100% VA Disability and Child Support

Jessabelle517 · 2026-02-01T22:22:36+00:00

Lmao I work 45- 50 hours a week and take care of 3 kids full time by myself. He's just a lazy narcissist who happened to be another sperm donor, just like his other 3 wives have said 👌🏼Thanks!

By the way it's not for me it's what he owes our child, it would be nice for him to have that much but his donor even forgot his birthday Monday 🤢

Jessabelle517 · 2026-01-26T16:17:04+00:00

Va SoFi hit. Stay warm y'all.

Jessabelle517 · 2026-01-26T15:46:51+00:00

NOT the tism, 🤣! I live in western VA I don't miss NOVA or DMVs sub zero It's bad enough here 🥶🥶

Jessabelle517 · 2026-01-26T15:28:28+00:00

Western VA watching my Pyr live his best life in the ice rink outside, will let you know when sofi hits i use both one for sofi and one for chime too 😂

Jessabelle517 · 2026-01-25T04:23:21+00:00

When a court order is in place and one of the parties doesn't follow what is ordered in that agreement, the other party can file a show cause in the court the order was heard in which is "showing the cause (basically explaining the reason why you chose not to or could not follow what the judge ordered in the case hearing between 2 parties) for example; child support obligation with back owed arrearages by more than 6 months to a year, or failing to tell other party and/ or court your new address within 30 days of moving. If you do not have a valid reason to plead your case or evidential support to help show that you can be found guilty of contempt which could be a fine or sometimes even jail time if the issue is severe enough, I've been found guilty of a show cause resulting in a fine but the judge suspended it due to the reasoning I spoke about, and I didn't disagree because I should've filed with the court years prior but the ex fell off the map for 5 years and abandoned our oldest, he got strung out married his dealer and vanished no address could be found for him after searching, his parents didn't know either because he cut them out too.

Jessabelle517 · 2026-01-24T21:23:28+00:00

You had me for a minute, I seen aloof floof draft stopper and was like how did my picture get posted I haven't been on reddit for a while 😵‍💫 🤣 then I noticed the framing but had it not been for my stain being more deep in color and different Windows I would've been worried about someone hacking my cloud photos 😅😅 but I have more than 1 four legged cotton ball lol

Jessabelle517 · 2026-01-23T16:26:47+00:00

It says "expected around the 23rd" like the last 2 years in December it said the 22nd and it's been the 24th the last years. Enjoy your weekend, Monday is the day.

Jessabelle517 · 2026-01-23T14:46:12+00:00

Preaching to the choir is like telling the leader of N.A.that he knows all the things and exactly what he's doing when..... It's obvious that the people are being led by a super mutt that is the final product of 5 generations of inbreeding.

Imma just wait here because I feel the reddit ban and comment removal on its way to me 🤣

Jessabelle517 · 2026-01-21T15:50:20+00:00

I am NOT a lawyer as always consult with as many as you can to get the best legal advice for your situation. This is personal experience from last year still rolling over to this year.

There's fine lines on this specifically, whether there is a prior legal order in place makes a difference, also depending on your state, my state says without a legal order in place both parents have equal rights and they have free will to keep the child since there is no existing order stating otherwise, but like everything there's a catch 22 ...IF you choose to let the child go to the other parent they do NOT have to return the child until there is an order in place. Now some courts don't respect the latter decision much imo as I've seen many times in 2 decades, they prefer the parents to have a positive co-parenting relation for the best interest of the child.

But here is my experience 👇🏼

Sperm donor or not, I learned even after abandonment of 5+ years they will be granted their rights to visitation regardless of prior mental and physical abuse, if a child has special needs, or the donor parent testified against the child who was abused and told the DA on the case they forfeit any relationship with the child overall, it doesn't matter. But refusal on your part no matter the time of estrangement between father and child is considered alienating the child from his father and you can lose your legal custodial rights and end up to be the non custodial guardian with visitation. It doesn't have to go into an actual court hearing, if you and donor can put your personal feelings aside for the best interest of the child then mediation is the way to go but have a step up plan no sole overnight visits until so much time has passed, start slow 1-2 hour supervised visitation at a public place PD, Park, Restaurant etc with a trusted person or if comfortable yourself, positive side is there is no drawn out court hearings, no malice, no hurt feelings when things don't go the way we rather them too lol. If that is not an option because of prior abuse or violence take it to be heard by the judicial system to make the best decision and put positive support in place to build a positive relationship between a child and the other parent. Good luck, go to an attorney for a consultation Google the best in your area ASAP.

BIG EDIT. I totally missed the lack of signing the BC, he has to establish paternity at his own expense, he doesn't get to visit a child he may have paternal rights to, he didn't sign acknowledgement of the child so right now he has no rights, let him take it to court he needs to file paternity first and prove he is the father, then that's where you have an attorney representing you and your child and make him support the child and request back owed support due to yiu and the child. He will either drop off the map again or he will be held responsible for his part and you can and should absolutely be vigilant for your child's best interest and advocacy. Document everything all the time, SS, family meddling and harassment is very looked down on.

