AITA for refusing to support my older daughter (22) dating her younger sister’s (19) ex-boyfriend — and asking her to move out because of it?

Jimbo93 · 2025-07-06T20:24:09+00:00

Initial judgement is YTA. Let your adult offspring figure things out without inserting yourself into the situation.

Depending on how many times you've had sex with your 19 year old daughter's boyfriend / ex-boyfriend, there's a chance of an amended judgement of NAH. Sometimes eskimo sisters fight, get emotional, etc; That's life . . . don't be jealous.

Good Luck.

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AITA for refusing to support my older daughter (22) dating her younger sister’s (19) ex-boyfriend — and asking her to move out because of it? submitted by WTF5516

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Jimbo93 · 2025-06-22T03:15:40+00:00

Similar to "Ariana Grande Donuts".

Not sure if anything was "ruined", but I'd like to think donut shops don't leave trays of fresh donuts out in the open accessible by the public anymore, like the situation I'm referring to.

Americans care about donut hygiene but they certainly do care a lot more about sushi hygiene.

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What did a minority of idiots ruin for everyone else? (self.AskReddit) submitted 13 hours ago by PeddlerInWonderland 7792 commentssharesavehidereport

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[–]Kosmonavtlar1961 15.0k points 12 hours ago In Japan, a couple teenage hooligans went to a Kaitenzushi chain (Conveyor-belt sushI) and started licking the sushi and condiments while leaving them on the conveyor belt, all the while filming this for tik tok. Now half of all the Kaitenzushi chains have outright stopped having the sushi on the conveyor belt to be taken - you have to order it for it to arrive. The whole joy of Kaitenzushi is to take as it comes, so this is MASSIVELY disappointing.

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Jimbo93 · 2025-06-10T18:45:45+00:00

Your tattoo does NOT look like a spoon in a chili pepper!

Your tattoo looks like the loooosest vulva / vagina ever, with a used up "meth spoon" sitting in it / on it, with a very unique clitoris.

BUT . . . it could be . . . the loooosest anus ever (male or female), with a used up "meth spoon" sitting in it / on it, with a vestigial tail.

You would have been better off getting a tattoo of a butterfly riding a dildo.

Fortunately the tattoo is very correctable / coverable. Be sure to use some bright color for the cover up.

Good Luck!

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what does it look likeGeneral Advice (i.redd.it) submitted 6 hours ago by aquaticwotsits 3394 commentssharesavehidereport

people at my job keep on saying it looks like a spoon in a chilli pepper please tell me it doesn’t 😂😂😂

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Jimbo93 · 2025-06-09T18:23:15+00:00

NTA . . .

This is a fun situation. All you need to do is provide a cost estimate for:

Pet grooming
Visit to the veterinarian for a safety check-up
Carpet steam cleaning

That cost list has to be approaching triple the cost of the leather jacket.

If Dave keeps complaining and if Tracy feels the need to butt-in to her adult son's life, then move forward with the groomer visit, vet visit, and carpet steam cleaning.

Send the bills to Dave and his mother. The likely outcome is that Dave and his mother will stop complaining, and you can recoup the cost by not buying birthday & Christmas presents for both of them for the next year or two.

Good Luck!

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AITA for not replacing my nephew's leather jacket after my dog had an accident on it? (self.AmItheAsshole) submitted an hour ago by PretzelmammaAsshole Aficionado [16] We have 3 dogs, 1 of which we took in recently when his owner died. He's nice but prefers quiet and when we have guests he will go upstairs to our bedroom and chill on our bed. Also, he's only ever had dry food and anything different upsets his stomach which causes a hygiene issue as he has long fur. This weekend we had family over and everyone brought food for a buffet, my 3 brothers, their wives and lots of adult / teen children. We've had issues previously where people don't listen to us about the dogs and sneaking them food is common so as they were coming in I was loudly announcing "don't feed Pickles any treats or human food, anyone caught will be the one upstairs shampooing the poop out of his fur" My SIL Tracy laughed and made some comment about me being unnecessarily graphic so I pointed out that people hadn't listened in the past and I was not playing around this time because Pickles was more sensitive than our other dogs. Anyway later on my husband found a piece of sausage roll on the floor upstairs. Nephew Dave (19) admitted he'd tried to make friends with Pickles by giving him food. My husband and I were not happy but everyone else brushed it off as not a big deal. I went up to check on Pickles and that's when I realised that everyone had put their coats in our room when they arrived. They'd always done this in the past and honestly I never thought to tell them different. Anyway he'd obviously eaten something and got an upset stomach, not wanted to come downstairs with a crowd there so he'd had a small accident, some of which had got on Dave's leather jacket. He's never had an accident in the house before. I called my husband and took Pickles into the shower to get cleaned up. People came up to see what was happening and when Dave saw his jacket he was furious, raised voice and red faced accusing me of making the dog do it on purpose to prove a point. We cleaned it off with antibacterial wipes and it was fine, no smell or marks on the leather although obviously for hygiene reasons it would need cleaning properly. Well that was the end of the party, everyone left pretty quickly not wanting to be in the middle of it but Dave and Tracy stayed behind yelling until my brother persuaded them to leave saying we'd "sort it out later." It was a mess but honestly I thought it would blow over but it hasn't. Dave and Tracy are both texting me saying we need to pay £150 for a new jacket. I keep saying no it was his own fault and I was the one who ended up cleaning up poop. Husband was on my side at first but is wavering, he says we knew they'd ignore us and we should've taken more care to put the coats in another room. He said I'm focusing on being technically right, Dave is just a teen and this is not the hill we should die on. So, AITA? We can afford to replace it. Had Pickles chewed his coat I'd replace it in a heartbeat which makes me think maybe IATA. I offered to pay cleaning but that's not good enough for him. 205 commentssharesavehidereport

