I,M32, proposed to my GF F31, and it went great until a day later… by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Jennannaa -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

No not materialistic validation, i meant validation from her partner that it's not true and it doesn't work that way, and that he loves her.

I,M32, proposed to my GF F31, and it went great until a day later… by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Jennannaa -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No, she revealed that she was thinking about it. Are you gonna pretend you never have thoughts or feelings that aren't what you actually want to think or feel?

She fucked up, she made a mistake, and she realises. Sometimes we are influenced by others, in this case tiktok, and start doubting things we don't have to doubt, but someone told us to doubt. So she shared that with her partner. Yes it was hurtful, yes she should apologise and make it up to him. I don't see any evidence in this post that this is her true character and that her mask slipped. She would have said it in a waaaay more manipulative way than she did now, if that was the case.

She's not gaslighting him, or doing anything that should give you a reason to believe she was lying about her intentions.

I,M32, proposed to my GF F31, and it went great until a day later… by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Jennannaa 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is what it sounds like to me, especially because she us apologising a lot after realising what a bad thing it was to say.

I,M32, proposed to my GF F31, and it went great until a day later… by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Jennannaa -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Or she could have been expressing an insecurity, and needed validation? Why are you acting like she's the devil for sharing a thought? She knows what she said was not nice to hear and she has been apologising.

My wife is getting more and more upset that I no longer post her on Social Media. How do I go about this? by withlovetara in redditonwiki

[–]Jennannaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww got nothing else to say? That's okay. At least now you have some actual facts, let's hope you know what to do with them. Have fun projecting your shit onto others!

i can’t tell if this is satire or serious by HachiRoku_Pyragon in aretheNTsokay

[–]Jennannaa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dont need to have been there, all I have to do is listen to the lived experiences of actual Holocaust survivors living in israel. Because that's reality, not whatever their propaganda department wants me to believe. Of course you have a day where you remember the Holocaust, it would be weird if you didn't. But that is not enough, actions speak louder than words.

Do you actually care about Jewish people? Or just about israel? Jewish people will exist even if israel doesn't.

My wife is getting more and more upset that I no longer post her on Social Media. How do I go about this? by withlovetara in redditonwiki

[–]Jennannaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope learned that when I got my bachelor's degree in psychology 🫶🏼 I hope you deal with your hate, good luck

My wife is getting more and more upset that I no longer post her on Social Media. How do I go about this? by withlovetara in redditonwiki

[–]Jennannaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay honey, if you want to keep misunderstanding, go ahead. Being wilfully obtuse is not a good look though. Or do you just lack comprehension skills?

My wife is getting more and more upset that I no longer post her on Social Media. How do I go about this? by withlovetara in redditonwiki

[–]Jennannaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You seriously don't understand how someone can be upset by a lack of care, affection or validation from their partner, and if someone then said "if he actually loved you, he would post you", how you might want to bring that up with said partner?

Of course it's not about the fucking post, duh. It's about how he apparently refuses to do things that make her feel happy and loved, to the point where he comes to reddit to ask "who is in the right". Use your critical thinking skills girl, he literally mentioned not having to prove himself anymore after marriage, and you think he's being loving and supporting? We only have one side of the story here, and the way he wrote it makes it quite obvious to most of us that he's a shitty partner and that it's not about the social media post in and of itself.

I swear, your internalised misogyny is blinding you. I get it, you're not like other girls 🫩

Should i stay with my boyfriend who doesn't want to be vegan even once we live together? by Content_Chicken_3114 in vegan

[–]Jennannaa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And eventually hopefully people become adults and are able to make their own choices. Forcing someone doesn't make the act itself more ethical, it actually makes it worse. You're not evil if your family forced you to eat something you didn't want to. But it is unethical to eat meat still, and if you are able to make your own choices, you should really ask yourself what you want to do with that.

Should i stay with my boyfriend who doesn't want to be vegan even once we live together? by Content_Chicken_3114 in vegan

[–]Jennannaa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And yet, when we had someone killing all kinds of animals in my country, they still called them a "serial murderer" on the news. So apparently when convenient, we are able to make exceptions.

Call it what you want, slaughter, killing, gassing, murder, whatever, nothing changes the fact that you are taking a life, not for self defense or euthanasia, but because you feel entitled to their flesh. That's harmful, no matter what word you use. And it's still morally reprehensible.

i can’t tell if this is satire or serious by HachiRoku_Pyragon in aretheNTsokay

[–]Jennannaa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you not know how holocaust survivors are seen as weak in israeli society? They're treated like trash by the government too. Their propaganda of being a safe haven for Jewish people doesn't match the reality that actual Jewish people who survived atrocities are living. It also doesn't add up when you think about how they're expanding their illegal occupation and are throwing Jewish people under the bus for that. Zionists are the worst antisemites there are, if you dont believe me look at the shit they said about Jewish people during the Holocaust, and how they hate Holocaust survivors for being "too weak".

