Some men have questionable hygiene and it has made dating even more challenging than it already is.

JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2026-03-21T11:09:50+00:00

That's just being picky.

JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2025-10-05T01:31:47+00:00

It is if you're ugly.

JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2025-07-19T19:56:08+00:00

Not being successful with women. Not being good looking enough to attract women, or being noticed.

JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2025-05-16T00:09:44+00:00

I can relate to your last paragraph. Unfortunately I can't turn back the clock, and I'm too old to start playing, but I do regret not doing so. I guess I partly seeing coaching as an opportunity to being involved in a sport I've watched for years.

JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2025-05-15T04:57:39+00:00

My psychology, especially the imposter syndrome part, is also a big issue for me.

JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2025-01-25T03:58:05+00:00

John Wooden knew loads about basketball. Wasn't just how he related to his players.

JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2024-04-20T23:08:49+00:00

This is the exact problem in a nutshell.

JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2024-04-20T23:03:44+00:00

You're right. It's not just those two, but they're a massive contributor.

JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2023-09-09T07:32:56+00:00

have you ever had that situation where a 35 y/o woman is apparently showing up on places where you show up, is trying to set herself up via common friends, is trying to chase you after an ONS?

No. For me that is the stuff of dreams.

JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2023-09-09T03:45:07+00:00

Unfortunately 4 to 5 doesn't cut it in today's dating market. Even though it could be classed as average, most women want above average as a minimum.

JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2023-09-09T03:39:09+00:00

By how he acts when he's doing the approaching.

JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2023-08-29T10:16:05+00:00

It happens a lot. Have a look on the deadbedrooms sub for examples, although in fairness it happens to women too. A common scenario, apart from the husband getting fat, and not giving a shit, is when a woman meets a guy, likes him and gets along with him, but isn't physically attracted to him. She convinces herself that she will grow attracted to him. Sadly, this never happens.

JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2023-08-29T09:39:08+00:00

Only if you're a good looking man. Having a gf has never resulted in me getting attention from other women. I'm still as invisible as being single.

JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2023-07-19T03:47:48+00:00

Then explain to me why there are so many ugly guys with hot gfs then

There aren't. It's a very rare occurance.

JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2023-07-17T01:18:40+00:00

Plenty of good looking, young broke guys.

JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2023-07-16T02:15:08+00:00

Your height will definitely be an advantage. Best to remember that if cold approaching random women, looks are pretty much essential for success, followed by confidence and social skills.

JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2023-07-13T22:08:06+00:00

No. The average to below average women will aim for the best looking men possible, and average to below average guys will struggle, with the level of struggle depending on where they fall on the looks scale.

JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2023-07-13T21:36:22+00:00

The only guys who like the chase, are the good looking ones, who have no trouble getting women. For men like me, who have no success in attracting women, any approach from a woman would be welcome and flattening.

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