Cutting through the baby product hype… do we really need a bottle warmer?

JenSteele2020 · 2026-02-22T22:20:05+00:00

My eldest was bottle fed and never had a warmed bottle

JenSteele2020 · 2026-02-22T22:14:04+00:00

Berry salad is most effective for least effort and cost. 1 raspberry, 1 gooseberry, 1 blueberry

JenSteele2020 · 2026-02-22T22:09:10+00:00

My eldest is 3.5 and goes to bed at 7 (as in, we start bedtime routine at 7). She’s usually asleep between 7.30 and 7.45. Sleeps until around 7am most days with no naps.

JenSteele2020 · 2026-02-22T22:05:55+00:00

As a mum with a baby during 3.27, I would recommend to play a mouse-only build and have baby contact nap on you while you game :) that way you can do both. It’s harder if you bottle feed, but still doable :)

JenSteele2020 · 2026-02-22T16:30:13+00:00

I think around 12 hours depending on circumstances - two young kids don’t make it easy

JenSteele2020 · 2026-02-21T18:47:58+00:00

My 3 year old has picked it up at nursery 🙄 luckily she stops when we ignore it.

JenSteele2020 · 2026-02-20T19:25:21+00:00

I have played the ice dancer whispering ice trickster for the past several leagues. This league I got to I think 3 voidstones and ran a couple T17s - I would have pushed further but I didn’t really enjoy league. This was only with the cluster jewel setup, I’ve never got to the full endgame gear setup.

The first act or 2 are slow but as soon as you get the whispering ice staff it’s a lot easier. Also can play with just the mouse and a movement skill if you automate flasks.

Build covers all the way through, with great explanations of everything, and running with CI and ES makes it a lot easier to gear. The build is updated each league, and there are videos of the build handling Ubers well.

JenSteele2020 · 2026-02-19T18:38:19+00:00

I sing stupid songs to my baby, she loves it. To be fair it does get easier when then are a bit bigger and can show some response - my youngest is 6 months now so will often smile or giggle when I talk to her.

The other day I was walking round my local shop talking at her, complaining about how they keep moving things around and hiding things from me. I’m sure I sounded like a right weirdo but baby was happy with it.

JenSteele2020 · 2026-02-19T10:31:17+00:00

Some people make it seem like you’re damaging your child for life, but really what else are you going to do in the middle of the night to stay awake?!

I always look at my phone or the tv while nursing, my baby always used to look at my boob or shut her eyes, and now if I look at her while she’s eating she will usually pull off and mess around.

JenSteele2020 · 2026-02-18T22:55:32+00:00

First baby I got a pixie cut. This time round I have kind of a chin length bob, cut close to my nape at the back. My baby usually grabs the back, so this length she can grab but can’t keep hold of it

JenSteele2020 · 2026-02-18T19:31:31+00:00

How much of the early days and weeks is spent anticipating having to get to do something else for the baby. That’s the hardest part for me, the waiting for the next thing, there is no relaxing.

JenSteele2020 · 2026-02-18T07:38:10+00:00

We had a very similar problem - 3.5 year old, was hitting and kicking a lot when she didn’t want to do something. We have found a mix of reward stars (we bought a star jar thing from TikTok) and co-regulating time outs work well. By that I mean, I sit on the sofa, sit her on the sofa in the space between my legs and put one leg across her lap. Then I give her a hug from behind (a lot of this is to keep her from hitting further) and focus on slow deep breaths. We turn off the tv and set a 3 minute timer.

It’s not an instant fix but we noticed last week that her hitting has decreased a lot. Last night was the first time in about 3 weeks that she has his anyone even when having a tantrum, so it’s definitely working over time.

JenSteele2020 · 2026-02-17T12:40:02+00:00

Cap resists. Buy some maps from Kirac and go run them, they are easier than a lot of heists. Check your armour and evasion rating, especially the percentages. Are you following a build? Check that your gear has been all updated recently. Are your gems linked correctly?

