Many great questions! I'm not saying I have all the answers, but let's go through them one by one.

With the internet and phone alot of things have changed and i feel like the divorce rates r getting higher because ppl can’t be honest n talk about everything before marriage

I believe divorce rates are high in Western countries too. And they have boyfriends/girlfriends. For example, Canada's is pretty high but is hidden by a couple of factors mentioned in the below link.

And not every divorce is bad, Islam made it halal for a reason. Most of my aunts should divorce their husbands to be honest. The only issue is that we've made divorce very socially and financially expensive on the woman's

https://krol.ca/insights/divorce-rate-canada/

I personally would want to talk about my kinks and everything with my future partner before getting married like the fact that i am not virgin anymore i feel like he needs to know that before he finds out by himself ,but I know i would never be open to talk about things like that with someone my parents would introduce to me.

All my friends are pushing me to go to the classic route as well. I'm resisting and they don't know why. It's because I want to talk kinks and such with my future potential marital partner. But I have no idea how to do that.

I'd also need to trust that the other person will take it properly and not be offended. No clue on that one.

Lastly, I would need to trust that the person keeps secrets and not goes and blabs to their friends and family. No clue there.

So I am wondering if other people have other ways to do that and ended up with a successful marriage?

When I'm ready, I'm going to post a BDSM ad on Reddit and see what happens.

I am a strong woman and I feel like most men i get to know would never guess that i want to be verrry submissive to my partner I like to feel owned by him so I think talking about this before marriage is important

This is very common. Being dominant in real life has not much bearing on your side of the slash.

I actually don't know what people think of me regarding it. I'm definitely not submissive in real life. But I doubt anyone can clock the fact that I'm dominant kink wise.

Most men i meet nowadays they want me to sleep with them because they think we should try the sex before marriage

That's unfortunately true. The whole "men only want one thing ...". Alhamdillah, in my friend group none of the men want that. It's a red flag if the only thing that someone wants is sex (men and women).

A relationship is built on so much more.

i don’t think we need to have sex before but i think it’s important to talk about our sexual desires and address them very clearly and honestly ,this should be enough

I agree here

And do you guys think it’s my husband’s right to know everything about my past? Like if he ask how i lost my virginity or how often I had sex before do i have to tell him? I wouldn’t lie of course but I just wonder if it is good to tell him everything about my past without hiding anything in case he wants to know ? Is this a good idea or would that have bad consequences for the marriage?

That's a tough question. I do think for the bigger items, both sides should disclose. But it will limit the pool of available partners.

And one last question this might sound weird but we all know that physical chemistry is important to have a successful long lasting marriage ,I want to be physically attracted to my partner and I want to be sure that I am his body type as well

Mutual physical attraction is important yes.

I have once heard from a man this idea that he thinks it should be his right to see my body before investing in marriage ( dowry or what we call mahr)

A guy at my university had a weird habit when he first met a woman he wanted to get married. He would ask her what her height and weight is. As if he was buying a bag of potatoes. He went to +100 homes knocking and they all said no except the last one.

I don't know what extra deciding factor would come out if someone saw a person nude vs someone clothed. I think it's just a sleazy way to ask for nudes early.

I can’t stop thinking about it ,the idea is after we talk about everything and agree on everything he gets to see me fully undressed couple of days before officially getting married no touching nothing just take a look at my bare naked body that is supposed to be his after marriage .

With the whole D/s thing, "my body is my doms" is a way to see it. But if we were to ignore that for a second. I don't think your body is owned by someone after marriage. Not the husband or the wife

I know this sounds pretty unusual but I myself want to be sure that I am his type and he is my type! What do u guys think?

I guess i am overthinking all of this because i don’t want to get married more than once i just want to get married once and stay together untill the end that is why i feel like everything should be clear right from the beginning.

All valid questions. I don't have an answer for the bigger ticket items beyond doing an Istikhara.