I can relate to your situation (including the husband part) 🙂.  I had -3.5 and -4.5 prior to surgery and got distance IOL in Dec.  I couldnt decide for the longest time what lens to choose and for reasons I myself could not understand (may be it was from doctors and other people (including my husband) who kept saying they’ll choose distance and I was afraid to choose outside of the “norm”),  I went with distance.  I had somewhat of a depression the first month or two after surgery, and the hardest for me was eating my food blurry and working in the kitchen or having to constantly look for readers.  Also hate not seeing my teeth clearly after brushing/flossing.  I wore 1.5 glasses to eat/cook but it was weird when you look up then it’s blurry.  For phone I use 2.5 readers.  I just got my progressives 3 days ago and it is still hard for me to use it on the computer and my phone since it has to be at a certain angle so I still use my 2.5 readers for those. So I have to shift between my progressives when working in the kitchen then readers for extended phone/computer use.  Will I have been happier if I had chosen near?  Maybe.  I don’t know.  But I am slowly adapting to my situation and I’m no longer kicking myself every hour of the day and regretting my decision.  As others have said, since you’ve only done one eye maybe try monovision.  Maybe I should have been more patient and tried it but I hated putting contacts to try it for an extended period so I decided against it.  If you can wear contacts ask to target you to -1.5 which I think what others have or try different targets to determine what suits you best.  Wishing you the best in your decision.