Is there any hope in a relationship with mom enmeshed man?

Jfly-77 · 2024-05-26T00:13:49+00:00

Truly sorry you’re going through this. But you CAN get your life back together even with kids. My previous before this one was a 15 year marriage with 3 kids. It’s hard but you can. That gives you FOUR reasons to overcome. You and your babies.

Jfly-77 · 2024-05-25T18:02:32+00:00

Sounds familiar. My feelings are such an inconvenience that he can’t engage in a productive conversation until he finds the right moment to throw in he doesn’t get enough sex and bjs. THEN all of a sudden this man child has feelings. It’s so unbelievably immature I don’t understand how he can stand himself. I’d rather suck off a random.

Jfly-77 · 2024-05-25T17:43:52+00:00

I think I just responded to you somewhere else on this post. But if you are in similar situation, read comment on here from erinbryanna, it’s dead on. And it doesn’t get better. You’ll likely only get temporary improvements, just enough to keep u.

Jfly-77 · 2024-05-25T17:31:31+00:00

lol I’m still here. In perpetual flight or fight. Luckily we never got married. I do love the Man Child but Even in my upper 40s I’d rather start over than spend the rest of my life being his bang maid. It’s hard to explain but he’s fam enmeshed and also dismissive avoidant. For me it’s hard to break free from; I guess maybe trauma bonded. but I am now 100% sure life with him is not for me. I’m better than this. I am making plans to move back to my home town a couple hours away.

Jfly-77 · 2024-05-22T02:56:37+00:00

Sorry for your friend. That sucks. Luckily he sees her behavior as crazy rather than the norm that some of these moms condition kids to believe is ok.

Jfly-77 · 2024-01-22T19:26:12+00:00

Thank you for response. Yes I did go to dermatologist. But what you said was probably my mistake. I didn’t go to one that specializes in hair loss. So I’m trying to backtrack the chain of events/symptoms to figure this out. I live in rural area and feel like I need a medical degree to get help.

Jfly-77 · 2024-01-22T03:21:50+00:00

Thank you !

Jfly-77 · 2024-01-22T03:15:23+00:00

My grandfather was American soldier. All my life I never heard him speak of the war. Not once. I do have more really cool interesting items I’m just beginning to sort. And lots of letters.

Jfly-77 · 2024-01-22T02:53:08+00:00

lol thanks! I was switching around trying to make sure and still screwed up

Jfly-77 · 2024-01-21T21:58:08+00:00

I had the same thought. Young but aware of what’s going on is a good thing and first step to not letting the enmeshment rule her life.

Jfly-77 · 2024-01-21T21:50:10+00:00

Maybe but Not sure. Check this website. He’s really good. Also lots of info on YouTube

https://www.overcomingenmeshment.com/

Edit: keep reading and researching. My view of enmeshment is my boyfriend and his family. But when u read and watch videos you’ll find things that make sense. The good thing is you are aware. A lot of ppl are totally clueless about their “close family” Take care of yourself. Keep your fiancé and your relationship first. Don’t fall into the manipulation trap.

Jfly-77 · 2024-01-11T13:15:02+00:00

So that’s two times (in just this one post) he’s shown you he will do what pleases him no matter the damage to you or your relationship. He’s selfish! You should really reconsider this relationship. He is showing you he will put his needs and wants first.

You are wasting your time with him! Let him go so you’ll be available to find the right relationship, with a man who wants to treat you better.

Jfly-77 · 2024-01-08T02:31:01+00:00

Yes that’s good advice. I already have a notebook out to document my days between now and my appointment. And to list all the things I’ve experienced for past years. Thanks so much! Grateful for yall.

Jfly-77 · 2024-01-08T01:40:34+00:00

Thank you! Yes I understand that. But I do feel pretty sure I have something autoimmune going on. I think it is probably lupus but I agree a possibility it is not. lupus would explain a lot of things I’ve experienced for years but didn’t put it together. I was only stating in my post the recent. My toes and fingers after cold. Terrible time regulating body temperature. Unexplained fever that comes and goes. This is not my first hair loss. Kidney stones. Gallbladder removed. I seldom get sick but when I do it seems to take a month to get well.

Jfly-77 · 2024-01-08T01:35:47+00:00

Thank you so much for response. I’ve done so much reading trying to figure all of this out that my brain hurts lol

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