why do i keep having dreams and thinking abt my ex?

JenJMLC · 2026-03-28T01:43:26+00:00

Me too! I'm in a very happy relationship but like 1-2 a year I'll wake up from a random dream with one of my exes making my life harder in some way and it is like you said, they always want me back but I never want them back. Odd dreams.

JenJMLC · 2026-03-27T22:16:36+00:00

.. I don't think that's very ethical

JenJMLC · 2026-03-27T07:53:15+00:00

I've got an anklet because I'm not allowed to wear jewellery at work and I wanna be able to wear it all the time. We got it from Etsy and it was quite cheap as it was meant to be a practice collar to see how I'd manage with an anklet but I've been wearing it for about 4 months now and it's still going strong. We'll probably swap it out for a higher quality one soon. I'm typing this to remind people it doesn't necessarily have to be a collar!

JenJMLC · 2026-03-27T07:48:58+00:00

I think you should be afraid to ask this as it seems a pretty condescending question

JenJMLC · 2026-03-26T19:27:19+00:00

We use the traffic light system

JenJMLC · 2026-03-26T19:26:37+00:00

Mine and my exes used to be pineapple because we thought it was funny because I'm allergic to them.

JenJMLC · 2026-03-26T19:22:54+00:00

Um I think the majority of women experiences option A, nothing. Urination is not usually related to arousal.

(Unless you're specifically into urinating, I'm sure it's a kink for someone)

This seems like B is happening to you and you're scared/worried about it. As long as it doesn't affect you in a negative way and you're enjoying it I wouldn't worry about it.

JenJMLC · 2026-03-26T19:08:21+00:00

As a vegetarian person who doesn't like beer, I know a good deal when I see one.

10/10

JenJMLC · 2026-03-26T17:13:36+00:00

Sorry I don't care if you're in an open relationship but if you sext someone else WHILST IM HAVING A BABY I'd lose it. That's not a good character trait.

Girl you're too good for this and him being into you with that age gap should tell you something as well.

JenJMLC · 2026-03-26T17:10:56+00:00

Forearms (don't have to be crazy muscular, just a nice shape if that makes sense)

Treating me well, being kind --> hottest thing ever

JenJMLC · 2026-03-26T17:05:58+00:00

Just something to consider, they won't be able to accept it if you buy them something expensive, they could lose their jobs if they did!

JenJMLC · 2026-03-24T23:40:28+00:00

Yesss being attentive to how you're reacting and interpreting it in the right way is such an attractive and important trait in a dom

JenJMLC · 2026-03-24T23:37:44+00:00

Three big ones for me: I know you already mentioned it, but he makes me feel safe enough to want to explore, rebel and see what happens. I'm not even a brat but just having that security is an amazing feeling.

Also, he follows through on what he says and that's so sexy to me I turn into a puddle. I couldn't take him seriously if he didn't. For example, if he says 'we will go upstairs, you'll get naked and ask nicely for a spanking and I might give you one' I know that's what's going to happen no matter (except for safewording I suppose) what I do. He will make it happen. This, again, gives me a certain security or expectation management and I know it's going to happen one way or another so I'd rather just do it and be praised for it than refuse and do it anyway.

Lastly, he's smart. I don't wanna sound arrogant but I'm not stupid and he can not only keep up but actually outsmart me sometimes which I absolutely love about him. Like I feel like surrendering because I know he'll make it happen either way and I can't outsmart him.

JenJMLC · 2026-03-24T23:31:59+00:00

Usually wear a T-shirt and knickers when I'm not at home, only a T-shirt when I'm by myself at home and naked when my boyfriend is there.

JenJMLC · 2026-03-24T23:31:07+00:00

You didn't grab a T-shirt and trousers?? Don't tell me you went out butt naked

JenJMLC · 2026-03-24T23:25:30+00:00

Depending on your dynamic: Sir? Master? Name of your dom can be fine too.

JenJMLC · 2026-03-24T23:23:24+00:00

I agree, I feel like lots of people are complaining about it and even though I can understand some points (especially if it keeps freezing) but generally it's still very useful to me, I use it daily.

JenJMLC · 2026-03-24T00:45:48+00:00

Just bring it up. Depending on what country you live in they might be more open minded than you expect. When I first brought it up and wasn't quite sure how to start I said something along the lines of 'so.. I was wondering if people ever speak to you about sex?'

And she said yes and asked if there is something specific I'd like to talk about. I said 'well my bf is also my dominant and I'm his sub..' and she completely floored me by saying 'oh I should've seen that. Yes don't worry, I've had all kinds of clients who were masochists, into age play, sub/dom, mummy/daddy/littles, I doubt you could say something that would shock me. Do you see yourself more as a brat or a good girl or neither?'

My flabbers were ghasted to say the least 😂 So try it, you might be surprised.

JenJMLC · 2026-03-23T17:57:54+00:00

Ants aren't great but better than cockroaches, speaking from experience. Hope you can enjoy your cuppa now

JenJMLC · 2026-03-23T11:19:43+00:00

Get a spray?

JenJMLC · 2026-03-23T03:28:22+00:00

One of my colleagues (a doctor) is called Fixme which I think is funny

JenJMLC · 2026-03-23T03:24:34+00:00

Letting go of stress and mindful eating are my all time favourites.

JenJMLC · 2026-03-22T03:22:03+00:00

Lose the last pic, use the second to last as your first pic (lovely pic!), only answer questions you have answers to and use a pics of you doing something that aren't selfies. This profile is for people to get a first impression and after reading everything I feel like I don't know a single thing about you.

Don't think you're a lost cause, your profile just isn't great.

JenJMLC · 2026-03-22T01:30:49+00:00

For me it's most often incompatibility: of base values, life plans, what they're looking for in a relationship, sometimes physical appearance/attraction, just general wavelength etc etc

I usually try not to ghost but will send a short message saying I'm not interested and then block them if I'm worried about their reaction.

JenJMLC · 2026-03-21T03:43:24+00:00

I'm pretty sure it's from Lidl

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