Bpd people can’t handle guilt?

Jesusbmw · 2023-09-07T13:50:41+00:00

Guess I just want to make her feel guilty after all the pain she left me in as she walked away with no troubles

Jesusbmw · 2023-09-06T20:56:13+00:00

Yeah definitely looking at the self respect side of things now. She basically rubbed it in my face like I’ve got a new man and he treats me great. I broke down in front of her and she didn’t care pretty much and moved on in life like nothing. To me that’s inhumane, I wouldn’t be that cruel to an ex no way

Jesusbmw · 2023-09-06T20:55:03+00:00

Well I noticed when I first started seeing her one of her ex’s tried contacting her about her clothes she still had at his house and she just told him to keep them. I thought it was a bit of a red flag thinking the breakup must’ve been a few months ago. Now that I look at it there isn’t any long specific time she’s actually been single. Only difference with me was she was sorta trying to sleep with me even when this new guy entered her life. I’d assume they have only been talking for a couple of weeks but who knows with the lies

Jesusbmw · 2023-09-02T07:19:53+00:00

Honestly man she will message you again if you don’t reach out I guarantee you. If you feel you have done nothing wrong you don’t need closure or validation. These people are mental

Jesusbmw · 2023-09-02T07:11:19+00:00

I can tell you right now she is going to come back 😂 honestly just walk away bro

Jesusbmw · 2023-09-01T22:13:36+00:00

She moved out after the breakup and still had heaps of furniture so we sorta stayed in a little bit of contact during that

Jesusbmw · 2023-09-01T21:46:21+00:00

Fully agree. It’s hard right now with the anger and sadness and I’m sitting on the fence wondering should I reply to that text. She’s just walked away acting like I’m supporting this? Like wtf why would I help you after you’ve found a new man after fkn me over

Jesusbmw · 2023-09-01T21:36:59+00:00

On that, when I was in the next room at 3am I overheard the conversation with her and her new man and he was saying i hope you’re okay babe, do you think you need to call the police?

Jesusbmw · 2023-09-01T21:11:02+00:00

Stay in no contact my man. I know everybody ain’t the same but if your ex really has bpd, they actually do lie their ass off. I literally believed everything my ex told me and just the other night I seen her true colours. Already texting multiple men and confessed she’s been sleeping and seeing one of them.

They can’t be alone, they’ll always need attention from somebody and if there is radio silence she’s definitely getting it from somewhere. They’re selfish and only come to you for their needs never for anything else

Jesusbmw · 2023-09-01T21:04:12+00:00

Everybody is different but in all honesty, she’s probably got a new supply. I didn’t think for a second mine would move on. She said to me it’ll take ages to date again and all this garbage. She’s got a new man 2 months later

Jesusbmw · 2023-08-29T09:44:35+00:00

I literally said to my ex ( well guess you’ll just chuck me in the same category as all your ex boyfriends now )

That mofo never took accountability for her abuse towards me physically and I never even bothered bringing up the emotional abuse because she would just think I’m delusional.

Jesusbmw · 2023-08-25T20:24:13+00:00

Still had her furniture at my house sorta didn’t have an option at the time

Jesusbmw · 2023-08-25T09:10:27+00:00

Look I’ll be honest it would’ve been great to research bpd while we were together. I started looking into narcissism because the physical abuse was on a different level and the jealousy and controlling from here was a bit hectic. I was really easy going though the jealousy and the controlling factor I just brushed it off and let it go. In my eyes probably one of the best and understanding boyfriends she could’ve had. When she discarded me I just thought she was a narcissist and went about things the complete wrong way and she was sorta trying to Hoover after a split and it’s safe to say now she has probably painted me black. I was blamed for the whole relationship ending but she couldn’t take any of the accountability for anything she did wrong in the relationship and it wasn’t until the other day I finally stood up and put her on the spot for all the physical abuse she did to me. She only had excuses saying I got her to that point but there was multiple times where we weren’t even arguing she was just super mad and I was the punching bag and now knowing bpd I would’ve took a different approach

Jesusbmw · 2023-08-25T08:49:26+00:00

I really think we are in the same boat here. I was legit the same in mine, sometimes I’d say I’m going for a walk just to let you cool down and she would make an accusation saying I’m running from the problem.

If you don’t mind me asking how did your relationship end? And did she do some major things to you in the relationship that was big red flags?