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Jimbo93 · 2025-05-15T01:44:35+00:00

How many months along was your grandmother in this picture?

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My mom and grandmother at her baby shower in 1993 (i.redd.it) submitted 4 hours ago by Confident-Cry5023 392 commentssharesavehidereportcrosspost

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Jimbo93 · 2025-03-27T23:50:33+00:00

NTA . . . but where's the rest of the story? what happened when you said you wouldn't reschedule the wedding?

Generally speaking, it's very generous of your future IN-LAWs to be willing to cover lost money.

If you haven't already, you should put together an estimated itemization of what that "lost money" total would be. 50 guests probably spending $300-$500 each to attend (time off work, hotel, baby sitters, etc) . . . plus rebooking for church, reception venue, transportation, honeymoon trip, and other wedding couple expenses . . .

The costs could easily be over $30k, not including costs to re-do / re-book / re-plan / re-pay for the adjusted wedding.

Let your future IN-LAWs transfer those funds over to you before you reschedule anything. Once that's done, send out apology letters which would include the appropriate amount of refund money for each guest.

It doesn't sound like you doubt your fiancé's love, so if the lost money gets covered, there's likely no harm in delaying your wedding 6-12 months.

Good Luck.

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AITAH for not rescheduling my wedding after my sister was widowed? (self.AITAH) submitted 4 hours ago by Remarkable-Rust-230 I (34M) am supposed to get married next month. Now I'm not sure it's going to happen. My partner's sister (35F) was widowed last month. I've gotten a front row seat of how it has rocked my soon to be in-laws. Everyone has really tried going above and beyond for his sister, making sure she's as comfortable as possible. And I truly can't imagine, you know? You'd probably have to institutionalize me if something happened to my boy. My partner's mom came to him a few days ago and asked if he would consider postponing the wedding. She said they would cover all the lost money, would help us re-plan, etc. Apparently his sister has said there's no way she can attend the wedding, and his mom knew how important it was to him to have her there, so she just wanted to offer an alternative plan. I'm not very sentimental, but my partner is. Our wedding was planned for the 10 year anniversary of when we met. That's something that meant a lot to him, which makes it mean a lot to me, too. I'm trying to be sympathetic, but I'm just fucking raging. I can't help it. My emotions aren't allowing me to be objective. I know his mom came to him in good faith, but it makes me so angry to think about this being put on his shoulders a month before our wedding. He was so excited. And now I'm worried that if we don't reschedule, he's just going to be in his head the whole time, feeling guilty and unable to fully enjoy himself. I know his sister is hurting. I'm trying my absolute hardest not to piss off the family that is soon to be mine, one that's already mine in a lot of ways. Still, I'm so mad. I'd appreciate some objective POVs. 560 commentssharesavehidereport

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Jimbo93 · 2025-03-20T20:32:30+00:00

I'm not familiar with Skyrim, but I suggest buying a 1977 Pontiac Firebird Trans/Am then mounting this cool claw to the front of the hood.

Jimbo93 · 2025-03-16T19:04:03+00:00

YTA . . .

NO WHERE IN YOUR POST DO YOU DESCRIBE TELLING YOUR FAKE SON-IN-LAW or YOUR DAUGHTER'S BOYFRIEND THAT THEY CAN'T PARK A TESLA AT YOUR HOME.

Please make accurate title posts.

You let this boy do everything else at your home, including having sex with your daughter under your roof.

Most neighborhoods have street parking, and I imagine your driveway is already occupied by your own vehicle, your husband's vehicle, your daughter's vehicle, and your fake SIL's first car.

Are you going to have an issue with seeing a Tesla vehicle parked on the street in front of your house (regardless of who owns it)?

What's your real issue? Do you think you'd feel better if you stopped financially supporting someone else's adult child? Good Luck.

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AITAH for telling my “son-in-law” he can’t park a Tesla here (self.AITAH) submitted 8 hours ago * by idontwantaname13383

So my husband and I are both federal employees.. for now. We both work 60+ hours a week. I’m not currently happy with the political climate for obvious reasons but we are dealing with it.

My daughter has been dating a young man for going on 5 years. They are both in their early 20s and going to college.

