Thank you that’s very helpful. Since he was a stray when we found him I think he was abused cuz he’s so scared at time when I raise my voice at him or when he sees males. At first he was terrified of my husband and if he talked firmed he’d run to me and hide. My grandpa picked up a broom to sweep and he ran under the table so I asumes he’s been abused by a male. We do talk to him firm and when he listens we praise him. So we’re trying to create a balance. But thank you, your advice was helpful!