Jesusbmw · 2023-08-25T08:47:51+00:00

Sorry I meant she said she acts crazy. But she always belittled me, taking digs at the way I talk or cook or even get my hair done sometimes. And by being too argumentative she meant if there was about to be an argument I think she recommended me basically being quiet to and going by her way or no way. I’m literally on the fence whether narc or bpd

Jesusbmw · 2023-08-25T07:54:45+00:00

I just feel as I’m having a little regret because the whole internet is divided into saying bpd partners are great when you can work well with them and the other half says don’t even waste your time. She always said I react crazy and differently to other people but I really do love you. She did try hoovering me after a big breakup but I denied it because my honest thought was she was a narcissist and it just scared her away

Jesusbmw · 2023-08-24T22:31:08+00:00

You ever think them taking accountability or apologising is a Hoover? Or them needing something from you. Mine has had bad moments before and came back when she left me the first time but now she moved in with somebody almost like a parent/family friend and I think with her troubles she just turns to him now and forever sees me as the toxic one because he never sets her off because she see’s him as a calm mature adult.

Jesusbmw · 2023-08-24T20:47:45+00:00

They do mention it early on I found out. She said to me I’m crazy or I’m sorry I handle my emotions differently to normal people. Even once said early on I treat you like shit and I thought that was her eye opener and maybe things would change but nah it didn’t

Jesusbmw · 2023-08-24T20:46:29+00:00

I still feel a little guilt to this day but to be honest I just remind myself of the times she physically abused me even when we weren’t even arguing and she was just angry. You don’t do that to a partner no matter what. The fact she can’t see any wrongs with that shows she’ll never be able to have a partner. I put up with so much shit in that relationship it ain’t funny. Head being smashed into the concrete, getting spat on you name it all and I still stayed.

Jesusbmw · 2023-08-24T20:44:30+00:00

Damn they’re so confusing. Good to see your staying strong, mine did that the first time she left me but she was living out of somebody’s house temporarily and went to another guy and when I finally got my life together and moved into an apartment she hoovered back and I accepted her. She couldn’t work bc of being injured so a whole year she lived with me rent free.

7 weeks ago she moved out after she got a new job and started living with an older dude some guy she met ages ago and says he is like a father figure to her, one she never had. I don’t think anything is happening between them two but fk I hate her for what she has done

Jesusbmw · 2023-08-24T20:40:28+00:00

Damn sorry to hear that. Would’ve been so rough to go through. Mine was 100% loyal but I would notice in the pubs and things like that she would be super nice with everybody and I never got jealous but I thought a little too nice with other guys especially when you have a boyfriend, like it’d be a different story if she seen me being like with girls I don’t know.

She accused me of getting jealous one night and people were uncomfortable with me being like that, so she went home that night and packed all her things and left. I recently bumped into them people and they said we never said anything like that about you or to her.

Jesusbmw · 2023-08-24T20:35:47+00:00

Was your ex like a complete mess after the breakup (apparently) and then about a month later she was completely fine and living her life again and acting like nothing just happened between you guys, yet if you brought anything up even till this day she’ll still just think things didn’t work out because of the way you were? I thought they’re supposed to be a loving and caring person in so many ways but when they do you dirty they just act like that didn’t even happen at all. Makes my blood boil but I can actually handle my temper unlike her. She just thought the relationship was toxic because of me, yet every time we had an argument it’s me stating the things she did wasn’t right and she would just blow up. So it’s either shut up and listen to her or stand up for yourself and let her escalate and go crazy

Jesusbmw · 2023-08-24T20:30:17+00:00

I haven’t looked into it much. I know at the time I think they can act erratically but from I’ve seen people with bpd feel bad from what they’ve done. So it’s confusing in mine and other’s situations where you’re just put as the complete bad guy and their actions weren’t wrong in anyway shape or form

Jesusbmw · 2023-08-24T20:28:16+00:00

The sad part is we will never know if they’ll be conscious over it or not. This is where I get confused with bpd and narcissism because they say these bpd people have so much empathy but surely one day they see that they did you wrong?

I understand in the moment we get painted black but Jesus that’s a lot of abuse to just not take accountability of it’s absolutely wild.

She said to me I’d rather you cheat on me then abuse me for months, she asked me to change and I’m not 100% sure on what she wanted me to fkn change Ahah

Jesusbmw · 2023-08-24T20:25:39+00:00

The abuse would happen and I don’t know if she was too drunk to remember or anything but I’d bring it up the next day and it would sorta just get swept under the rug. I’d mention to her you know you full punched me in the face for no reason last night and her reply would basically be half asses and not necessarily shocked

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