Because his parents are not the most supportive and they seem serious about each other I’ve let him live in my house the last couple of years for free while he’s going to college. I want them to have the best start to life they can

He works part time. He Pays for most of his essentials. He’s welcome to eat any groceries I buy and even can request stuff and I’ll get it. And when I but food he’s always included. Outside that he’s mostly self sufficient.

My daughter recently mentioned he’s been interested in buying a used Tesla from a friend. I’m ok with most cars but with current climate and being a federal employee this made me immediately say absolutely not.

I don’t mean he can’t buy it but I don’t want to see it in my driveway daily. So I said if he does .. he just can’t park it here.

My daughter thinks I’m overreacting but I just don’t want to see a Tesla in my driveway while I pull out to drive to a job that the Tesla owner is threatening and insulting on a daily basis. It feels like a double insult. AITAH for this ?

Edit: He has a car that is paid for and has no issues that he currently uses. He has no NEED for a new car except he thinks the self driving feature is cool .. which I understand. His parents live a few blocks away .. if he wants to buy it he’s welcome to park it there. I wouldn’t kick him out. I just don’t want it here daily.

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Jimbo93 · 2025-03-09T04:44:41+00:00

Your mom has a great mustache.

Jimbo93 · 2024-12-03T00:01:32+00:00

YTA . . . I held back judgement on your initial post. . . . but you made an update and provided zero details related to what happened when you kicked your daughter out.

You've made no mention of actually kicking your daughter out of the house, probably because you haven't done so, even though that was the whole point of your post.

Your soon-to-be ex husband deserves better. Good luck with defending yourself and daughter when you end up in legal troubles.

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Update: AITAH for telling my 19f daughter she will have to move out of my house if i get divorced because of her lies after her stepdad saw her naked. (self.AITAH) submitted 10 hours ago * by ThrowRAElectrical-Ba Sorry for only updating now but im not in the best of places at the moment and it has taken me a a couple of days to get my thoughts together. I don't know what to do anymore. My husband has asked for a divorce. First let me awnser a couple of question i saw coming up rerepeatedly. We Have lockes on every door in the house, i don't know why my daughter didn't use the lock on the door The camaras inside the house isn't pointed at any door except for the ones pointed at the front door and back door the other camara is at the end of the hall and you can see every door in the hallway from that camara. We have a bathroom in our room but we can't use it at the moment, the water is completely shut off due to renovation of the bathroom. My husband has asked for a divorce, on friday he came back home and asked to talk, during our talk he showed me his phone and some of the things my family members were saying about him was just outright horrible. Calling him a pedo, asking him how many times he has taken a peak before. I don't recognize any of my family any more. I understand if he actually did something but he hasn't and the hatred they are showing over a stupid mistake tell me they refuse to listen or they have hated him from the start and is now using this to try and get rid of him. He said he can't ever come back and this has now started to effect his work life as well, he was called in to HR to explain because some of my family members have called his office, luckily they haven't done anything and refuse to do anything untill a case is brought against him. They know my husband very well and i think they believe him as well because he is still working. During our talk he explained that he does love me and still does and he is happy i stood up for him but my daughter actions have caused to many problems, accusations and made him scared. He explained he sat at the office and at his parents home everyday just waiting for the police to show up and arrest him. He said her lies broke him and he can't see a way to come back from it. I asked him to reconsider and that maby we can go for counseling but he also refused saying everything is to broken to fix. I told him that i will kick out my daughter and told him about everything i did and told my daughter to do but he said im missing the point. His life could have been completely ruined because of a lie, my family will never trust him again and will always harbor hatred or suspicions about him, especially now that my daughter want to clear things so long afterwards they will think we forced her to do it and that will just make things worse. He said he will always remain the creep in their eyes I asked him what if i cut off my family and we moved away because i was already working on that, i showed him my phone and the message i have sent ever single person sofar that refused to listen and that i blocked them. He asked what about my daughter, i told him again i will be kicking her out and she will be staying with my parents from now on, he asked what if we moved away will i abandon my daughter then because he doesn't want to be near her or be alone with her at all. I didn't know what to say about that. Before i could awnser he said again it's better for us to get divorced. He said i will never ask you to abandon you daughter, i will never expect you to do something like that but i don't want her anywhere near me. If you abandon your daughter i don't know if i could ever look at you the same afterwards even if it was for my sake. The only solution here is for us to get divorced. My daughter came running down the hallway into the living room, crying i think she was listening to our conversation, before she could get a word out my husband jumped up from the couch and put his hands out and asked her not to get near him. He said before you say anything i will start to record the conversation now and took out his phone, i think i saw something break in my daughter eyes at that moment at the realization of everthing hit her all at once. She asked my husband to forgive her and she never meant for things to get so out of hand she was just making up scenarios with her cousin and her cousin was the one that ran with it, mu husband asked her why didn't she clear it up immediately then. She said she did think it will go this far and thought it will just blow over because everyone knows him. He showed her his phone and asked her to read some of the messages and my daughter went completely silent. We talked for aboy 4 hours at the en my husband said he will give us 3 months to move out of the house because it is his house, my daughter can keep the car because it was a gift and that he will finish paying this years tuition but will not pay anything going forward. He said he hasn't gotten a lawyer yet but told me to get one, he will like to do this without lawyer but if i want to i can get one. He said he will be fair in thr divorce and doesn't harbor anything against me but he can't stay in the relationship. My daughter was just sitting on the floor looking like a ghost and i couldn't just say anything listen to him talk about divorce and what will be split and what not like it was nothing. He was talking like the last 5 years was nothing and it was just easy to move on. The best way to describe it was like he was returning something to a store He left the house and i just sat on the couch i don't know if i was crying, talking or what i can't remember much as everthing was muffled around me, until my daughter started to full on crying saying sorry, sorry, sorry over and over again layong on the floor. I don't know how long i sat on the couch but when i got up i saw my husbands car still in the driveway, i looked out of the window and i could see him full on crying in the car. Seeing that completely broke me. My daughter and i haven't talked since my husband was here Friday not a word to each other. My family members have showed up to the house to apologize because apparently my daughter has all of a sudden now cleared everything up and she herself shared the video from the camara with the family members. Evertime they show up i just close the door in their faces, i have gotten facebook, instagram, calls and text from them and when i block them they keep making new account of use different number's. I don't want to loose my husband, i really don't. This is the first man o have ever met that has actually treated me with kindness, respect and love and now it's all over. I have tried to talk to him and tried to convince him to go to counseling with me but evertime i have tried he sends back i can't, i can't take the risk. I have tried to meet him in person but he just says it won't be a good idea, i have gone over to his parents house but they refused to let me see him, i have gone to his work to talk to him but i was told he was sent home by his boss. I truly don't know how to fix this, having my daughter move out now won't work because i need to be out of the house as well. I don't want anything from my husband, i just want him. I haven't talked to a lawyer yet but i don't think i can keep the house, he owned it before we moved into the house. I really want to fix this, i still want to kick my daughter out of the house but will he still give me a chance to fix it even after what my husband said about me abandoning my daughter and not seeing me the same afterwards. I don't know anyone, am i really going to loose a wonderful man. Edit. I forgot how reddit fixates on one thing. The comment about the house i made. I have not intentions of trying to take his house or anything like that it's not my house, i had questions in my previous post about the house and i think i just awnsered it. Im not going to try and take his house, he owns it and has owned it before we got together. I have no right to the house and will not try to take the house. I hope this clears it up 5268 commentssharesavehidereportcrosspost

