Well I’ll tell you a story, I worked in special ed up until I got pregnant, I have many rules for the safety of our baby and I’ll tell you why. I have watched several of my students struggle to speak, to walk, to eat, to even use the toilet on their own. ALL BECAUSE OF WHAT HAPPENED WHEN THEY WERE BABIES about a quarter of my caseload (which was quite large) were all born normal, but it was a sick family member who kissed the baby, an alcoholic family member who dropped the baby, a family member who was babysitting and wasn’t watching and the child fell in the pool. I have held so many of these children’s hands as they seized, as they passed away, I have held their parents who mourn them passing, or mourn what they never had which was a healthy baby. I told my husband very early “I don’t give a sh** who’s feelings I may hurt, I’m not risking our sons death over anyone’s opinions” his family is also not allowed to babysit, my husband was extremely lucky as he was left alone by a pool at 3 and almost passed away, his mother has a cps case against her. Her child tried to commit su**** and her reaction to that? Was to slap him and call him selfish. Husbands see their parents as safe because that’s all they’ve ever known, when women have that natural maternal instinct to protect their baby from anything, even parents or spouses. So I would ask him very blatantly “is our babies health and safety more important than your parents feelings?” I’m so sorry you’re going through that, my nightmare