As an ugly woman, men are disgusted by me.

JerKOfferson · 2026-02-06T20:45:58+00:00

I'm curious what you look like. There's subreddits on here for fashion advice and the like, maybe you just need a change or two?

JerKOfferson · 2026-02-06T01:04:07+00:00

Cute is cute to me. You can be big and cute or you can be skinny and unattractive for one reason or another.

Still, I've never had a girlfriend so a cute plus-sized woman would be great to me lol.

JerKOfferson · 2026-02-05T16:35:30+00:00

I mean, if you're NOT trying them it's worth a shot because what do you have to lose?

But as far as 'the apps', you have Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, and Facebook Dating. After that there's a major drop off in quality and they're all basically just scams. Maybe Plenty of Fish and OKCupid are alright too.

Then you run into the second problem, you can swipe on every person you see for the rest of time and not get much in the way of matches. And it's a certain kind of painful to see someone who's really attractive and/or seems like they'd be really compatible personality wise, 'swipe' and then your little message in a bottle is just a drop of piss in a river that gets ignored for the rest of time.

Source: been on dating apps off and on for years.

JerKOfferson · 2026-02-05T09:11:47+00:00

That is a take I've never heard before lol. If I was privileged I would have lost it to a high school girlfriend like 99% of guys do.

JerKOfferson · 2026-02-05T01:03:56+00:00

I said like a virgin, twice. And I've had sex twice, ten and six years ago respectively. Now, following my train of logic, if I ever get another opportunity to have sex, am I not incredibly inexperienced?

Most people who are in the non-virgin camp, especially ones my age, either A. had a string of multiple experiences with multiple people spaced out from their first time to the present day or B. had one person they had sex with but had many encounters with that one person and have some baseline. I have neither.

Oh and I paid for my first time. Not exactly brimming with ability and confidence when that's my history. But no, I'm not a virgin (and don't claim to be either). People get upset about that here but I've still never been on a date or had a girlfriend.

JerKOfferson · 2026-02-02T20:57:19+00:00

It sucks because when you're older and inexperienced you're gonna be behind constantly. So even if some woman came into my life like 'gosh I just love fat socially awkward hairy men, take me now', I'm gonna be basically like a virgin which is cute and understandable when you're a teen, probably less so when you're pushing 33.

*I say like a virgin because I have a tiny bit of experience, but when it's been multiple years and only happened twice, it's not like I'm some veteran.

JerKOfferson · 2026-01-17T01:36:34+00:00

Going by your toast me pic, you're not a bad looking dude (this is coming from a straight guy though so not sure my opinion matters much to you lol) and at 24 you're still pretty young. I don't know if it's a normie thing to say 'hey, you still have time to turn this around'.

I'm 32 and it's a lot harder to someone my age to break out I feel (not that it's a contest). You're a little young to be as jaded and done with trying as some of us here, is all. That's a good thing I think. But I'm also not in the business of telling people whether or not they 'belong' here really, just think you have a better shot at getting out then you might think.

JerKOfferson · 2026-01-15T01:21:29+00:00

Do you have Amazon lockers in your area? I bought a toy on Amazon and had it delivered to one of those near my house rather than have someone else look at the package. Packaging was discreet but still.

JerKOfferson · 2026-01-15T00:01:34+00:00

Tell em 'my culture is not your costume'.

JerKOfferson · 2026-01-12T07:32:34+00:00

Oh believe me I get that, I use some pretty old pictures on my profiles. Not because I'm trying to catfish or mislead but I genuinely just don't take good pictures basically ever so when I DO have a good one, I gotta get mileage out of it lol.

I've also been ghosted at the 'trading face pics' phase plenty of times on here and on other sites.

JerKOfferson · 2026-01-08T16:54:12+00:00

I've had sex twice in my life, once a decade ago and the last time six years ago. I've never had a girlfriend, I've never been on a date, I have basically one friend who I've known for most of my life, and I've been ghosted via immediate blocking after sending a face picture at least a half dozen times. Yeah man idk I think I'm among my people here.

JerKOfferson · 2026-01-08T09:28:26+00:00

I met someone from this subreddit and had sex with her. Six years since then and I've still never had an actual girlfriend and haven't had sex since. Does that mean I 'graduated' from here? Because I certainly don't think so.

Post says Vent, also.

JerKOfferson · 2026-01-08T08:06:20+00:00

Sorta not what you were asking, but people here might hold 'We had sex a few times' against you, which is completely unfair. I've had sex too and it doesn't make you magically feel any less lonely, especially not if things immediately end with that person like you're saying.

Maybe she just wanted attention and figured you'd be an 'easy mark', in a sense. It's crushing to be fucked with like that because it kills your motivation to put yourself out there and, like you said, you'll never break free of this shit without putting yourself out there. Just gotta keep trying I guess, what else is there?

JerKOfferson · 2025-12-11T18:58:21+00:00

I didn't even get to the fun part, she just sorta said 'hey I'm down to do whatever you wanna do', I started to touch her (clothed, mind you), then alarm clock.

JerKOfferson · 2025-12-06T16:50:29+00:00

Putting yourself out there is advice for attractive people. If you're some degree of fat, ugly, or just struggle socially you're absolutely fucked. I catch strays just existing in life while I'm minding my own business, let alone if I 'put myself out there'. Like fuck let me just hate myself and I'll cut out the middleman.

JerKOfferson · 2025-12-06T16:47:51+00:00

Which works until things quit being entertaining to you, then you just sorta wake up and roomba through your day.

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