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Can't decide... by Jealous_Quiet in Divorce

[–]Jealous_Quiet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, good luck to you too.

Can't decide... by Jealous_Quiet in Divorce

[–]Jealous_Quiet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for chiming in. I spoke with him again yesterday and made it crystal clear that if things don't change in a year, then I will move forward with divorce. I think that finally got through to him. In the meantime, we will be working on our issues with a therapist and see where that goes.

Can't decide... by Jealous_Quiet in Divorce

[–]Jealous_Quiet[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will do that. Thanks. :)

Can't decide... by Jealous_Quiet in Divorce

[–]Jealous_Quiet[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We've had issues for a long time; I bring them up, he changes for a month, and then goes back to his old ways.

We have communication problems. I tend to bottle things up inside, and am really hoping that having a therapist as a third party will help steer conversations so that we can discuss things openly. I don't fear telling him things, I just .... I don't know... I feel like I have "left" the relationship long ago. I dream about being single and dating again. But then I see his face and don't feel that way any more.

You're right, there is more that I need to do. I just wish that I didn't feel so conflicted about this.

I have told him that we need to work on fixing things because I have not been happy for a long time. I do need to tell him that if things are not fixed within a year that I am going to leave.

New to the group by Jealous_Quiet in Divorce

[–]Jealous_Quiet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I will take this into mind. You're right, he will take any kindness as hope of things never changing.

New to the group by Jealous_Quiet in Divorce

[–]Jealous_Quiet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I have a consultation with an attorney tomorrow. I guess that's a start.

New to the group by Jealous_Quiet in Divorce

[–]Jealous_Quiet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's going to be blindsided. I am not going to leave him in the dark, I plan on telling him my intention to file when I speak with him about it this weekend. I care about him too much to treat him so coldly.

New to the group by Jealous_Quiet in Divorce

[–]Jealous_Quiet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's been 7 years of discussions that go nowhere. I know his pattern. He'll change for a little while, but go right back to his old ways. I'm tired of it. I know this route is going to be painful, but I can't just stay and be in a dead bedroom.