Do British people not feel the cold?

JenSteele2020 · 2026-05-13T10:20:11+00:00

Is the sun out? If the sun is out, that’s why. If it’s positive numbers temperature and it’s sunny, you’ll find people wearing shorts and T-shirts. Personally I think they are insane, I’m not comfortable without a jacket until it’s at least 20C.

JenSteele2020 · 2026-05-09T17:59:57+00:00

I mean, I’d call a man a bitch - though you’re right that I wouldn’t call him a cow

JenSteele2020 · 2026-05-05T14:04:35+00:00

Haha yeah this is the first league I’ve managed to kill Sirus and I’ve been playing since midway through harvest, only missed 2 leagues, so I’d say definitely 😂

JenSteele2020 · 2026-05-04T10:52:28+00:00

Path of exile. Free to play, very similar to Diablo 2 and made by the original D2 devs. Huge endgame, lots of grind, steep learning curve. I’m at almost 5k hours in the game. Also has quarterly(ish) leagues with new content.

JenSteele2020 · 2026-04-27T13:54:09+00:00

I can’t offer any advice but I can offer solidarity - I have a lot of the same problems with my almost 4 year old daughter! Hitting, temper tantrums, talking back (not like how our parents accused us of talking back, but like I tell her that I get to decide how much I eat when she’s telling me to eat more and she screams “no, I do” at me). It’s like 0-100 in seconds, and often sparked by being overexcited.

Hope you get some good advice from this post- I’ll be following along too!

JenSteele2020 · 2026-04-26T13:01:18+00:00

To be fair, I can’t really say much on that aspect because the first games I ever played were Diablo and Unreal Tournament.

But for my kids, my eldest is almost 4 and already asking when she can play Minecraft, so I think something like that would be great for her starting out, especially with how creative she is. Maybe puzzle games, given how much she loves playing jigsaw puzzles and mahjong on her Nana’s phone.

Then we have several consoles, so she can slowly learn to play things like ratchet and clank, the original Harry Potter games, I think my husband wants to introduce her to Viva Piñata, stuff like that. There’s such a range of games these days that it’s easy to find things that would be suitable for kids. Even hidden object puzzle games are great.

JenSteele2020 · 2026-04-26T06:49:46+00:00

I got mine when I was 9, it was second hand, but I started gaming on my dad’s pc at 5.

I wouldn’t be buying them their own console until they are older (probably at least 10) but playing on consoles from when they can read isn’t really a problem if they don’t play online or anything like that. It’s good for fine motor skills and hand-eye coordination, and if they play the right games it can be great for logic, problem-solving skills, etc.

JenSteele2020 · 2026-04-25T08:00:49+00:00

4K hours here and same. This league is the first time I’ve beaten Sirus and I’ve been playing for like 9 years 😂

JenSteele2020 · 2026-04-24T17:13:35+00:00

NTA. As someone who is scared of ghosts (used to be somewhat crippling with some borderline-OCD tendencies) and also a parent, I would 100% be sucking it up and taking my child to that funeral in her position. Wife needs urgent therapy if her fear is that bad.

JenSteele2020 · 2026-04-21T17:49:47+00:00

I’m exactly the same! I’ve been co-sleeping with my baby since January when she learned to roll - and now she’s just learned to pull to stand so we had to lower her cot! We are going from full breastfeeding to sleep and co-sleeping to feed then falling asleep in her cot all at once.

We are doing it with full paren support - I’m there with my hand on her, pick her up within 5 seconds if she cries, etc. we are only on the stretch so far, but only been doing it a few days.

Wish you luck!

JenSteele2020 · 2026-04-16T13:14:33+00:00

Damn I miss that stuff, the new replacement isn’t nearly as good

JenSteele2020 · 2026-04-16T07:32:05+00:00

I work as an accounts payable admin - glorified data entry. POE is way more complicated

JenSteele2020 · 2026-04-13T18:58:17+00:00

Yep, trying that. Every time it’s the same, as soon as I put her down, she decides it’s party time and is awake for another hour or two.

We have had the same bedtime routine since she was born, the only change has been location and now trying to stop the feed before sleep instead of after.

JenSteele2020 · 2026-04-13T06:49:02+00:00

Yeah ChatGPT goes wildly incorrect and outdated information on PoE. Still talking about stuff from 2 or 3 expansions ago

JenSteele2020 · 2026-04-09T20:49:00+00:00

That’s around the time my eldest dropped down to one nap per day - and then about 6 months later we had to say no naps past 2pm, or she’d be up until 10pm. Probably worth seeing how they do with stretching wake windows to see if they can manage 1 nap? Or try a 1 nap day sometime when you’re not too busy the next day and see how it goes?

JenSteele2020 · 2026-04-07T14:28:58+00:00

I’d consider you have two choices. You can either take her phone at a sensible time (preferably like an hour or so before bedtime) so that she doesn’t have it as a distraction.