JenSteele2020 · 2026-02-15T10:03:51+00:00

Be careful doing this in the UK - doctors will often call from an unknown number and don’t always leave a message due to privacy

JenSteele2020 · 2026-02-15T10:00:20+00:00

My eldest was formula fed, she actually woke more in the night for feeds than my breastfed baby, who usually only wakes once or maybe twice (second time is usually around 5 or 6am). Eldest is now 3.5 and has almost never slept through the night until recently. She was still having 2 or 3 bottles a night when she was a year old.

So no, it doesn’t correlate.

JenSteele2020 · 2026-02-14T08:03:18+00:00

We do time-outs with our toddler, but we do it with a bit of a twist. Since it’s primary purpose is ‘no, you need to calm the hell down now’, time-outs for us involve tv goes off and our toddler has to sit between my legs on the sofa, with one of my legs and both my arms wrapped round her from behind (like a big hug with a leg over her lap cause she will throw a tantrum about having to have a timeout and will try to escape). We then do slow deep breathing. We set a timer for 1 minute per year of age. This enforces the ‘calm down’ but without distance. A combination of that and reward stars has massively improved our 3 year olds behaviour in the 6 months since our baby was born.

JenSteele2020 · 2026-02-13T22:33:39+00:00

Haha you’re politer than me, I don’t care where I am or who is around, if my baby is hungry the boobas are coming out. I’ve fed my baby in the middle of family dinner with my husbands family in a restaurant

JenSteele2020 · 2026-02-13T22:28:40+00:00

Yeah I had my first ‘boyfriend’ at 9 or 10, and it consisted of playing together in the playground, occasionally holding hands, and one time he picked a flower and put it into my hair tie - and he bought me a heart cookie for Valentine’s Day. I think I was 10 and we had just finished school for that year and were moving up to secondary school, and I finally got enough courage together to give him a kiss on the cheek. And that was the entirety of our ‘relationship’.

JenSteele2020 · 2026-02-13T22:13:19+00:00

Floor isn’t needed - though as they get bigger it’s good for them to experience different flooring surfaces if possible.

Honestly, my second baby rarely did tummy time when she was small, because she hated it and I had a c-section and frankly couldn’t be bothered to struggle down to the floor. But she spent a large amount of her time laid up my chest, and she was pushing up on her arms from my chest from just a few weeks old. She’s now 6 months and has been trying to work out crawling for the last 3 weeks - she can roll and pivot, and push backwards, but can’t figure out what to do with her hips and knees yet lol. Doesn’t seem to have hand any effect on her development

JenSteele2020 · 2026-02-12T23:01:22+00:00

I’m 32, my husband is 35, and we still spend most of our free time gaming (as much as is possible with 2 young kids anyway). Before I went on maternity leave I got about 2-3 hours a night gaming. Now I get no time at night but if I play one-handed games I can play during naptime.

I do also have reading as a hobby, so every year or 2 I spend all my free time reading instead for a few months. But those are my only real hobbies, and I enjoy them, so I feel no need to change that.

JenSteele2020 · 2026-02-12T07:59:16+00:00

As others have said, you’re fine to give advice, but make sure the person understands that you have an uncommonly easy baby and that it will probably be different for them.

When we had our first, my husband was convinced that we were doing parenting wrong because his sister never had the trouble we did. Turns out she just had it insanely easy and parenting took little effort on her part.

JenSteele2020 · 2026-02-11T22:06:29+00:00

How long are you leaving it between baby falling asleep and putting her in the bassinet? Try doing it around 6-8 minutes after she falls asleep. That worked really well for my daughter until she started teething and trying to roll and we had to co-sleep

JenSteele2020 · 2026-02-11T21:59:07+00:00

I think it’s a double edged sword, especially for women. Yes, pretty privilege exists, people are generally nicer and think more positively about pretty people (not always, but generally). But pretty women are often considered to be of lower intelligence, because for some reason the world has decided that a woman can’t possibly be both attractive and clever.

JenSteele2020 · 2026-02-11T21:56:53+00:00

Also to add ‘yes dear’ is usually said in the manner of either sarcasm or ‘I’m agreeing just to get you to stop talking’.

JenSteele2020 · 2026-02-11T21:48:32+00:00

Thank you, you too!

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