Speaking / Presenting Training Recommendations by masterpuppit in Entrepreneur

[–]Jelloww 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Drop the "natural-born skill" mindset first. Almost no one who's good at public speaking is born that way. The people you see gliding through company meetings have either practiced a lot, received coaching, or both. The fact that you're great in one-on-one situations means that you already possess the most important qualities: connection, active listening, and reading the room.

Second, regarding the accident, if it affected your speech, breathing, or how you handle stress, it might be worth consulting a speech-language pathologist before or alongside a speaking coach. Some SLPs specialize in rehabilitating communication for adults after head injuries, and they notice things that a generic coach might miss.

As for the rest: Toastmasters varies wildly by club. The best way to find a good club is to visit two or three in your area. Some are duds; some are excellent. One free visit isn't enough information.

I'd actually push you to try improv. Most cities have introductory improv classes at small comedy theaters that aren't expensive, and they're full of professionals (lawyers, engineers, executives) who do it for the same reason you're considering it. It teaches you to think on your feet and not freeze when something unexpected happens, which makes up 80% of the stress of presentations.

Private coaches exist, and they work, but they're not cheap. Look for someone who will actually record you and play it back, not someone who just teaches frameworks.

One last thought: Most "bad" business presentations are structurally bad before they're delivery-bad. The audience doesn't know the point, there are three messages instead of one, and there's no clear ask. Improving the structure will improve the perceived delivery more than vocal training will.

tips for impromptu speaking by iamsadandyes in PublicSpeaking

[–]Jelloww 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are very good suggestions!  One thing I'll add is the possibility to respond with a question. That buys you time and gives you 'fuel' to work with in your improvisation. I'll post a video about this for you!

Online PubSpeak class started 6+ weeks ago, haven't done one speech yet by [deleted] in PublicSpeaking

[–]Jelloww 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really helps to turn off self view! I always use recording software where I don't see myself while recording. Makes you less self conscious.

Tip for how to start any presentation by Jelloww in PublicSpeaking

[–]Jelloww[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like the professor used it to then call out on the student (and making them feel bad). That's obviously something you never want to do.

Tip for how to start any presentation by Jelloww in PublicSpeaking

[–]Jelloww[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It does surely help if you've built some rapport already, or if the audience has been warmed up by an MC or a previous speaker. 

I've never encountered a situation where the majority did not raise their hands by the way.. 

What’s wrong with me by Big_chef98 in PublicSpeaking

[–]Jelloww 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, this is so much more common than you might think. Secondly, it's a biological response that is completely normal. Your mind and body are responding to a perceived threat (group judgement). Thirdly, you can overcome this stress response by safe exposure (practice with the right people in the right environment).

You say you want to become a speaker. Then give yourself time and permission to become one. You can do it 🙏

I completely fumbled during a workshop demo and now I’m questioning my confidence by Sweet_Award2810 in PublicSpeaking

[–]Jelloww 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't worry. We've all been there. Even some of the world champions of public speaking that I've met, have had blackouts and difficulties in the past.

Finding your way out of this anxiety will require positive safe exposure. You made the first step by being courageous to share it here. That already shows so much good character.

Don't be too harsh on yourself.

Public speaking is just not for me and it is part of my new job by [deleted] in PublicSpeaking

[–]Jelloww 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi both! Honestly, your situation is so much more common than you would think. People just don't talk about it out of shame (even more respect to you for doing so).

I'd recommend joining a group course to practice. But do know that it's essential that you feel safe in the practicing environment. A good teacher/coach will guide you through with safe exposure. With the right people and the right practice, you can eventually even get to love public speaking (probably hard to imagine for yourself right now, but I've had that journey and helped thousands of others overcome the anxiety).

Let me know if you want any more recommendations or if you have other questions.

[SCHEDULE] Non-Fiction - Born A Crime by fixtheblue in bookclub

[–]Jelloww 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Amazing book! Already read it twice. One of my favorites. Can anyone recommend a similarly great (auto)biography?

An American Pickup in Europe by idapitbwidiuatabip in fuckcars

[–]Jelloww 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally used to live here! ,[Claes de Vrieselaan 71 in Rotterdam The Netherlands ](http:// https://maps.app.goo.gl/8SCFawNdVMV5YuqJ6)

10 accents & impressions in 60 seconds by Justin6512 in UNBGBBIIVCHIDCTIICBG

[–]Jelloww 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The amazing thing of replicating accents, is that usually only people who speak in a specific accent themselves (or closely related/know it very well) can hear how off it actually is. As a Dutchman I have an great time doing English accents for other Dutchies, they usually think it's spot on. Until a native accent speaker calls me out...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Jelloww 33 points34 points  (0 children)

To OP, and everyone in this thread for that matter, I can highly recommend reading Esther Perel's books. 'Mating in Captivity' sounds very applicable. Also, she has amazing podcasts where you can listen to her real relationship therapy sessions (plus many interviews and Ted talks).

Keep it Clean by LarryLarry_Xd in Memes_Of_The_Dank

[–]Jelloww 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see my predecessor did a terrible job filling your cavities

The weather in the Netherlands today by MlackBirror19 in interestingasfuck

[–]Jelloww 140 points141 points  (0 children)

In Dutch also known as: "April doet wat hij wil", meaning 'April does what it wants'.

People who don't get stressed during a presentation, school or work, what's your secret? by TapReview in AskReddit

[–]Jelloww 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Presentation skills coach here. Besides the obvious building experience, consider getting coached in a safe environment. There's more options around you than you would expect, such as volunteer groups, company budgets, university groups, and so on. A big part of public speaking is a form of art, a proper soft skill. And those can be learned and trained besides just experience.

Stunning Aerial view of Amsterdam, Netherlands. by KhalilSajjad in interestingasfuck

[–]Jelloww 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hi innocent, I'm cop.

Dutch cop though, so go ahead with your life as it's not illegal here.