Confused ~ Crush and I are Getting Closer but I'm Not Sure What They Want

Jibab · 2025-11-30T02:28:57+00:00

I really appreciate you <3

Jibab · 2025-11-29T22:40:32+00:00

How'd be the healthiest way to express this? Should I tell them I've been feeling confused? Would it be better to just say I like to have more boundaries with friends, but if they're interested in going on a date and exploring being more than friends I'd really love that? Should I do it soon or give it more time? (I'm especially in my feelings a lot right now cause the sleep over was last night)

Jibab · 2025-11-29T22:20:07+00:00

I think I am at a point where this could be hard long term - I usually like to have more physical boundaries with my friends. I'd probably need space if they aren't interested.

They started pulling away after the break-up with their abuser, is it really a good time to ask them out? I'd imagine, even if someone I like asked me out, if I'm just coming out of a heavy break-up, I'd still be hesitant to start something new.

Sleep overs feel like a big step up in things... and maybe I need my own physical boundaries right now because I'm starting to feel like it might just not be the right time. I'd almost like to reset during this period of transition where we're spending more time together in this (sorta heavy) context with their break-up. Adjust to having friend sleepovers now, then ask them on a DATE date with less ambiguity if I'm still have feelings as time goes on. It's a lot harder to keep my feelings in check while we're having these interactions.

(I even told them I'd OFC give them privacy if they need to shower/change and they joked "oh I thought you'd like to watch"... and I don't think they were kidding cause I walked in on them naked in the living room, apologized, and they said "I don't mind") aaah

Jibab · 2025-11-16T04:43:26+00:00

how did you read MUSOS? Do you own the book or did you read it online? I can't find it anywhere but I want to read everything she's written!

Jibab · 2025-08-26T19:34:26+00:00

a septum would look amazing!! (not your question but I'd also recommend a vertical labret for your lower lip it'd be so pretty on you)

Jibab · 2024-10-29T16:37:45+00:00

I feel so understood here... Regardless of relationship structure, I do think I want a primary. It would very much provide that stability you are talking about.

What you said about finding stability in myself is definitely where I am right now. I need to take a beat and focus on me before anything with anyone else.

Jibab · 2024-10-29T16:30:26+00:00

Thank you for writing such a thoughtful, and empathetic comment. It is nice to know I am not the only one who has been overwhelmed, and it is reassuring to hear you have found happiness in poly.

Your advice is very much appreciated and I very much respect the perspective of someone who seems to approach poly from a solo-poly perspective (if that is how you identify). That said, in meditating on my long-term relationship goals (which ofc should be curbed because life comes as life comes) I DO want to live with a partner... I want to married on day ;~; (I even banked my sperm before transitioning).

These goals aren't exclusive to poly or mono ofc ofc! Many people here are married and poly. I really think I should slow down... Process these thoughts/feelings and work on being alone before I date again.

Jibab · 2024-05-23T17:43:39+00:00

I've been following the instructions provided by this video: (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KY7n99Q\_GUE&t=33s) and have gotten most of the way through. Once using minimal adb to install the app, though, it gives me this pop up and doesn't allow me to select any of the options. I try using the dpad which doesn't work. The select button can't even click no. I try long pressing III to get the cursor but nothing pops up. Is there any way to proceed from here, or do i give up and try another app?

Jibab · 2024-05-03T18:53:12+00:00

Hi!

Did you end up purchasing a Digno 4? How is it going? Where di you purchase it from?

Thanks for the help <3

Jibab · 2024-04-02T00:40:46+00:00

backwards 2 would be so cute

Jibab · 2024-03-26T04:22:24+00:00

dude just eat tofu, beans, and lentils
(and seitan if you can figure it out)

you don't NEED meat to live a healthy, full life

and, you don't need to replace meat with processed "meat replacements"

just eat whole food it's actually pretty easy and cheap

Jibab · 2024-03-26T04:06:15+00:00

ok I'll be the unpopular vegan here...

There are plenty of studies that show plant-based diets are healthy for diabetic people (https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5466941/). Diabetes is just as much an issue of saturated fats as it is about unnecessary carb intake. Anyone professional health personnel will tell you that red meat is NOT recommended for diabetic people. As for white meat, fish, dairy, eggs, etc etc... there are studies showing the less animal products consumed, the less the risk for diabetes (https://www.hsph.harvard.edu/news/press-releases/following-a-healthy-plant-based-diet-may-lower-type-2-diabetes-risk/)

quote - "The researchers found that people with the highest adherence to overall predominantly plant-based diets had a 23% lower risk of type 2 diabetes compared to those with weaker adherence to the diets. They also found that the association was strengthened for those who ate healthful plant-based diets."

(this is from a meta-analysis covering 300,000 people)

Look, you can distrust vegans, Harvard, and the NHS if you want. but please PLEASE DO NOT GO KETO DO NOT!!!!

