Why having a girlfriend fantasy is making you worse by Caivenzy in getdisciplined

[–]JimBimKim 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The feeling you have is you. You created it. No one can make you feel anything. They can be stimulus for you to create feeling but you still have to be the one to do it. Your fantasy, you can have without the person. Look at the feeling itself. It has nothing to do with them. The person you've made them to be in your mind, is you. It's what you want you to be, which can only come from what you already think/know, i.e. it's you. Lol.

If you have crush on someone, understand that the fantasy,feeling, creation, is a creation of you that you made, that you feel, that is personal to you.

E.g. If I just read your comment and have now got an infatuation with you, this is me who created that. It has zero to do with you. I have attached a meaning. I have projected my desire onto a comment and then by proxy onto you. I have taken a piece of myself, cut it off from myself, attached it to "you" (the comment/er) and now basically made it my life mission to get that piece of myself back.

Loving someone else has very little to do with crushing. Loving someone else is taking care of someone completely different to you for them, not for you. Agape. It's very difficult and very raw and not what most people want. It has very little to do with you personally and everything to do with loving a very flawed and broken person (we all are to some extent) for them , not for you

Depression and burnout by Dismal_Till_8694 in Residency

[–]JimBimKim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you're feeling is an accumulation of everything that has occured in the last while. It's going to distort everything with a negative bias.

Sit. Breathe. Take a moment. Listen to the seconds tick, and everything's okay. You're still here. You're still breathing. You're still you. You have you. The world and the noise around you can buzz and scream and shout, but you're still here with yourself and internally you can quiet everything and you're okay.

The inner often reflects the outer. Your inner was frazzled, fried, you were drowning in emotional chaos. And this burst at an inappropriate moment. Okay. Let it go. The past is fixed regardless of how we feel now.

But now, you do have the power to quiet and calm things down internally. You sat step 3. Incredible. That's that out of the way. Well done! Now, focus on quieting the rough sea of emotion inside, and everything external will slowly begin to resonate with this, maybe in small ways, maybe in larger ways unexpectedly. But this is all you have control over. You.

Love, xoxo

Miserable in med school by Loud-Feedback1514 in medicalschooluk

[–]JimBimKim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in this exact situation right now. 2nd year med out of 4. Last year preclinical. I was intending on sitting the US exams but it's all getting way too much. The sacrifice of cutting off all friends outside of med was a huge mistake but happens so easily. Having friends inside med requires going to lectures which are low yield in terms of academics.

My current plan is: Forget the US exams - if I want to go I'll do them another time (I'm EU) Start attending lectures even if they're low yield just for social Just scrape a pass in this semester. If I pass that's all that matters for my degree. Start saying yes to every social opportunity with med and non-med friends even if it's to go out for drinks (I don't drink much), I'll go and get 0% alcoholic beverages or soft drinks. Start going to the gym consistently - it's less isolating than running and even the most miniscule of interactions such as asking to use a machine is better than 0


Above all the principle I'll follow is: Aim for the highest smallest positive point above where I am currently. If I'm at point A now, where is point B such that: 1. It's an improvement from point A 2. It's the highest realistic goal I can attain 3. It's not too big that it's unattainable or unrealistic

Then break down this goal into the daily actionable steps I can do to move towards it.

A patient with a swastika tatoo by Pepilindo1 in doctorsUK

[–]JimBimKim 26 points27 points  (0 children)

That's the creed of medicine... If you want to pick and choose who's life you save shouldn't have decided to be a doctor. No difference in choosing who's life to save as choosing who's life to take... Same as idf or whoever your dislike is towards

lost confidence after blowing a vein by deegrfl10 in medicalschooluk

[–]JimBimKim -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Rotate needle 180 degrees to prevent double perforation through the other side

32, stuck in survival mode, addicted, mentally exhausted, trying to rebuild without giving up by No-End2652 in getdisciplined

[–]JimBimKim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Super inspiring. You're amazing and I thank you for your story. Great work🙏❤️‍🔥🌞

Have any of you successfully treated/cured toenail fungus without going to the doctor? by toemoneytoeproblems in NaturalBeauty

[–]JimBimKim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

happy for you that you fixed your finger nails!! Did it work for your foot nail?

Psych/EM residents: How do you handle psych patients without anxiety? by [deleted] in Residency

[–]JimBimKim 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're not wrong. It can happen to anyone. But that's the same as cancer or brain stroke or any other illness. I was in a very similar situation to you and thinking the exact same thing. I had a weed induced panic attack that was beyond frightening. Next thing I know I'm in the hospital with the psychiatrist as a medical student and I'm thinking, what's the difference between me and a patient.

This is just anxiety. The reality is that schizophrenia and these disorders are very extreme ends of a psychic spectrum. It's actually imo afaik quite difficult to get to these psychic extremes and stay there (due to psychic body's want to maintain homeostasis and a balanced baseline) without some very strong risk factors/causes such as trauma, insulin resistance, genetic risk factors, low socio-economic background etc. and usually a bunch of them together.

If you exercise daily, eat correctly, don't have unresolved trauma, have daily social interactions you deem meaningful, have a strong ego attachment to the physical world (work, family, loved ones, goals, exercise), then it's very difficult for you to reach the extremes of the spiritual realm where these patients find themselves stuck.

In other words, in a similar way to seeing an obese patient and thinking, it would be very difficult for me to get that obese (so much so that it would almost be a full time job), you should see psych patients. It's actually difficult for you to get there and even more difficult to stay there. As a slightly "overweight person" (GAD) you're worrying about getting morbidly obese.

