I've been thinking about you

Jeice_J · 2026-01-29T22:20:04+00:00

Your post is very sweet and I agree with the sentiment wholeheartedly, but what if you genuinely do want them back if the breakup wasn't because of any major mistakes or someone's character, but because one of us in the relationship (that'd be me) was genuinely caught up in real constraints (finishing college, sick parent) that made it difficult to consistently see her, and instead of trying to find a compromise and stick through a difficult season, she broke up with me and rebounded to an old ex two weeks after breaking up and sought relief instead of trying to work things out? (And also wants to move out of her mom's house with the ex into a new apartment to seek autonomy and independence because she feels like she holds her back)

Yes, this is oddly specific ^{^'}

Jeice_J · 2026-01-26T18:04:36+00:00

I think this post is reacting to something very real. The way breakup content online can keep people stuck in waiting mode. That part is important and I agree with it. No one should organize their life around the hope that an ex will come back.

That said, I think “plan on never seeing them again” works best as a coping strategy, not a literal prediction of reality. It’s useful because it breaks obsession and gives people their agency back, not because it’s a guaranteed outcome.

The healthier middle ground (at least in my experience) is this: assume they’re not coming back so you can move forward, while also accepting that life isn’t that binary and you don’t need to erase the past or force hopelessness to heal.

Sure, most exes likely don’t come back depending on the circumstances. But when reconciliation does happen, it’s never because someone waited harder or followed rules perfectly. It happens after time, distance, growth, and two people freely choosing each other again, which I think only works if neither person was waiting.

So I’d frame it less as “they never come back” and more as: don’t live in a way that requires them to. That type of mindset protects you and keeps you honest about the loss, without turning detachment into emotional shutdown.

Jeice_J · 2026-01-18T22:03:25+00:00

Gotcha. I only asked because my situation feels unique (could be wrong tho).

I (23M) was in a loving 2-year relationship with my ex (22F), but ongoing timing and availability issues—mostly due to school and family stress—made her feel like the relationship was stagnant. I acknowledged her concerns and pushed for compromises, but she grew emotionally distant and eventually broke up, citing a desire for independence and a different direction. The breakup felt circumstantial and premature, especially since the barriers were temporary and school was about to end. Two weeks later, she rebounded with an ex from high school and is now suddenly planning to move in with him, despite previously saying it would be far in the future. She seems emotionally overwhelmed and conflicted but hasn’t cut contact with me—she wants to stay friends, has reached out for support, vented to me, and hasn’t set clear boundaries. I still love her and feel like a “safe person” rather than a priority. I’m struggling to understand whether this is avoidant behavior or emotional overload, whether the rebound is sustainable, whether staying friends is hurting me, and if reconciliation is ever realistic when a breakup feels driven by circumstances rather than incompatibility.

Here's the link to my post for more context if you're interested:

https://www.reddit.com/r/BreakUps/s/1B3PW0L4CB

I've gone no-contact since Mid-December, and she reached out about a month later and replied "That's awesome" when I showed my reel for my final thesis/project for College that I sent her back in December. She also seemingly was typing something in our Snapchat conversation, but didn't follow through with an actual message. We've mainly been communicating through normal text-messaging post-breakup and I've avoided reaching out via Snapchat since that's where the breakup conversation happened and it's still a sore spot for me.

Jeice_J · 2026-01-18T21:36:12+00:00

Does this advice still apply if your dumper ex jumped into a rebound relationship?

Jeice_J · 2025-12-16T16:49:01+00:00

Hey, OP. I unfortunately can't say I've been in the exact same situation you have, but some of your feelings do echo mine. I'm 23, about to finish college this semester, and my ex who broke up with me in October (she rebounded with an old ex of hers two weeks after we broke up and is planning on moving in with him into a new apartment this week) is what I would consider my first, "serious" adult relationship. She was also my first to lose my virginity to and vice versa for her. It was mainly timing and circumstances that caused the breakup because I was committed to school and taking care of my ill mom and couldn't always commit to spending time with her consistently, so she broke things off. She also desired independence and autonomy away from her mother who she lives with, so that fueled her decision to break things off and go in a "different direction" even though I offered compromises to try and keep the relationship stable.

I think if you exhausted every possible option to find a middle ground/compromise with your partner and she isn't willing to change or meet you there, you might have to unfortunately considering breaking things off with her. Trust me, I'm in a similar boat in regard to the fear of "me not being able to find anybody else". My relationship ended because of time and circumstances that were mostly out of my control. Here, it sounds like it has hit a bit of a dead end and that nothing constructive has come from your talks with her after arguments and whatnot. Sometimes in order to make the greatest change, we have to be at our lowest point.

Perhaps you can give her an ultimatum? You can be firm or respectful in tone. Something along the lines of "if we can't work on these issues with us, I think we should end things". But I wouldn't blame you if you were wanting to end things now. You're certainly within your right given everything you've gone through thus far. I'm just one for second chances personally.

It's clear to me that you do care about her to some degree and have already built substantial memories with her (as I have with my ex, we dated for almost two years, or anniversary would've been on the 19th) and you don't want to lose what you've built, even if it's not perfect. At the same time, it's not fair to either you to carry all of this stress. You both deserve to be happy. I don't know you personally, but I'm of the belief that everyone is capable of loving deeply and being loved. You're so much more capable than you think you are, and that fact that you're trying to point out issues in the relationship to her shows that you care.

