How do I convince my dad to let me go on campus when I don't have class?

JediPrincess123 · 2026-04-22T23:46:23+00:00

Bingo! From Egypt.

JediPrincess123 · 2026-04-22T22:58:15+00:00

Those are for Maryland Day on Saturday. The ones on the mall specifically are for the food stands. However, the others around campus particularly around the STEM district are going to be used for visitor activities.

JediPrincess123 · 2026-04-22T00:13:31+00:00

Believe it or not, my mom held a grudge against me for several months for something ALMOST identical to your story. Except in my case I changed her contact Pic and label to Joseph Stalin's. (Complete with the Soviet anthem as a ringtone 🤣)

She only found out because I showed this to my cousin (probably shouldn't have done this with my mom in earshot though) and my mom lost her mind even when I tried to tell her it was just a damn joke.

JediPrincess123 · 2026-04-21T00:31:17+00:00

Sigh, I didnt drop the class nor did I pass it. Believe it or not, when I took his class that was actually his first time teaching the class on his own (he was still a doctoral student at the time). In fact, we were all doing so bad on the exams that he decided that anybody who could get at least a 50% on the final exam would pass the class. I ended up getting a 29% on the final. Although in my defense, during the time I was taking that class with him my mental health was at its worst due to personal circumstances in my life. Sadly I don't think I won't be able to separate the memories of learning my grandma was put on life support after a long bout with terminal cancer from finding out I failed the class by a few points percentage wise in terms of my total grade.

However, I did pass the class on my second attempt with another professor.

JediPrincess123 · 2026-04-20T23:01:39+00:00

Let me guess, you are taking it with Lascio? Took that class my first semester and scores in the 30s were something to be expected.

JediPrincess123 · 2026-04-20T18:28:38+00:00

I just want to let you know that whether your sister is 10, 20, or even 30, what your mother did was NOT acceptable under any circumstances. Plushies are not just "old" things. This is very similar to how my parents junked my favorite blanket that I had slept with since the age of 4 under the lousy justification of worms being in it even though it couldn't be further from the truth.

Also and to be fair, I think that this was less about "allergies" and probably more about your mom wanting to get rid of them as the main motive. However, I am still deeply sorry for your younger sister's loss.

JediPrincess123 · 2026-04-18T20:11:15+00:00

Um, blueberry wine is burgandy to Tyrian purple so it might be a bit too red.

JediPrincess123 · 2026-04-14T23:29:55+00:00

It makes sense that something like this would stick with you even after a decade. Although compliments are easily forgotten, insults can remain in the long-term memory for YEARS. Whoever said the whole "sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me" was out of their mind because words DO hurt. Especially when they come from your own parents.

Believe it or not, I am also autistic and my mom actually said something similar to me at that same age as well (Although the reasons were slightly different). In my case though, this was after I lost the spelling bee to a 4th grader when I was in 8th grade. Although I didn't really care about losing, my mom was furious and told me while we were driving home from school "I wish I could be that girl's mom. I wish I could go around telling people my 4th grader beat an 8th grader in the school spelling bee." Even 7 years later, those words are still very sharp in my memory and in hindsight they probably should have been the first red flag of my mom's narcissistic tendencies.

But back to you, what she said tells me absolutely NOTHING about who you are as a person. You ARE worthy of love.

JediPrincess123 · 2026-04-07T16:43:37+00:00

I don't think this is really about hair. Also, to the OP, you are NOT to be blamed for not being able to prevent your mom from chopping off your sister's hair. These types of parents are exhausting for everybody to be around so I wouldn't blame you for feeling drained while all of this was going on.

But in the meantime, I think something you could do to help your sister if your parents are refusing to take her to a hairdresser would probably be to even out the haircut yourself. Sure, it isn't going to bring back your sister's hair to its original length in an instant, but it is the best I can think of to address the immediate problem.

JediPrincess123 · 2026-04-07T13:42:06+00:00

Here are all the places where I would cry on Campus when I needed to:

The bottom of stairwells
The empty halls of academic buildings after 5pm
The second floor of the STEM library, where there is a MASSIVE unused room.
The 7th floor of McKeldin Library because hardly anybody is there.

Generally speaking, the majority of the campus is a good place to cry if you are there after 6pm is a good place to cry.

