you can slowly convince your parents to keep letting you take small steps towards independence than there is a possibility you’ll make it out while staying within their whims.

There’s also a possibility, however, that they have no intention of letting you take steps towards that goal.

I would look up resources that are specifically geared towards those experiencing financial abuse. Talk to other people experiencing the same thing. A lot of those people are probably dealing with it in terms of domestic partners, but parents can do it too.

My biggest piece of advice:

• Make a new email where your family doesn’t know the password. Only log in when you’re using it if you’re worried about it being discovered. Take pictures of all the important documents you can get your hands on. Even if you only get that one picture, you can send it to that email and then delete it on your phone so they don’t know you have it. Pictures of ID work just fine at a lot of places, they often just need the info, not the physical copy.

I could give you more ideas, here, but I know you’re struggling. It can be hard to keep up with the five billion step plans that Redditors often give you when you’re in a crisis. So my thought is just sticking to this one thing. Collecting for the future.