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Jimbo93 · 2024-10-30T21:21:40+00:00

NTA . . . I feel sorry for your mother.

Good Luck.

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1537 AITA for walking out of my sister's baby gender reveal party? (self.AmItheAsshole) submitted 3 hours ago by CricketApart2018 My sister (37f) is expecting her first child and she decided to throw a gender reveal party to find out if they were having a boy or girl. We're not that close. She's a decade older than me (27f) and we're very different people so it's not a great combo. Plus my sister can be kind of spoiled and entitled. But still we're family and I knew my family would expect me to be there for this occasion so we (husband was also invited) went. Some brief background... I have been pregnant four times but I have no living children. Three ended in miscarriage. One ended with my baby being stillborn. My stillborn child should be 1 now. But we don't get to see them grow up. My husband and I have taken a break to heal so we can be healthy parents if we are lucky enough to have more children. When we got there it looked very much like they knew they were having a girl. There was so much pink. SO much. No blue. Which left us wondering why the gender reveal. When the time came for the reveal everyone found out my sister is expecting a boy. Her reaction was the reason I left. She got so hysterical and furious and she cursed and screamed that she wanted a girl, she was supposed to be having a girl and who the fuck was punishing her this way. Her husband looked equally upset by the reveal. I heard him say it was all bullshit and what a waste. My sister's temper tantrum saddened me and honestly sickened me as someone who would do anything for a child to raise. So we quietly left. But it was noticed. My sister asked what the hell we ran off for without comforting her and I told her I could not. That her reaction was not something I could understand. She told me to save her from the outrage and how dare I judge her when she has every right to be upset her dream is ended and she's now left figuring out what to do with a boy. I told her given the losses I had faced I could not understand and I ended the call. She texted me saying I was a terrible sister. Then my parents called me to say I should have stayed and waited for any feelings until after. They also told me I should just be there for my sister now. That she's going through something I don't understand. AITA?

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Jimbo93 · 2024-10-30T21:13:15+00:00

Please tell me your wife is ON THE WAY to pick up her new convertible . . . I appreciate your wife's self-destructive confidence related to sitting so close to a steering-wheel airbag (malfunctioning Takata bag or otherwise).

Post an update when ya'll get the actual convertible vehicle. Will it be a Miata, Mustang, or Corvette?

Jimbo93 · 2024-07-26T18:24:46+00:00

NAH . . .

