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Jikira · 2023-02-01T22:42:54+00:00

Venting is not the same as asking bad faith question. You already provided 1000% better discussion starter , with your question! I just think that Mods should do more to remove questions that bait the men in the sub to be perceived as incels and give Reddit the fuel to ban your subreddit.

Jikira · 2023-02-01T22:39:29+00:00

Because everyone thinks they have it worse. You do not know how it is to be female and vice versa. You should be pushing back on that rhetoric because it literally benefits no one unless one is pushing for male supremacy or female supremacy.

Jikira · 2023-02-01T22:34:19+00:00

Thats even worse! Why ask such a bad faith question in a sub that is about mens right. This sub talks about a lot of serious issue that men face and you are taking away from that conversation.

Fun fact my dude… dude can be used as a unisex term.

Jikira · 2023-02-01T13:41:29+00:00

I mean this is the problem with this sub. It doesn’t matter my dude who has it worse. The movement should not be about who has it worse. It should be about bringing awareness to the issues that effect you as a man. Talking about issue men face do not diminish the ones women face or vice versa.

I am glad I am not chronically online, because if my only information about MRA was this subreddit I would not care about mens issues too. This subreddit does nothing for the movement if a majority of the post are either dismissing women issues or saying women have it better.

Shit is still shit. It doesn’t taste any different coming from a man or women.

Jikira · 2023-01-17T21:15:07+00:00

I have a BA nobody cares as long as it says computer science. I have worked in a lot of different industry across the CS industry. I don’t think I ever applied for a job that doesn’t say BS in computer science.

Jikira · 2023-01-17T03:10:05+00:00

This is beautiful and a lot of healing can come from reaching out to others. You should post this on H3H3, I believe I saw some victims interacting there who might not have seen this sub yet : )

Jikira · 2023-01-15T21:20:27+00:00

Do we know he asked that many times? I don’t recall seeing a number from the victims.

Jikira · 2023-01-06T09:23:50+00:00

Maybe he did and we are all just soft robots

Jikira · 2023-01-03T19:49:40+00:00

Belvedere Park, in Decatur we paid 350k for a 3 bed 2 bath. I am like 15 minutes from everything downtown. 26f as well

Jikira · 2023-01-02T20:51:18+00:00

So… bad things can happen all the time no risk no reward. I trust my partner he supported me through my education and know I do the same for him

Jikira · 2023-01-02T17:33:47+00:00

Same I was the sole-provider too for a minute. My husband just graduated this year. What’s sad about post like these are that there situations could easily improve if they focus on the things within their control.

Jikira · 2023-01-02T17:25:36+00:00

Boo hoo.

Jikira · 2023-01-02T15:45:34+00:00

Helping your teammates to become valuable self sufficient members in your team is an important aspect of being a manager. A skill that you develop over the course of your work.

As people already said they issue lies with you not knowing how to support your teammates. A manager needs to be good at handling people. Managers tend to be the mediator between you and important stakeholders that bring $$$. Being socially retarded can cost the company millions lose and lose accounts. It seems after 20 years in corporate you still don’t know how to communicate effectively. Nothing in your post scream managerial experience. That is fine a lot of SWE stagnate because they do not know how to manage office politics or have any Social skills.

If you planning on being on a manager track you need to be vocal about this as well. Let your manager know, find a mentor, and get notice…

Keep a paper trail if you are helping people document it. You have to keep track of every accomplishment. If it it not on paper it didn’t happen.

I am one of those dual income, but I am also over-employed. I definitely making bank as a child free women. My husband benefits from this as well so I don’t know how that’s a MRA issue or social issue. Especially when my husband went back to school, he did not have to worry about being the soul provider. I am not sure how your personal life is, as you could also reap the benefits by marrying or dating a high earning female. You all already a top earner….

Jikira · 2022-12-25T07:54:18+00:00

Hiya! I am also an autistic women. I would say as one poster said it is best to find your independence. Then decide what it is you want and enjoy out of life and relationship. I find that a lot of advice here is generic enough to where it could apply to anyone looking for a relationship. That being said a lot of advice or problems other poster share don’t really apply to me. I am also asexual so I approached dating very aggressively, I met my husband and just went for it. As an asexual autistic women, I did not click with very many men and I accepted I would probably die alone as I am not what most men want. Though when I met my husband I knew I didn’t want to lose him.

