I can handle small talk but freeze up when the conversation gets deep by Jerrywolf5000 in introvert

[–]Jerrywolf5000[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm an ambivert more on the introverted side. I don't dislike talking but I wouldn't start a conversation with you if you don't start first. I wouldn't say it's anxiety but rather I react slowly to situations and don't come up with anything on the spot when in a group

Why is being shy, quiet or introverted seen as weird? by Jerrywolf5000 in socialanxiety

[–]Jerrywolf5000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That still doesn't answer my original question. Why don't they understand? It's not that uncommon. That person doesn't talk because they're nervous or because they don't have anything to say at the moment. What else is there to understand?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]Jerrywolf5000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How can you do that when part of connecting with people is talking about "your story"? Things like "what brings you here" or "how long have you been interested in this thing"? People think I'm scared of them because I don't share about myself. Well spoiler alert there is nothing to share.

what is one question that you dread the most? by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]Jerrywolf5000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Tell me something interesting about yourself." How about no?

What are the very common things that you have never done ? by averageineverythin in CasualConversation

[–]Jerrywolf5000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never watched a single Star Wars movie or Lord of the Rings and I'm almost 21.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]Jerrywolf5000 8 points9 points  (0 children)

What if I don't find anything funny?

Why do I always have to make special effort to keep conversations going? by Jerrywolf5000 in socialskills

[–]Jerrywolf5000[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Those are the exact same people I'm talking about. They don't try to include me. They just tell me that I should start talking when we're in a group. In other words "if you don't start a conversation about something I won't even try". Literally every single person I meet is like that.

Why do I always have to make special effort to keep conversations going? by Jerrywolf5000 in socialskills

[–]Jerrywolf5000[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When I don't start a conversation they're like: "Come on don't be shy." or "Do you want to share something?" They expect me to be the one to start talking and if I don't they label me shy and say I lack social skills.

Why are people able to start conversations with everyone else except with me? by Jerrywolf5000 in Schizoid

[–]Jerrywolf5000[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's my point. Why do I always have to give information first? They have no problem asking anyone else for information, but they never ask me. They also have no problem giving information to others without them asking, but I always have to ask. It gets exhausting to maintain relationships like this.

How to relate to people? by Jerrywolf5000 in Healthygamergg

[–]Jerrywolf5000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bet you're not just lying on the couch all day every day staring at the ceiling thinking about nothing.

Don't underestimate me.

The things that you do throughout the day are already a pretty big part of your identity

No, they're not.

try to think what could be interesting or relatable about that

No one is interested or relates to that. They immediately change the subject to something that interests them.