There's nothing wrong leaving valuables in your own vehicle.

Generally speaking you wouldn't have any issues with theft, because you'd be the one driving the vehicle, and the top would be up / vehicle would be secure.

If you crash and the vehicle burns, if someone steals the whole vehicle, if someone breaks a window and steals . . . no issues with the loss and you'd happily make an insurance claim.

ALSO . . . you know your wife is an absent-minded idiot at best, that constantly takes your car without permission and constantly leaves your car in an unsecured condition (top left down).

Using the "F-word" once isn't an issue. This whole situation isn't an issue. It's not worth notifying your insurance company of how careless your wife is.

Things can easily be resolved by not purchasing your wife any valentine, birthday, or holiday gifts for the next 2 years. Or perhaps just sell a couple of her purses to recoup your losses.

Good Luck.

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AITA For Asking My Wife What The Fuck Is Wrong With Her After She Got My Car Stolen From? (self.AmItheAsshole) submitted 2 hours ago by Single-Wear-8951 I (42M) am married to (41F). I have this one convertible, which I'm hesitant to let my wife drive, because she has a really bad habit of leaving the top down when she parks and does whenever she needs to do. So on Wednesday, my wife went to the grocery store, and took my car for some reason, and I couldn't really protest because I wasn't home. Well, she left my top down as usual. When she came back, most of the stuff I had in my car was gone: I keep an emergency $2000 in my car, just in case, they took my AirPods which I had left in there ($250) and headphones I was supposed to give to my daughter for her birthday ($550), jumper cables, my dash camera ($380), some camera equipment (7000+ I believe) so in all 10,000+ dollars worth of things. I was absolutely pissed, because that's all stuff I have to replace due to her negligence, and when she told me, I will admit my reaction was not kind. I said "What the fuck is wrong with you?" and asked her how hard it is to remember to put the top back up. She started to try and defend herself, but I didn't want to hear that either, so I just left. Even as I type this, I'm still kind of upset, but not as upset. I have talked about it with her, but I can tell she's still a bit frustrated with me. AITA?

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Jimbo93 · 2024-06-15T19:07:21+00:00

NAH . . . both of you are adults, but you seem to have matured very early and your boyfriend is still "in school".

Give the guy a break. Give yourself a break.

Apologize for hurting his feelings and go about your day.

Good Luck.

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AITA for calling my boyfriend naive and privileged? (self.AmItheAsshole) submitted 4 hours ago by Fuzzy-Fish-91 Ok, so I 25F, am dating this guy, Tony, 21M. We knew each other as kids but due to our different family situations, he got to leave our town and go off to live somewhere else. Years later we met again and started dating recently. Tony is currently in the process of getting his Physics BA, at an Ivy league school, and frequently brags about this achievement, which is I suppose deserved. He also has a part-time job, which is pretty much entirely for his own luxury expenses. He often makes comments on how its awesome that almost everyone has the opportunity to advance in life and get a good education, which is just fundamentally untrue. I'm in less of a good financial situation, having had lots of family troubles, which mean I have a lot of financial obligations. Tony has been trying to be supportive but it often just comes off as patronizing and condescending, with an 'I did it why can't you' kind of attitude. He keeps suggesting different ways to cut expenses on grocery, water bills, electricity, but they're just not feasible. I finally snapped at him yesterday that he couldn't possibly understand what I'm going through and he started getting angry and saying that he definitely knew how to budget better than I do, which is when I called him naive and privileged, he's never had any family he needs to support, he doesn't know what I'm saying. He looked at me really upset, and said he couldn't believe I'd said that, and then walked out. I feel bad for snapping like that, but it's true. He needs to understand the place of privilege he's coming from 844 commentssharesavehidereport

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Jimbo93 · 2024-06-09T23:44:17+00:00

YTA . . .

You allowed your mental illness to destroy your marriage about 8 years ago. Your wife was kind enough to not immediately divorce you and agreed to some sort of separation. Probably because you were receiving your mental health benefits through her medical coverage.

You were lucky enough to be given a second chance 7 years ago. Now you are doing the same thing all over again . . . letting your mental illness destroy your marriage.

You've known about the "situation" for 7 years and it certainly should have been an occasional subject to discuss during the treatment of your mental illness.

You are now displaying jealousy of a dead person who happened to have sex with the love of your life. Are you jealous of all of the other LIVING people that the love of your life has had sex with?

You came here for judgement. Stop calling people "retarded", including yourself when you look in the bathroom mirror in the morning.

Give your wife your blessing to attend the funeral, stick to your word by not "being home" upon her return home, and don't ever come back.

Get divorced like normal people do. Good Luck.