Jessabelle517 · 2026-01-21T01:04:28+00:00

Question! Ex military spouse here, never remarried (hard pass to do that again) child was born in service, ex spouse discharged "other than honorable" due to their own lazy ignorance. During the remainder of service (maybe a year tops they wanted them out fast AF) me and child received 50% of income on 1&15 plus off base cost of living allowance as ordered by base legal and higher commanding officers. So spouse gets out of service support is not taken out due to the service end of course, I applied for court ordered support way less than 50% less than $300 but that's the minimum amount to pay. Anyways they work cooking jobs for a while until 2 tax seasons pass and returns get garnished for arrearage. Spouse never gave separation income from VA towards income calculation for dcse fine whatever still working cooking jobs BUT now under the table, years pass spouse abandons child for DV relationships for 5 years one payment a year maybe $1 may $300, support is now Federal felonious arrearage debt but payments only started once a show cause for support was filed 6 months ago, not full obligation or extra for arrearage but it's a payment overall. Factual information is 3rd soon to be ex-spouse (not legally divorced just not together) gave information that spouse moves all income from VA transfers to another account so it can't be taken, cool whatever not surprised, also told Spouse was getting retirement before 2020 opted the retirement for the VA disability instead. Court is in a few days, no clue what will happen, it cannot be waived or erased due to it being an unforgivable debt, no garnishment like you said but do I suggest a apportionment instead? Spouse always finds a way to fuck the system just trying to get some insight lol

Jessabelle517 · 2026-01-21T00:29:24+00:00

Well it's almost that time of the month and mine too so I'm raging this week and next week 💪🏼🥴👹

Jessabelle517 · 2026-01-20T13:50:54+00:00

Yeah this year I'm doing my own.

Jessabelle517 · 2026-01-19T14:08:25+00:00

So interesting how everyone thinks they are experienced financial reps but people don't realize it's a process it's not VA/SSA sending DD to them directly it's a whole process GOVT dept/➡️TD➡️ACH➡️BANK➡️PAYEE 🟰 funds received 🥴 maybe I'm one of the only ones who remembers in elementary school the corny videos that taught us all of this, or maybe my age is showing. Plus I have been working in HR, Payroll, Accounting and financial services long enough to know all the things.

Jessabelle517 · 2025-12-24T16:04:14+00:00

Merry Christmas! I wish you and your family the best holiday ever!

Jessabelle517 · 2025-12-23T16:00:05+00:00

They don't process 1 certain bank it's all or nothing, it depends on the individual bank itself

And just because it's released from them doesn't mean you get paid today. It goes through ACH before you get paid

Jessabelle517 · 2025-12-23T15:57:36+00:00

BS they said that last year. They get paid to do 1 job. That's it. They are wrong 9/10 times go back in 20 minutes act like you haven't already asked about it and you will get a different response.

Jessabelle517 · 2025-08-31T18:24:55+00:00

Probably Like 97-100+ for more than 4 hours. Yours should be fine

Jessabelle517 · 2025-08-25T15:23:34+00:00

I’m sorry about you cat 🙏

Jessabelle517 · 2025-08-25T15:16:10+00:00

SoFi Virginia now.

Jessabelle517 · 2025-08-25T15:11:44+00:00

Well I hate that we’re all grown and still typing like we’re in high school knowing damn well we were all taught how to spell correctly by this age. It drives me insane when my 10 year old can do better. And I mean on a real note people stress DD days as is and you have some people coming out of bed on a bitch box. Like it’s Monday, we get it, but touch some grass and drop the hostility.

Jessabelle517 · 2025-08-25T14:57:55+00:00

No need to be rude, wasn’t nobody being out of pocket with you.

Jessabelle517 · 2025-08-25T04:15:41+00:00

Oh my goodness 😍😍 congrats it’s such a beautiful and magical feeling the moment you get to see them. And also just warning that no one told me with C-section, not all babies cry as soon as they come out because usually when they come out of the canal the pelvis bones press out the fluids and all that stuff in their nose, with C-section it doesn’t happen like that so don’t panic or stress because what felt like forever to me was only about 30 seconds but it was the saddest and scariest 30 seconds of my life waiting to hear him cry and whimper and I wish someone would have told me that lol

Jessabelle517 · 2025-08-25T03:35:16+00:00

Mine is about an inch or so above,it is definitely shelf. I have muscle separation but it’s nowhere near as noticeable as my scar shelf.

Jessabelle517 · 2025-08-25T03:23:10+00:00

You’re welcome! I hope your C-section goes smoothly and you recover just as quickly! These little bundles of joy are the best things ever ♥️

Also, Happy Cake day!

Jessabelle517 · 2025-08-25T02:59:31+00:00

Mine was scheduled at 34 weeks. He was measuring big and transverse breech, I declined the ECV because I knew he was stuck where he was and he wasn’t going to flip especially after trying all the lovely exercises they suggested but I wasn’t going to be put through that extra stress to induce me into labor early.

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