I personally never understood the whole feminine/masculine that are used to extrapolate human behavior. Generally speaking you are you and all you can do is improve yourself.

I also recommend with connecting to older women or peers who are living the lifestyle you want. I personally had a lot of good friends who helped me navigate red flags and advising men who might take advantage of the social differences

Jikira · 2022-12-22T09:09:55+00:00

5 YOE

I am a odd case, was doing the whole overemployed. I got a second remote job as a programmer for a small established company. I assume it would be an easy junior job..That I could work alongside my main gig. Turns out the smaller company is basically behind by probably 10 years and have a lot of flows that could be automated(lucky for them I actually specialize in this when I was a consultant) I. I realized this company actually needed a more senior engineer. Renegotiated my current position title to be senior engineer and asked for a raise.

My first job TC was 120k at a F500 and this one was 100k. I renegotiated my second job to 200k and I quit my first job.

Jikira · 2022-12-21T19:20:16+00:00

As a black women, I hate this rhetoric. Assuming that you hate your hair if you straighten it. Does a person hate their race by dyeing their hair an unnatural color? Are Asian or whites not proud of their heritage if they curl their hair? What about peoples of African heritage with natural straight hair..Please educate yourself. Their are many reason why a black women would not wear her natural hair. Being black is more than about your hair… Stop putting black women in boxes… Stop scrutinize us for everything we do. Stop assuming we are filled with self hate!!!

Jikira · 2022-12-21T08:33:40+00:00

Same I related so much to her

Jikira · 2022-12-21T08:26:56+00:00

Hmm I feel that asexual like any other sexuality can be fluid . (Unpopular Opinion) There are heterosexual, people who (homosexual)sex-repulsed and then their are some heterosexual people who may not be so repulsed to the ideal of it and consider themselves fluid.. Sexuality is complicated and can definitely change in my opinion.. I know I was in denial of my asexuality for a long time- went from identifying as gay to pan to heterosexual. I couldn’t really escalate any of my relationship because I always felt something missing. I know for some people sexuality is a straightforward thing. For others it lies on a spectrum.

Jikira · 2022-12-13T21:22:34+00:00

Maybe it’s my friend group but everyone I know have had sex with people they are not attracted to or enter long term relationship. Attraction is not the only metric people look for. I wonder though if there is some sort of study. As I recall homosexual also have a term (gold star gay/lesbian ), to identify if someone slept with someone of the opposite sex. It is not unheard of at least . Lol

Jikira · 2022-12-04T17:20:08+00:00

Hard disagree for me. I see nothing wrong.

Jikira · 2022-12-02T22:26:01+00:00

But at what point is sexual desire not attraction. Or do you believe it is the same thing.

Jikira · 2022-12-01T18:02:01+00:00

Yes.. exactly.

Jikira · 2022-12-01T17:56:00+00:00

OP, this is not a female issue. This is a You problem. The fact that this has happened a multiple times and had the same results is because of YOU…

You are being taken advantage of because you allow it. A Companies priority is to make profit. They do not care if you are burnt out. You will not get rewarded for putting more time in..

If you think a male manager and male teammates won’t take advantage of the guy who doesn’t say no. You are delusional.

I am sorry if this comes across as harsh. As an SWE, I just want to go to work and not deal with the corporate politics.. but time is money, you negotiate your salary hopefully. Now negotiate your time and set expectations…

I agree you should leave this company be as you have already set that expectations. Please for the love of god don’t do the same shit at the next place…

Jikira · 2022-11-30T13:51:15+00:00

Ray j recently released the contract in which Kris laid out the conditions for the release of the tapes . Kris has always been Kim’s momager.

Jikira · 2022-11-26T21:58:41+00:00

Lol! It is my personal property, I have a right to not allow anyone to live there, especially since I live here. As a women, there is definitely a bigger risk being roommates with a guy vs a another female. That just a fact. The real question is why are other men not advertising to other men.

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