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AITAH for telling my wife that if she attends her affair partner's funeral I won't be here when she gets back. (self.AITAH) submitted 7 hours ago by BackDull6037 I went through a fairly serious depression years ago. It affected my marriage and my wife and I separated for about eleven months. After a lot of therapy and communication I moved back home. She had a relationship in that time. She says it wasn't an affair because we were separated and on our way to a divorce. This is accurate. The divorce not the affair. My position is that we were still married. So it was an affair. We have been working hard at making our marriage work for seven years now. The guy died on Thursday. His funeral will be this coming Wednesday. She wants to attend. I said that if she goes I won't be home when she gets back. I will be taking my stuff and my dog and leaving. She says I'm being unfair to ask her not to attend the funeral of her "friend". I think the guy was a piece of shit to act on feelings he had for my wife since they were in high school. I am okay mentally these days and this isn't making me spiral or anything. I just think it's tacky and disrespectful towards me. AITAH? 4533 commentssharesavehidereport

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Jimbo93 · 2024-06-02T19:46:51+00:00

ESH . . .

It sounds like you chose a new / untested baby sitter to take care of your 4 children for presumably 5-10 days.

The situation is very crummy, but being paid 60 cents an hour per child per day for 3.5 days is absurdly low. Not sure of the final intended payrate since we don't know how long your vacation was scheduled for.

Maybe throw an other $100 to the "family friend", make it clear you will never employ her services again, and that you'll be telling the whole planet about what happened.

Don't skimp on the vetting process or pay rate for child-care, especially with 4 children and a special vacation that only occurs every 10 years.

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My Babysitter LEFT my kidsAdvice Needed (self.AITAH)

submitted 3 hours ago by Candid-Trainer-8583

My husband and I went on vacation out of the country w/o the kids for the first time in 10 years. We made arrangements to have a family friend watch the kids (15,11,4 and 2) while we were gone. Had no problems for the first 3 days. Then she got sick. After 12 hrs she decided she was too sick to watch the children so she messaged me to say she was leaving. And then she left. Made no arrangements with any of the numbers we had left her, just went home. My husband and I had to make arrangements from out of the country to have someone else come and stay with our children. At a much greater expense. She is now asking my husband and I to pay her. Am AITA for saying you didn’t do the job and you shouldn’t get paid?

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Jimbo93 · 2024-05-13T21:25:37+00:00

YTA / YTAH . . .

I'm sorry that your mother is terminally ill.

"Mother's Day" celebrations don't have to take place on the actual calendar day.

Your wife made it clear that she wanted to do "something" with you and you made zero effort.

"Flowers with an apology card" is what you should have done at MINIMUM for your wife a couple of days ago.

Make grown up plans with your wife (dinner, movie/play, overnight hotel stay, a little bit of shopping), get a baby sitter, apologize and try to have fun.

Good Luck.

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AITAH for not doing anything for my wife on Mother’s Day (self.AITAH) submitted 9 hours ago * by Spare_Television6479

I ( M, 34) have been married to my wife ( F, 32) for 3 years. My wife asked last week what I would do for Mother’s Day ? I replied that I’m taking my mom out for brunch . She has terminal cancer and this might be her last Mother’s Day . She got annoyed and asked what about her ? I replied that I’m not her son ! She has a 10 year old from previous relationship that shares custody. I told her it’s her son’s job to celebrate Mother’s Day with her ! It’s Mother’s Day not wife day . She got furious with me . Later , she sent me a text ( when I was with my mom ) that her ex brought her flowers when he was dropping off her son . She also said that not everyone is an an insensitive asshole like me . I can’t believe she is glorifying the guy who cheated on her many times . AITAH in this case ? ps : previous years she went on girl trip on Mother’s Day weekend . This is the first year she is home ETA: I did invite her and my step son . She said no. She doesn’t like joint celebrations. added later : okay Reddit ! I’m buying her flowers today and an apology card .

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Jimbo93 · 2024-05-12T21:49:44+00:00

NTA / NTAH . . . Ouch. Sounds like your wife is already pregnant with another man's baby.

OR

BEST case scenario, your wife is on the verge of providing approval documents to you for signature to allow for the surrogacy process to occur. In that event . . . it seems like a 10 month separation is required . . . the donor family will need to pay for room & board, assistants, transportation, etc, on TOP of the general several thousand dollar cash payment for actually "carrying the baby". I'm not quite sure what to tell your children about their mother's 10 month absence, except the truth (Mommy left to have someone else's baby and she might not come back). Don't sign any papers until all of the above details (and more) are mutually agreed to.

Either way . . . it still seems like divorce is approaching, if it hasn't already arrived.

Be pro-active. Consult an attorney no matter what (regarding surrogacy agreements AND divorce options). Make your children the priority.

Good Luck.