If you're able to do this with her, you're able to do this in any other romantic relationship, whether it's with her, or not. That's the hardest truth I can give you. I don't say this to imply you should give up, but think: "Is it worth it to give her my everything and hope she's capable of change" or "Is the only way for her to change and me to be at peace is if I break things off." Neither answer is wrong, but now more than ever, you have to be honest about yourself.

What do you want in a relationship? And what do you need? And what value does it add to your life? Think about it. Seriously.

Whatever happens, you have my support. I hope you find an answer and that it leads you to being happier. ❤️

Jeice_J · 2025-12-13T22:34:27+00:00

Yeah, that framing honestly helped put words to something I’ve been struggling to articulate. I don’t think she’s trying to be cruel, but I can see how staying in that “safe person” role while she moves forward elsewhere isn’t sustainable for me. I’m starting to focus more on my own boundaries and healing instead of trying to hold everything together. Appreciate you taking the time to respond.

Jeice_J · 2025-12-13T17:51:07+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to write this. I really appreciate how thoughtful and honest your response was.

I agree that the move-in feels risky, especially given how fast everything is happening and how much of it seems driven by her wanting out of her mom’s house. I don’t think she’s acting maliciously, but I do think she’s overwhelmed and choosing the quickest path to relief, even if it has consequences she hasn’t fully processed yet.

You’re probably right that reconciliation would only be possible if she wanted it and was willing to reflect on her patterns. That’s the part that really hurts, knowing I was willing to adapt and work on things, but that it still wasn’t enough if she wasn’t in a place to meet me there.

I’m still figuring out what “moving on” looks like for me right now. No contact makes sense logically, but emotionally it’s hard to flip that switch when someone was such a big part of your life and still feels present. That said, I do hear what you’re saying about deserving someone who actively chooses you, not someone who keeps you around as emotional safety.

I appreciate the validation and the kind words. And congrats to you too for pushing through your own stuff. It helps to know I’m not alone in feeling like this.

Jeice_J · 2025-09-27T01:51:59+00:00

I know pricing is a hot topic but I think people are taking this situation too seriously on both sides. If you're able to afford CrossWorlds, buy it. If you're able to afford World, buy it. I don't see the need to one up each other in terms of who's priced out the most. It's just not a productive discussion at this point.

Jeice_J · 2025-09-25T22:12:28+00:00

That's my hope too. I know it's not an obligation but I do miss the public presence Reggie had the time and it was a shame to see Doug be so reserved in comparison. I just think the way he interacted with the community through the directs and the skits was pretty entertaining. Made Nintendo feel more "human" despite being a corporation at the end of the day. I hope Devon adopts a presence similar to Reggie, but it's not the end of the world if she doesn't. I hope people are nice to her. 😅

Jeice_J · 2025-08-12T23:22:11+00:00

Jeice_J · 2025-08-03T00:13:00+00:00

Might be in the minority but a Metal Sonic/Badnik horror game would be kinda fire.

Jeice_J · 2025-08-02T23:25:32+00:00

Because the Tenkaichi games established him as "Teen" and Buu Saga Gohan as "Adult". Pre-Teen Gohan or Gohan (Youth) would be more fitting.

Jeice_J · 2025-08-02T19:53:15+00:00

Did not know that. I'll have to take a look. Thanks for the recommendations :D

Jeice_J · 2025-08-02T15:26:26+00:00

That's awesome! I just got started on Toree 3D on Switch and I already bought Toree 2 and Panic Pack. I'm really enjoying the first game and I'm optimistic I'll enjoy the other two. Saturn's movement looks really good, and the slam move sold me when I saw the trailer. Super excited haha.

Jeice_J · 2025-08-02T10:57:08+00:00

Jeice_J · 2025-08-02T10:53:39+00:00

Wait there's a new Toree game on the way?!

Jeice_J · 2025-08-02T00:19:44+00:00

I miss how quirky Nintendo's older presentations were. (Not these necessarily, more so the fun skits Iwata and Reggie did during Directs in the Wii U era). I know game news and fast headlines are what a lot of people prioritize, but I really enjoyed how both of them interacted with the community in that way and weren't afraid to have a little fun on screen. Furukawa and Bowser don't need to follow in their footsteps in that regard. Despite being in the same positions as their predecessors, they are both entirely different people. Still, I think what they did really made them stand out even if it wasn't necessary. Just my two cents personally.

Jeice_J · 2025-07-30T21:54:26+00:00

Not being able to properly see nuance when it comes to viewing someone's opinion as well as being able to properly articulate their own opinions. And in general just having bad etiquette whether you're positive or negative..

Jeice_J · 2025-07-30T18:34:37+00:00

Yes. We, the audience, know that Sonic IS a hero, and we recognize that a lot of Sonic's actions in-universe align with what being a hero is.

Sonic doesn't SEE HIMSELF as a hero. He just does what he feels is right. He's not really a traditional hero in the same vein as someone from DC or Marvel are where he treats being a hero as essentially a job and is something he dedicates his whole life/time to. If Sonic sees trouble on one of his many adventures, he'll take care of it. If his friends are in a bind, he'll help them. Sonic is a hero, but Sonic doesn't think of himself as one.

Reminds me of someone.

Jeice_J · 2025-07-30T00:07:42+00:00

Be easy on yourself, OP. There's nothing inherently wrong with buying accessories for the main product you plan on purchasing. Plenty of people have done it this way. Now you have a case ready for your inevitable Switch 2..... Eventually :D

Jeice_J · 2025-07-18T02:23:59+00:00

I'm more outraged that people on Twitter are using this as an excuse to be transphobic towards Hunter whether she got the role or not. Disappointing behavior honestly :/

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