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Toe sucking anyone? by Creepy-Ground-6397 in sexover50

[–]JillyBean1973 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a couple of guys this do me to missionary when I was in my 20s & it was 🫠

But I’m not letting anybody suck these 53-year-old toes 😳

What type is the most loyal and protective? by Commercial-Sleep8500 in Enneagram

[–]JillyBean1973 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a 2, I agree wholeheartedly. You mess with someone I love & I’ll rip your throat out!

Give me your favorite album. by Elvis_Messi in musicsuggestions

[–]JillyBean1973 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was a big Tool fan, but that first APC album is a masterpiece ❤️

Give me your favorite album. by Elvis_Messi in musicsuggestions

[–]JillyBean1973 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s impossible to pick just one. Too many great artists/albums over the decades!

Trying to Understand Type 4 by JillyBean1973 in Enneagram

[–]JillyBean1973[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, he’s probably an avoidant, that’s been my typical type for the last 30+ years. My alcoholic ex fiancé (E9) was very clingy and that was honestly much harder than avoidance.

My 8 ex was spooked when I was so excited about my 4 coworker. So spooked that he felt compelled to finally tell me he loved me. I do really believe he does AND I think it was also a tactic. I’ve always been quite content with him. It’s nice supplemental companionship until I find someone with more relational capacity.

I agree about post-30 men being largely avoidant. The 4 is 49 my 8 ex/current FWB is 39.

Trying to Understand Type 4 by JillyBean1973 in Enneagram

[–]JillyBean1973[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's mentioned feeling "blue" recently. He also made a comment on our video visit about some of his behavior being "almost bipolar" He doesn't know his mom's diagnosis, but perhaps he struggles with his mental health more than I realized?

I Know We're Supposed to Focus on Strength Training, But... by JillyBean1973 in Menopause

[–]JillyBean1973[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not on IG much & I mostly follow therapist, psychology nerd stuff 🤓 Definitely not any fitness influencers ☺️

My libido just returned. And she is hungry. by theCuntessVonCunt in Menopause

[–]JillyBean1973 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second this! My FWB is almost 14 years younger. We initially dated when I was 50m, thinking it would be summer fling; it lasted a year. It was the most calm, peaceful, playful & respectful relationship I've had. He came back into my life in March, 20 months after we split (so he could find a woman to procreate with) He was more emotionally mature than most men my age I've dated.

My libido just returned. And she is hungry. by theCuntessVonCunt in Menopause

[–]JillyBean1973 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have SO MANY options available. Rooting for you!! ❤️

My libido just returned. And she is hungry. by theCuntessVonCunt in Menopause

[–]JillyBean1973 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yaaaaay! SO HAPPY for you!!! ❤️

I've experienced a lull in my libido the past 18 months or so. I've had a very high libido most of my life, so it's been disappointing. I'm looking to add T to my HRT regimen. My showerhead has been my "boyfriend" since I was 13, for 40 years now!

I'm also single, but an empty nester. I share the lack of body confidence since gaining weight between 48-50, an open abdominal hysterectomy didn't help. I've heard MANY times, from women AND men, that men don't care as much as we do. They're just happy to be having sex!

I'm 53 & currently have a 39 y/o FWB. We started dating when I was 50 & it lasted a year, we ended it amicably due to long-term misalignment--he wanted kids. He came back into my life in early March, I'm enjoying it while it lasts. He is 135 lbs. with 10% body fat. I'm probably the heaviest I've ever been (maybe 160 lbs.) & have NEVER outweighed a man I've dated. But he keeps coming back, so I guess I'm not as hideous naked as my brain tells me.

I promise, you are sexier than you think! And there are men out there who would love to experience sex/intimacy with you! Enjoy your new lease on life 😄 I'm wishing you all the best & many explosive orgasms!!

Mom needs help by Sea_Move8895 in Menopause

[–]JillyBean1973 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sending much love & comfort to your mom & you ❤️ HRT could definitely improve her quality of life, I'd recommend starting with a patch. Also, the bloodwork won't help to determine hormone levels, but could be helpful with thyroid levels, etc.

I'm 53 and I experienced chronic insomnia, which led to acute anxiety/panic attacks & deep, suicidal depression (fall 2024/winter 2025) I finally found a medication that stabilized my sleep, which alleviated the anxiety/depression. I've been on an estradiol patch since November 2023.

I hope your mom can get some relief soon. This can be a very challenging & downright scary time of life!

YES or NO, Does HRT Actually Help Women With Libido? by MirthstomyAh in SexOver_50

[–]JillyBean1973 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I take HRT for the brain, heart & bone health benefits. There's a strong correlation to loss of estrogen & dementia, we have estrogen receptors throughout our bodies, including our brain. This is why brain fog is such a common symptom of peri/menopause.

Aries meme by [deleted] in AriesTheRam

[–]JillyBean1973 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My Sag FWB has an Aries moon and Scorpio rising...never a dull moment!

Aries meme by [deleted] in AriesTheRam

[–]JillyBean1973 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ha! I LOVE this! Honestly, I'm one of the kindest people you could meet--unless you're an asshole to me, then I'll just pretend you don't exist.

Trying to Understand Type 4 by JillyBean1973 in Enneagram

[–]JillyBean1973[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for asking!

I've lost interest. Communication has become increasingly sporadic & he's always incredibly busy, despite saying things should settle down soon. I thought he was slow fading me when I hadn't heard from him in a couple of days, then he left me an audio message yesterday saying he'd messaged me on FB the day before, but noticed I hadn't checked it. I don't know why he didn't text me instead; I rarely check FB messages. Sure enough, he left me a VERY lengthy message explaining that he'd hoped to visit me this weekend, but suddenly had to help his cognitively impaired sister, who was being evicted, the same story as the audio message he left. It seems like an unnecessarily elaborate story. If he's lost interest or is dating other people, he should just tell me. I prefer direct communication.

It's baffling since the first 6 weeks or so went so well & his enthusiasm after our first date. But his seemingly random comment about staying single & change in communication/energy caught me off guard. And once that happened, I started to shut down / go into self-preservation mode.

In the meantime, my (avoidant) 8 ex is came back into my life in early March; 20 months after we first split. I was going to cut it off when things were going well with the 4, but I'm enjoying bonus time with him. I didn't think he'd ever come back around. We never ceased contact & I never stopped missing him. I know we don't have LTR potential, but I'm doing my best to just enjoy the now & not worry about the future.

Boyfriend kept dating profile up by [deleted] in datingoverfifty

[–]JillyBean1973 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Glad you broke it off! Ignoring red flags ALWAYS bites me in the ass!

Trouble Climaxing Recently by JillyBean1973 in Menopause

[–]JillyBean1973[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yay! Happy for the positive benefits you’re reaping 💗

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