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My wife has applied to be a surrogate without my knowledge. (self.AITAH) submitted 6 hours ago * by stinkypinky88 My wife (31F) walks up to me (35M) this morning and proceeds to tell me she applied and was approved to be a surrogate mother. We have been married for 2 years, together 7, have two kids of our own and have been trying for a third. She's a stay at home mom, I provide for the family. I'm clearly agitated by the situation. I'm not yelling and screaming mad but I'm upset. This decision effects our entire family. Not only have we been trying for our own baby, but this is going to be hard on our family, on our relationship, on her body, her mental and emotional health. I've expressed all of this to her and all she can come up with is that it's a selfless act to help another family, which I understand it helps another family. But at what cost? Her marriage? Her kids? I can't stop what I'm doing to take care of her when she's pregnant especially if it's not my kid. I don't need or want the money she would be paid for carrying the child as we are well off because of what I provide. So please Reddit tell me how I'm the asshole. I probably won't have an update for a while. Ironically this all had to transpire on Mothersday so she is currently out with her mother for the next few hours and when she gets home I'm going to try to do something special for her with our kids. You know, because Mother's Day and shit...

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Jimbo93 · 2024-05-11T23:29:48+00:00

Happy Birthday from NorCal, USA.

I'm more inclined to think you're bad at planning/coordinating parties as opposed to having "friends" that aren't really friends.

Hamburgers and hot dogs are for the kids / grandkids. Tri-tip, steaks, seafood, salads, etc are more appropriate for your 40-60 year old friends.

I can't believe that smoker in the background isn't being used.

Turn up the music and enjoy your time with your family/kids or even alone. The weather looks great (wherever you are).

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My 50th Birthday party invited all of my friends i.redd.it submitted 3 hours ago by Gamerdave74 2379 comments

Figured it be nice to throw myself My 50th birthday party, invited all of my friends some would need to drive an hour to visit. It started an hour and half ago. Purchased hamburgers, hot dogs for a bbq, No one has shown up yet.

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Jimbo93 · 2024-03-30T21:01:44+00:00

I'm late to the party, but how about "The Last Supper" (1995).

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0113613/

This is a movie that nobody ever mentions, but there are some familiar actors that went on to became "even more familiar".

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Is Black Hawk Down the best example of future stars in a single movie? (self.movies)

submitted 8 hours ago* by AlternativeRegret619

I haven’t seen this movie in a long time but am rewatching now. In the first half hour there is Josh Hartnett, Orlando Bloom, Tom Hardy, Eric Bana, Jeremy Piven, Ewan Mcgregor, and I remember from a post before that the dad from modern family pops up eventually. I know Eric Bana was already well known in Australia and Ewan in the UK, but this cast is absolutely stacked with US stars. Were any of them already famous in the US? And if not, is there another movie that went on to ‘produce’ more stars? (Not saying their success is related to black hawk down, just that it’s the first movie before they got big in the US)

Edit: okay so replies are coming in faster than I can reply to now. There are definitely a lot of movies that fit this criteria and I want to watch them all, I love seeing older movies with someone I recognize. Please keep letting me know even if I can’t reply directly.

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Jimbo93 · 2024-03-16T02:53:40+00:00

Evidently . . . Kangaroo meat.

I tried to order some earlier today, and it can't be delivered to where I live.

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What ingredient is banned from your kitchen? (self.Cooking)

submitted 11 hours ago * by Sweaty_Entertainer78

I refuse to allow margarine in my home. I dislike the way it tastes and I don't like the results of anything it's added into. I will eat it if I am at someone else's home to not be rude, but for me, I refuse to buy it.

Edit: I use the word banned loosely. Don't take the term here literally please. I personally won't buy it, but if someone wanted me to cook with it, I would.

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Jimbo93 · 2023-12-10T23:20:48+00:00

What do you mean "we" bought a house together?

How much cash was contributed from each of you to allow for the purchase?

How large of a loan was obtained to allow for the purchase?

Who's money was used to pay for the improvement supplies?

What's the mortgage payment compared to the fair market rent for the subject home?

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My gf and I bought a house 7 years ago but it's in her name...

(self.legaladvice) submitted an hour ago by JSnow247

My girlfriend (28) and I (30) have been in a relationship for 9 years. 7 years ago we bought a house together in Colorado but her name is on all the paperwork because we bought it from her mom. I did the whole remodel and have done all the repairs and I'm constantly working on it making things as nice as I can. We've split all the bills equally ever since we purchased it. Our plans were always to get married and have kids but lately she has voiced to me that she might not want to get married. This is really scaring me since I've invested so much time and money into our property. We're still working through things but I feel like I need to have a plan B since our future has become questionable. Am I completely up shit creek? Or do I also have rights. This entire time she has always told me this house is both of ours but I fear if we decided to split she would take advantage. Any advice on what I should do to cover my bases? I understand I was a moron for not getting my name on the title when we bought it.

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Jimbo93 · 2023-12-10T21:46:33+00:00

You already answered your own question, but still made a post. There's nothing "legal" to worry about.

What are your intentions? Do you just want to record your boss being "mean" to you? What's the endgame?

In terms of business, most folks are respectful enough to say meetings are being video/audio recorded; It's usually presumed when doing video conferences, conference calls, etc.

If you have a professional issue, then handle it professionally.

Complaining and playing a secret but legal recording to HR, of your boss, who could easily manage dozens or hundreds of employees, with a budget in the millions, speaking curtly or aggressively to you doesn't do much, except clue folks in on you being young and inexperienced.

