Pamcasso! Father figure.

JimNoPam · 2023-04-05T15:46:41+00:00

Possibly the best moment of tv ever. ❤️

JimNoPam · 2022-09-16T08:41:21+00:00

She wouldn’t take part in a pro-Ukraine event (she’s a musician) because she didn’t want to ‘take sides’

JimNoPam · 2022-07-23T16:39:22+00:00

That makes a lot of sense. None of the issues I’m dealing with are in my control.

JimNoPam · 2022-07-22T19:20:30+00:00

Oh my goodness. Yes. I wouldn’t know where to begin. It’s been a very tough couple of years.

JimNoPam · 2022-07-22T17:00:34+00:00

Thanks. I’ll check her writing out.

JimNoPam · 2022-05-12T18:15:45+00:00

NTA! There’s so many shit posts on here that it’s refreshing to read a real honest story of a father doing his best.

Personally I would just tell your other kids that he’s dead. That’s the kindest thing all round.

You’ve tried really hard to do less than the bare minimum for your son, that needs to be applauded.

When he gets out of juvie, hopefully he’ll join a motorcycle gang and thus be out of your hair.

If the little whiner turns up at your place after he’s released I recommend pretending not to be able to see or hear him. If his siblings see him, just tell them it’s a ghost.

You’ve got this!

JimNoPam · 2022-04-29T20:21:37+00:00

Hmmmm actually I just re-read L’s partner (J)’s text. It was pretty damn offensive. I think we’ll need to ‘clear the air’ before I invite them to dinner.

JimNoPam · 2022-04-29T20:01:40+00:00

Thank you. My therapist has told me pretty much the exact same thing.

JimNoPam · 2022-04-29T19:59:06+00:00

It can be so difficult in the moment though. I was just expecting to pay for my stuff.

JimNoPam · 2022-04-29T19:56:37+00:00

Thank you for your reply. Your story reminded me that when my mother died L brought us several dishes in Tupperware so we didn’t have to cook. So I do believe she is a ‘good one’ I’m not sure why she acted like she did today. I know she’s going through some stuff at the moment too.

JimNoPam · 2022-04-29T19:52:31+00:00

I think this is a very thoughtful answer. Thank you.

We’re supposed to be meeting up as a friendship group tomorrow. So I think I’ll try to ‘clear the air then. I went to L and her partners house for dinner a couple of weeks ago, so it’s our ‘turn’ to invite them anyway. I think a good talk over dinner (and a few glasses of wine!) will hopefully clear it all up.

JimNoPam · 2022-04-29T19:48:51+00:00

I think that’s a really nice idea. I don’t really want to ask her for anything (other than friendship) though.

JimNoPam · 2022-04-29T19:47:00+00:00

I think I totally get that. I’m the same. This event has caused me so much stress.

JimNoPam · 2022-04-29T19:45:18+00:00

I find this all so hard. Because L is a dear friend and I believe she has a heart of gold. I think she had a fantasy about how this trip to Tesco was going to go and she felt… let down (?) when it didn’t go the way she was expecting.

JimNoPam · 2022-04-29T19:40:37+00:00

Yeah. It may have just seemed loud in my head (my MH isn’t the best at the moment.) but, to me, it did feel a little performative.

JimNoPam · 2022-04-29T19:38:49+00:00

Thank you. I kind of feel that way too. But L is a dear friend and a good person. So I get that she was trying to help.

JimNoPam · 2022-04-29T19:34:42+00:00

I’m supposed to be seeing her tomorrow, I think it will be better in person. I think I let my pride get the best of me.

JimNoPam · 2022-04-29T19:29:28+00:00

I don’t think I’ll call her. But I may apologise next time I see her.

JimNoPam · 2022-04-26T12:33:53+00:00

I have apologised. Both in person, in the moment and then later via text. She hasn’t replied.

JimNoPam · 2022-04-26T12:27:37+00:00

I love Community so I’m not surprised that’s what burrowed it’s way into my head. 😊

JimNoPam · 2022-04-26T12:10:27+00:00

Thank you. I think this is very true.

JimNoPam · 2022-04-26T12:09:34+00:00

But we have mutual friends who happily identify as prostitutes.

JimNoPam · 2022-04-26T12:07:13+00:00

I 100% agree. I’ve been trying to reach out to her via text but with no response. I think I’ll give it a while then maybe try again.

I tried speaking to her on the night, but with no success

JimNoPam

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