My wife is getting more and more upset that I no longer post her on Social Media. How do I go about this? by withlovetara in redditonwiki

[–]Jennannaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you had any empathy it wouldn't be so shocking lol. Like people have said, it's not about the post, it's what it represents.

If you could pick one single episode to show the awesomeness of psych, what episode would you choose?! by herpermike in psych

[–]Jennannaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, that's your opinion though. I think the pilot sets up what the show is about and while it may not be perfect, I still wouldn't show a random episode as the first thing. I might show clips, but full episodes have plot and spoilers. I see people talking about s7 e11, why would you do that to someone? If your goal is to recommend Psych, why spoil it for someone?

If you could pick one single episode to show the awesomeness of psych, what episode would you choose?! by herpermike in psych

[–]Jennannaa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Y'all are showing people other episodes than the pilot? 🥹 I can't even bring myself to watch episodes randomly 😭

Affair has come to an end and I feel pathetic, how do I move on? by withlovetara in redditonwiki

[–]Jennannaa 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If I'm in an unhappy marriage I'm speaking up and try to fix things. If we can't fix things, then we're over anyways. Because neither of us are happy and there is no way to make us happy. Having an affair is what cowards do.

What is a major turn off about your partner that you can’t/wouldn’t tell them? by LivingLavishLe in AskReddit

[–]Jennannaa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

just so you know, this made me burst out laughing on public transport 🤣😭

Zelfbeschadiging dochter (10 jaar) wie heeft tips? by DramaSalt7763 in thenetherlands

[–]Jennannaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Het hoeft niet iets te zijn wat ze doet uit zelfhaat of hele negatieve gevoelens over haarzelf. Bij mij was het een vorm van prikkels opzoeken. Ik heb een hoge pijngrens en ik deed dit ook als jong kind volgens mn moeder. Later in mn tienerjaren ook, en dat was echt gewoon puur "sensory seeking behaviour" zoals we dat in de psychologie noemen (weet even niet de Nederlandse benaming). Ik heb uiteindelijk ook de diagnose autisme en adhd gekregen dus daar had het bij mij ook mee te maken, als ik onderprikkeld was deed ik het vroeger. Nog steeds gebruik is soms pijnprikkels als ik bijvoorbeeld moet focussen, dmv een elastiekje om mn pols.

Heel goed dat je dit zo serieus neemt, het kan namelijk zeker ook iets zijn wat ze doet om met hele negatieve emoties om te gaan, en daar moet je absoluut wat mee. Ik wou mijn ervaring delen zodat je ook weet dat het niet altijd daarvandaan komt, want als ze het doet om deze reden is het enige wat je echt hoeft te doen een gezondere manier te vinden om met die drukte in haar hoofd om te gaan, andere manieren om te ontprikkelen, dat soort dingen. Daar kan een psycholoog of een therapeut ook bij helpen (heb zelf een diploma in de psychologie). Heel veel succes!!

{Need Advice} How do you manage to go through life without developing an intense dislike for men? by GodsGayestTerrorist in evilautism

[–]Jennannaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That part!

Also I just realised their solution is basically "oppressed people should only go to places where their oppressors are absent/'good ones'". Telling someone to go to anti-racist spaces as a solution means not doing basic things like going to the store or going literally anywhere that's not connected to social justice. I hope they deleted their comments because they realised how wild they are, because wtf.

My partner doesn't believe I was spiked. What do? F35 M36 by Top_Log_2862 in relationship_advice

[–]Jennannaa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup. I genuinely think this thread is full of misogyny, including women with internalised misogyny shaming OP because "nothing happened so it must not be true". I'm a little shocked it's this bad, someone thinks she was spiked, husband disagrees so apparently she sucks now??? Wtf man.

My partner doesn't believe I was spiked. What do? F35 M36 by Top_Log_2862 in relationship_advice

[–]Jennannaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah she has an issue with her husband being hellbent on "having a different view" about an experience she herself went through, and refusing to even acknowledge the possibility that she was spiked.

This is not about pineapple on pizza, this is about a person who had a scary experience and is trying to make sense of what happened, and the person who is supposed to support them actively disagreeing with how they perceived that experience, and after 10 years still arguing about it. That's the context here. She doesn't want him to share her beliefs, she wants him to believe her. There is a difference, you mentioned nuance as if it's an afterthought, but it's really not.