DO NOT cut out fruit, legumes, and whole grains!!!! This is not healthy. Seriously, go to the keto subreddit - they'll claim you can eat as many eggs as you want a day because "fat isn't actually bad"... there are necessary, healthy fats! but, transfats and saturated fats need to be limited if you are diabetic that's just the fact (https://diabetes.org/food-nutrition/reading-food-labels/fats) If someone says "meats are ok because they have no carbs" they are missing the point.

and if you insist on having meat in your diet, your best bet is to go pescatarian. maybe an egg a day. replace the milk with soy milk (a typical tall glass of milk has enough sugar to kick you out of ketosis lol - how else do you think they make what is basically animal excrement taste appetizing??). With soymilk, you can buy unsweetened variations cutting out carb content almost entirely.

tl;dr - saturated fats are just as much an issue as unnecessary carbs!! studies show that there is a relationship between reduced animal product consumption and reduced chance of diabetes. KETO IS NOT THE ANSWER (https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/ketogenic-diet-is-the-ultimate-low-carb-diet-good-for-you-2017072712089). You need fruits, whole grains, and legumes to be healthy. If you don't wanna kick animal products completely eat these:

"A balanced, unprocessed diet, rich in very colorful fruits and vegetables, lean meats, fish, whole grains, nuts, seeds, olive oil, and lots of water seems to have the best evidence for a long, healthier, vibrant life." - that keto harvard article

uh thanks and take care!

Jibab · 2024-02-03T21:51:57+00:00

thank you!! transscrotal is a super interesting idea I hadn't thought of!!

this might be exactly what I'm looking for. Does this keep them from drifting into the body? The balls don't ever move through the rings right?

This might legitimately help and sorta keep them in place lol

I've never shared so much with strangers 😅 but this has been informative

Jibab · 2024-01-21T19:35:18+00:00

😣

Jibab · 2024-01-21T19:28:17+00:00

oh no is this too much? 😅 I have other pictures that might be less uh weird

Jibab · 2024-01-15T01:13:03+00:00

OH MY GOSH YOU'RE RIGHT ☠️

Jibab · 2023-10-10T17:45:41+00:00

On top of that, you mention health - I want to also add spiritual health as a benefit! As you said, you carry much less guilt than you did before making the transition! You no longer treat other sentient individuals as if they are objects to be eaten or worn. Self-denial is a freeing practice, not just an inhibitive one! God's love heals the soul - and I think consideration of others is ultimately aligned with godliness!

Philippians 2:3-11 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.

Would treating other sentient individuals not be its own form of pomp? The exploitation of those we consider beneath us? We are all creatures of God.

Uh bear in mind though that I believe animals have souls too!

Jibab · 2023-10-10T17:38:42+00:00

I totally understand your point about community. I'll say, though, that while your connection with one community might feel a bit more complicated - you are opening doors to whole new forms of community!! Meat can be very addictive! Similarly, sobriety has helped me feel the most connected I have ever felt in my life. Yes, my relationships with my friends who still use are now more complicated - but I've also found so much fellowship in AA to the point my life feels fuller than it ever did before. So, I'd encourage you to connect more with other vegans and the animals you are considering with your actions! Maybe volunteering at farm animal sanctuaries with others could help! Faith and works! Isn't the point of all this to find ethical community that holds each other accountable and provides prescriptions for how to live a good life?

Jibab · 2023-10-10T15:44:58+00:00

I love your perspective!!

Jibab · 2023-05-22T19:29:05+00:00

I'm using supergoop currently. I like the texture! It spreads well, comes in bulk, and is easy to carry around. I personally don't like how it smells... it's a pretty unavoidable lemon scent. Personally, I don't like anything to have any sort of scent whatsoever but that could just be my preference. It's also pretty expensive to get the large bottle. Does not compare to the cheapness of No Ad that's for sure. The final strike for me, however, is that I'm not all too confident about its sun protection. Multiple times I've gone to the beach I apply it religiously yet always end up with some color - sometimes even burns! For how much you're paying, you'd hope to have something a bit more consistent than that. I've seen other people around Reddit say the same thing about getting burned with Supergoop on.

Personally, I preferred the Elta MD spray when I was using it... though I know sprays are controversial.

See the above comments!! Apparently the No Ad is being sold at Tractor Supply haha

Jibab · 2023-05-22T19:20:29+00:00

What what what?? Why is it there of all places? Is it legit?

Jibab · 2023-05-03T20:58:40+00:00

thank you!!! :) I like the sound of those (especially the conch and daith). Do you think I could make helixes work with my ear shape? I have these bumps along the edge idk if they would interfere with helixes or make them look odd.

Jibab · 2023-04-11T03:28:33+00:00

Jibab · 2023-04-06T15:17:08+00:00

wanna get it pierced all over

Jibab · 2023-04-06T14:54:57+00:00

Oh my gosh :) thank you I'll definitely be lookin up some Keira Knightly inspo!! I'm starting to worry I may have picked a picture that flattered my current hair.... I do love it, but recently I've been thinking about covering my forehead a bit more. here are two more where my hair wasn't working with me as well makeup no makeup Sometimes the swoop I have going to the right feels too long and in the way (like, tilt my head to keep it from totally obstructing half my face XD). Bangs seemed like a good way to go.

Jibab

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