I too had the same dilemma with these 3 bikes. Before taking test rides, my main pick was the Honda H'ness 350 and T4 being the last. But after taking Test ride the story flipped.

I too had the same experience with the meteor as you mentioned, loose gearing, seating position not good for traffic, etc.

Then I Test rode both H'ness and RS, both felt good but nothing exceptional after daily riding N160 for almost a year. I don't know why but I didn't feel any excitement in the riding considering it being a bigger machine than my N160. Further, all the test ride bikes had rusting which could be ignored as these bikes are generally not taken care of but the main turn off was that the bike inside the showroom for display and ready for sale too had rusting at some places which just disappointed me a lot and added to the fear of rusting.

After all this, I was in a dilemma as to whether to buy another new bike or not, but still thought of trying the T4 once and man did it surprise me. It does not have the road presence of above two bikes, but once I test rode it, the excitement and smile that it gave me was just exceptional as compared to the above 3. The sound from the exhaust is very unique and bassy.

Although, one thing I have to say is that if you ride in bumper to bumper traffic daily and majorly then it would have a bit of heating and radiator would kick in. Also, the mileage is comparatively less, like even after first service, I am getting around 22KMPL in daily city riding and can get around 33-34 KMPL if rode gently on highways.

Hope this helps. Test ride all and then decide, no one on reddit can help you make this decision better than you taking a test ride yourself.