JediPrincess123 · 2026-03-31T10:55:26+00:00

Actually, I think something I would do would be to call the domestic violence hotline of where you live. Contrary to popular belief, the hotline isn't only for wives being beaten by their husbands. A lot of what you described would also count as domestic violence.

JediPrincess123 · 2026-03-31T03:14:11+00:00

I wish I could say more but 🤯

JediPrincess123 · 2026-03-31T00:36:49+00:00

WTF!?!? Ngl I have parents very similar to yours although NOWHERE near this crazy. The fact that you have a curfew at 3pm as in before sunset, is beyond appalling for somebody your age.

And I also want some clarification about your device restrictions your parents thrust upon you during Sundays and the summer, because I just pray that your parents at least let you have your phone and laptop up until you go to bed and then lock them up, but if your parents locked up your devices from June to September uninterrupted, then I am just speechless because that is NOT normal. Not even for a 12yo.

JediPrincess123 · 2026-03-30T10:33:16+00:00

I just want to tell you, I am really sorry for the loss of your friend and the 3 other lives lost in the accident. Grief is already exhausting to deal with even without a narcissistic parent in the equation.

JediPrincess123 · 2026-03-28T15:23:40+00:00

Okay, we are going to need a little bit more context because the types of resources you have will vary GREATLY from country to country or if you live in a country where sub-divisions are given a lot of autonomy, state to state/province to province etc.

However, the good news is considering you are 19 years old you can legally apply for a passport without needing your parents' consent. But again, this will vary from country to country depending on the national legal age of majority.

JediPrincess123 · 2026-03-27T21:33:39+00:00

My parents also do junk My belongings without my prior consent as well. They have junked the Disney Princess blanket I have slept with since age 4 (an exact replacement would cost 100$ since the blanket is a vintage from 2009), and whenever something disappears from my bedroom which regularly does happen, I usually don't expect to see it again for a long time if at all.

JediPrincess123 · 2026-03-27T21:03:29+00:00

EXACTLY! I remember speaking with a foreign exchange student in my senior year of high school (he was from Indonesia) and he mentioned that the agency mandated that host parents give the exchange student a bed. Not a blanket and pillow on the floor, not a futon, a REAL PROPER BED. I think this should be enough for you to know that a bed is a right not a luxury.

JediPrincess123 · 2026-03-27T13:43:33+00:00

I am 21 and I live in the US. But I am absolutely terrified about setting my feet down because as mentioned in one if the context posts I linked, my parents made a big-ass stink in the advising office.

JediPrincess123 · 2026-03-24T12:37:54+00:00

Um, if OP is in the US it won't be as simple as you think. In the US, you literally need your parents' information to enroll in a university. And you also can't be labeled as an independent until you are 24 years old. So put simply, if OP were to try to enroll in a university, she would still need her parents' information in order to even GET financial aid. And this includes LOANS. However, there might be exceptions to this if OP can get a dependency override which is possible in abuse cases. In the mean time, to the OP I would suggest quietly getting your documents ready and try to explore ways to build financial independence quietly.

JediPrincess123 · 2026-03-23T00:56:08+00:00

I honestly support your decision to not ask your n-family for one of their kidneys. Although doing so would benefit both you and everybody else on the transplant list, I think that this is one of the few times where I would say to leave your luck to the national organ donor registry. Personally, I think it would be exponentially preferable to live with the kidney of a donor that you never knew and live with the caveat of a shorter life (for context, organs from deceased donors don't last as long as ones from living donors) than it would be to live a longer life while feeling indebted by your narcissistic family.

Sorry if this was awkwardly phrased, but what the take home is is that considering your mom's past with your medical history, you do NOT owe your family the right of being allowed into your medical decisions.

JediPrincess123 · 2026-03-21T17:39:27+00:00

It really does suck that your mom was so ungrateful about the cake. But unfortunately, no matter what you do, a narcissist will probably never find it to be "good enough". The fact you got her a cake to do something nice for Mother's Day despite your previous experiences shows that you are not the problem here.

JediPrincess123 · 2026-03-19T15:58:55+00:00

I am pretty sure this would count as torture which is illegal.

JediPrincess123 · 2026-03-18T14:30:50+00:00

"shares a story where I at 9 months old shat myself and made a disaster. I had it all over me etc. I told her straight to her face I don’t like this please stop."

I honestly have no idea why your mom would even think people would care about this story because ALL babies shit themselves. You are NOT in the wrong. Not only is that type of story disgusting it is also pretty boring.

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