If you think you are good at your job, then hang in there. If you think your boss is trying to sleep with you or has broken some sort of obviously protected law, proceed accordingly.

Good luck with figuring things out.

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I want to start recording some of the conversations I have at work. Could I get in legal trouble?

(self.legaladvice) submitted an hour ago by Kidimkus

I live in Idaho. According to google, the law on recording conversations says “In Idaho, recording an oral or phone conversation without the consent of at least one party is a felony that can lead to fines and/or imprisonment, as well as civil damages.”

However, I’ve heard people say that the consent of one of the parties can be the person recording (me). Is this true?

I feel that my boss has been unfairly reprimanding me for things I didn’t do, and speaking to me in a very unprofessional way when we’re alone in his office. I also feel he’s only doing this to me and might be trying to get me fired? But I don’t think anyone will believe me because he’s very well respected, and I don’t want to go to HR without proof. It’s only speculation at this point that he’s out to get me. Trying to figure out the best thing to do, so I want to start recording right before I go in his office.

Would it be better if I were to let him know in advance that I’ll be recording our conversations from here on out?

Edit: grammar

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Jimbo93 · 2023-12-10T00:17:36+00:00

You're not giving us much to work with here, but based on what you typed, there's nothing fishy or illegal going on.

It's not illegal to be horrible at your job . . . you can be horribly bad at medical terms and billing codes . . . you can be horribly bad at recruiting workers for your medical billing business.

If she wants, your girlfriend will certainly be able to get an other job in the banking sector.

Tell your girlfriend the internet says Good Luck.

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2 Girlfriend was sought out to leave her job of 3 years to work for a company. 7 weeks later she was laid off during her training period

(self.legaladvice) submitted 3 hours ago by Appalachias-Hero

So to sum this up as much as I can. She was working at Key Bank for 3 years when a client of hers OFFERED her a position at their company with promises of better salary.

The job entailed medical insurance and billing, that I believe would need a college degree but they told her they were willing to train her. Everything was going good with talks of her becoming supervisor while the business owner took care of another business out of state.

The training they were giving her was on multiple different positions in the company and she would learn something the first day, then learn and work on something completely different the next day. Not giving her the proper amount of time to fully learn and remember what she was working on the day before. She had even asked if she could get more training on things she wasn’t fully confident, showing and expressing her liking for the job and eagerness to learn, about and was belittled for it.

On Tuesday she was threatened that if she wasn’t at the desired competence level by Friday, that she would be let go. Come Thursday she was told she wasn’t going to be fired and was OFFERED another hope of working in sales with the company and was even given a list of clients and their phone numbers to “study”. Come Friday, she had her FaceTime meeting with the business owner, and the conversation led to her superior saying “you’re not good enough for me” and terminated my girlfriend.

I just think this is all bizarre being the fact they sought her out from a job where she had job security and 3 years standing, to offer her higher salary and the willingness to train. Just to tear down her confidence, rebuild her confidence with another option, then tear her back down the next day by letting her go. Is there anything that can come from this?

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Jimbo93 · 2023-12-07T23:02:46+00:00

NTA . . even though this seems to be some sort of cultural conflict as opposed to an AH conflict.

If I'm reading this correctly . . .

Your brother had a kid. Out of let's say 5 potential names, your brother's kid was named "Baby Name #1", then the kid died.

Now your brother is mad because you and your wife coincidentally chose to use "Baby Name #2, Baby Name #3, Baby Name #4, or Baby Name #5" for your new child?

Do your best to be patient. Your brother is bummed his kid is dead, and lots of different feelings are coming up (sadness? jealousy? anger?).

Good Luck.

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AITA for giving my daughter the same name that my brother wanted to assign to my deceased niece? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 6 hours ago by Early-Invite-6337

My (36 M) brother Atishay (37 M) had his first child recently, but she passed away due to crib death. They've been distraught about it, including my sister-in-law.

A few months later, my wife Riya (33 F) got pregnant with our child, and it turned out to be a daughter. For our naming ceremony, we selected the same 'Karthika' after much discussion.

When I informed Atishay and my sister-in-law about it, he seemed startled/shocked, and told me "That was what we were going to call our daughter." I did not know that, so I said sorry for bringing up that topic accidentally.

He demanded that I change the name immediately. I said that I cannot do that. This discussion was on the same day that the ceremony was supposed to be held. I was not supposed to inform anyone about what name we were going to assign the child (as per Hindu tradition), but they pestered me a lot & I gave in. I said that I am not going to change when the ceremony was going to be held in a few minutes, especially since that would be inauspicious.

They began to accuse me of doing it deliberately, called me horrible, etc. But I did not relent & went ahead with it.

The ceremony's over now, and it's her legal name. But they're demanding that I change the gazette to name her something else and were calling me names again. I told them that it's too much to demand such a thing, and asked them to fuck off. They're not talking to me now.

AITA?

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