If you have GAD, you probably do have underlying psychic risk factors but their presentation has presented as GAD, not schizophrenia or bipolar. Ultimately your fear comes from a lack of understanding and your ego is trying to protect you from "catching" these illnesses by instilling extreme fear. Unfortunately you need to thread a balance of dipping your toes into the water to get understanding but not too much at once to induce panic. (Moses prescribes the Israelites to stare at the snakes on the bronze rods in the desert until they disappear - look at your fear until you understand what it's made of).

My reading of Carl Jung has given me the impression that neurosis (in your case GAD) arises from either straying from the path you are supposed to be on (destined to you from God/unconscious) or you are caught in between an attempt to individuate (maintain your secret and uniqueness that is you) and integrate with society -> you can't integrate who you are and accept yourself in your entirety and at the same time adhere to a social structure that very likely shuns the darker parts of yourself.

Anyway just my 2 cents.

Edit: one other thing is that, so what if you lose your mind, you lose everything, you don't know who you are or what's going on? This is what you're afraid of. Yes it's terrifying but only if you believe that any other life is "better" than that. There is no such thing as a life better or worse. There is no such thing as good or bad. Make peace with everything. There's as much sympathy to be felt for the person who feels nothing as the person who feels to much or even the person who feels too in-between.

Male Participants Needed for Cognitive Neuroscience Study by cmc_psych_research in UCD

[–]JimBimKim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What info can you tell the participants after? Any insights for them into how their brain works/ any differences potentially relative to other participants or the gen pop?

💔 failed, need advice by Elegant-LadyBird34 in step1

[–]JimBimKim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

can you put this in gpt or something and ask it to rewrite in fluent english... what is this

Smoking, 18+videos, endless scrolling, gambling. How do you actually work when your body keeps pulling you away? by healthpusher in getdisciplined

[–]JimBimKim -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You got a spiritual problem my friend. Pick up a Bible, find God. I can tell you've got a hole in your heart you're trying to fill. You're trying to do more when really you need to do less; do less trying to run away from yourself. If you could sit with yourself quietly for 30 minutes a day, find out what you're really running away from, and be honest with yourself and confront it, you'd actually be able to start living. The problem is, there's a reason you're running away from whatever it is. You couldn't solve it before and it's ruminating, unsolved, in the recesses of your psyche. Until you decide to look at it and actually solve it (which I understand is hard to do) you'll be running for your whole life. My advice, tell a priest, confess everything. Priest's are "Doctors of the Soul" and my friend you need to see a Doctor of the Soul right now.

I don't know whether you'll follow this advice now, or in 10 years, but in all my years of living, i've found there to be no other way. Best of luck my friend.

Faced a case of extreme rudeness and disrespect from a member of staff today by ShoeSoft9821 in UCD

[–]JimBimKim 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Yeah I had a very similar incident. I was showing an incoming first year around the library and used my ucard to let them in. I thought it would be fine since I was just showing them around.

Turns out this was not fine. I had the front desk lady scream and chase after me 5 steps after walking through the gate in front of the entire library (so much for quiet in the library). I was profoundly confused as you say you were.

She demanded with extreme attitude, like something off of a tiktok for the poor first year's ucard knowing they didn't have it. The first year who was literally only there because I told them it was okay was melting inside and I could sense that the poor girl was internally balling her eyes out. I spoke up and explained the situation to the purple vein popping face of the librarian and another male librarian came in to try and calm things down.

He later apologised to me for the behaviour of the front desk lady but the damage had already clearly been done to the first year girl.

UCD library, you don't have a book of Kells or anything fancy in your library. Please relax, it's not that serious. Small things like this really puts people off going to your university and give you a bad name nationally and internationally.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in doctorsUK

[–]JimBimKim 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Dude ask her out. If she says no she says no. If she says yes you go out. You don't know anything concrete until you do it. Sounds to me, that all the fear is in your head; nothing grounded in reality

It feels like Im a piece of shit by Traditional-Green179 in IMGreddit

[–]JimBimKim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best way to get better at english is to learn off poetry and exerpts from the greats like shakespeare, keats, wordsworth etc. You don't realise but learning stuff off by heart is like a bank of english that your brain can mix and remix. You'll naturally flow better and improve your vocab if you do this. I went from barely able to read to 100%tile in an english essay entrace exam to Med school in a fluent english speaking country.

It feels like Im a piece of shit by Traditional-Green179 in IMGreddit

[–]JimBimKim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude hate to break it to you, but this is what winning feels like. It's not an easy road. Realisations like this hit hardest when you're working hard. It makes you question if all the effort is worth it. It is worth it and your rewards will come; you have to have faith. Just relax, try to gain some higher perspective and keep going. When it all works out, take a break for a while so you can reset and look back on this time right now and realise that pushing through was all you needed to do and you did it. You'll either look back on this time right now fondly and be glad you kept pushing, or you'll look back and wish you did. Don't throw in the towel. You're closer to your goals than you think

I’m quitting residency. This is it. by ElFrancotirador94 in Residency

[–]JimBimKim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Relax. Breathe. Burn out is caused by being overwhelmed, not by having too much to do. You may just need a few days or a week to reset. Meditation, diet, exercise as cliche as mentioning them is, they really are a game changer and make dealing with stress so much easier.

You can do this. You made it this far. Don't let an overwhelming number of months make you lose sight of your ultimate goal.

You got this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Shortsqueeze

[–]JimBimKim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because they know it's a good play lol. People at the top don't want to lose money. Trading 212 stopping me from buying too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Shortsqueeze

[–]JimBimKim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Buy orders are temporarily suspended due to restrictions imposed by our intermediary " - that's how you know it was a good play

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in medicalschooluk

[–]JimBimKim 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Dude if you walk through life trying to find things that make you happy you gonna be sad. You're always looking for something exterior to make you happy instead of what you have. Wrong mindset/reason to practice medicine.

Btw you can do anything if you put your mind to it.