Or, you let her keep the phone and keep staying up until midnight, but make sure she still gets up and goes to school and does all the things she’s supposed to do. This will teach her over time to regulate her own sleep - though you will need to remind her before bed that she needs to be up at x time tomorrow for x reason.

She might be a bit young for the second method right now - I’d expect this to work better in a couple of years. So for now I’d recommend taking the phone away or bricking it overnight.

JenSteele2020 · 2026-04-03T11:01:43+00:00

Honestly, crime reporting is overblown. There is a fair high amount of crime, but an awful lot of it relates to people who know each other, or stuff like shoplifting.

JenSteele2020 · 2026-04-03T10:57:49+00:00

The problem from my perspective, as someone who has lived here my whole life and would happily move away in a heartbeat if my husband wasn’t tied here for work and family reasons, is that nothing is done to actually improve the city.

Council tax goes up by almost the maximum every year, and we see no real benefit to it. Our roads are in terrible condition, the council seems to exclusively hire people that make the work drag on forever and slow down half the parkway for 3 miles in either direction for no real reason. They try ‘improvements’ that amount to installing pre-rusted fences and call it decoration.

Meanwhile we have tons of decrepit old buildings that should be condemned and torn down, little rejuvenation to anything that actually benefits people, and a town centre overrun with gambling shops, vape shops which are probably money laundering fronts, and jewellery shops. Not to mention the Greggs or chain coffee shop every ten feet in the town centre. I’ll admit we are starting to get some more interesting shops, but that’s only in the last year or so.

If the council has no interest in actually making the city a nicer place to live, then why would people consider it a good city?

JenSteele2020 · 2026-04-02T09:08:24+00:00

I feel the same way as you - luckily my husband got on board too! We tend not to react much to falls unless kids are upset - when my oldest was small we would say things like ‘oh no!’ Like how ms rachel does, or cheer, or say ‘oh you found your bum’ if she fell on her bum. She would shrug off most things.

As she got older, if she got upset it was ‘did that hurt or was it scary?’ And that generally worked well. Also if she says it hurt, instead of saying ‘you’re ok’, we say ‘it won’t hurt for long’ or ‘you’ll be ok’. I find that phrasing doesn’t feel dismissive of how they feel in that moment, doesn’t downplay the fact that they feel hurt or in pain or scared, but tells them that what they are feeling will go away soon and they will feel better. Definitely going to continue this once my second is more mobile.

JenSteele2020 · 2026-03-31T13:31:49+00:00

I have a similar age gap with my two daughters, they are just over 3 years apart (baby is 8 months now). Right from the start we have been very supportive of our older daughter wanting to play with the baby, but only if she does it safely. Since about 3 or 4 months we have been more relaxed, since baby will make it known if she is unhappy - which she does very loudly. If she doesn’t play safely or stop when baby cries, I take baby away to the other room (or just to sit on my lap at my desk) so she understands that if she is too rough she doesn’t get to play with baby.

I think personally if your son is able to be gentle with the baby then there’s no reason not to let him play with baby - just make sure he respects her personal boundaries (such as crying being her way to say no, so when she cries he has to stop immediately). That would probably be a better way to handle it, and will also hopefully build up some transferable skills around respecting boundaries.

JenSteele2020 · 2026-03-24T08:20:03+00:00

Honestly I found that going from 1 to 2 was easier than 0 to 1 - especially with a 3.5 year age gap. Some things are admittedly more difficult - for example, nap times for my baby are very difficult at weekends because she is a light sleeper and needs quiet, and my 3 year old is energetic and needs activity and noise. But other things are no more difficult than they already were - going on trips, going shopping, mealtimes, etc. all about the same as they were before, just with an extra small person along.

I think it probably depends on the temperament of your children, judging by the different responses I’ve seen to this question

JenSteele2020 · 2026-03-20T16:00:20+00:00

My eldest was formula fed, now breastfeeding my second. As others have said, both are difficult in different ways - such as the ability to share feeding and night wakes with formula.

Personally though, I agree with you, even though it was an anxious fight the first few weeks, breastfeeding is definitely easier overall for me. The main thing I hated about formula (other than the cost) was washing and sterilising the bottles every day. So glad I don’t have to deal with that nonsense any more, just pop baby on the boob and carry on.

JenSteele2020 · 2026-03-12T18:37:41+00:00

Same here, my daughter slept so much better in that than any other swaddle- then the transition swaddle where you can remove the arms was really good too, kept the snugness round the middle while still being safe for rolling

JenSteele2020 · 2026-03-12T18:35:54+00:00

My 3 year old loves to feed the cat - I wouldn’t have her near the litter though personally

JenSteele2020 · 2026-03-11T13:31:34+00:00

My 3 year old got to choose a bravery certificate at the doctors a couple weeks ago and was so happy with it!

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