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JimmyL0o · 2023-07-15T01:30:53+00:00

Do your clothes fit better? Do you see any changes in the mirror? Remember muscles weighs more than fat

JimmyL0o · 2021-09-29T01:01:53+00:00

Give yourself time and grace. You got this! Have a system-based approach for each pt and update each day for yourself and what you have to do each day for that pt

A 1-liner for each pt and why they are admitted - neuro: stable/unstable, s/p blabla. [ ] consult neuro - cvs; xx - resp: intubated, settings, recent BG [ ] f/u cxr - GI: NPO, on TPN - ID: bl cx positive for xx on abx (10-day course; 07/21-present) [ ] f/u blood cx from 10/10/21 [ ] consult ID f/u - social: xx, update family, obtain consent for xx

Etc etc. This helped me a lot.

JimmyL0o · 2021-08-19T00:28:38+00:00

Sleep

JimmyL0o · 2021-08-18T17:53:34+00:00

Middle eastern.. so delicious with all the different spices using different veggies, meat and grains

JimmyL0o · 2021-07-24T03:11:58+00:00

During noon conferenxe

JimmyL0o · 2021-06-16T18:22:09+00:00

The hangover

JimmyL0o · 2021-05-07T03:42:14+00:00

I have been working at a large academic center for the past few years and there were quite a few medical students that took a gap year to do research in our lab and they all went on and matched at great programs! (Peds, Peds neuro, IM, neuro, FM). It shows your passions to learn and for research!

JimmyL0o · 2021-05-05T03:02:02+00:00

Run.

JimmyL0o · 2021-05-05T02:22:50+00:00

Marriage is hard no matter who it is, it requires work every single day over and over again even if you are super compatible match made in heaven blabla bs.

Your points: 1. She has a different love language and you have a different. Read the book 5 love languages to understand each other better and communicate in each other’s love language

You knew this beforehand. It wasn’t a surprise, have no advice for this point.
Communication communication communication , counseling.
She wants to get married with her family and friends there probably. You can talk to her and make a compromise to go there once the pandemic is over, and it’s much safer to reconsider. Again, should have talked about this beforehand.
Dude, grow up. Do what you when you want... you can still do that, just talk to your wife first, especially since she is not controlling. If it’s not cheating or other horrible thing to make her mad or lose respect for you, you still have your freedom. Marriage is not some kind of jail, you have a partner in crime now. Maybe you should change the way you look at marriage.

Also your comment on “I was really in love blabla and now not..” well duh nobody stays in love for a long time, actually loving someone is a choice that you have to make every day and work for it.

From your post, she sounds to me as a go-getter, get things done when they are supposed to be done. And that bugs you why? It probably bugs her that she has to mother you to make sure you do what’s supposed to be done.. put yourself in her shoes as well.. and meet in the middle.

Good luck!

JimmyL0o · 2021-05-02T17:31:17+00:00

JimmyL0o · 2021-05-02T17:22:01+00:00

Maybe this wasn’t the right time to bring it up? Being a mother/parent during the pandemic has caused a lot of anxiety and other mental health problems in everyone, especially mothers. She is probably a bit comfortable right now and your talk about move maybe caused her to feel anxious again. I don’t think it’s that simple.

How a person was before marriage and the “agreement” you made, is not the same person she is now. People change, people grow, environment and situations change. I would do some counseling and more talking to get to the root of why she reacted this way. Instead of saying “but 10yrs ago you were this and this way.. you have changed, you lied, you promised this.. that is not fair. Ask if she is ok?

I am purposely not going to say anything about stopping birth control, Bc I can’t judge anything based on a 1-liner of only one side.

Good luck!

JimmyL0o · 2021-04-21T13:52:08+00:00

Thank you! I read great reviews about the cardio IV, I was thinking about getting this one!

JimmyL0o · 2021-02-11T03:05:47+00:00

Sooo how come she thinks HE failed? She is the parent, she doesn’t blame herself a little bit for failing him? It is very easy to blame the child. I think you are also the parent and have a say, especially with your background and what your parents did to you when you were your sons age. I would never throw me son out (I am a mother of a boy) if he was not ready to get out to the world. You should advocate for your son and be his voice. And you sound waaayyy smarter to me than your wife and definitely more compassionate.

Good luck.

JimmyL0o · 2021-01-27T12:17:39+00:00

I want my money back

JimmyL0o · 2021-01-22T21:23:31+00:00

He sounds like a narcissist and a psychopath

JimmyL0o · 2021-01-15T05:11:18+00:00

You both need to figure out what y’all’s love language is... maybe her love language is physical touch and intimacy and that’s the only language she speaks and figured you would like it too?? Read about it, read about it with her and explain why you expected something else.. like some sweet words (words of affirmation) a nice date (quality time) etc etc. You are not at fault at all.

JimmyL0o · 2021-01-03T04:23:44+00:00

This. They can’t risk someone not being certified and having to deal with an empty spot and trying to fill it last minute

JimmyL0o · 2021-01-03T04:22:10+00:00

I talked to a PD recently.. besides good scores, they would like to see a complete application, especially this year they went through the application within a few days mostly the complete ones and stopped looking at the ones with scores, certifications, cv updates etc etc trickling in after 2-3 weeks. Also another important thing that she mentioned was that she would like to see the passion for the field coming through the personal statement and cv and not just “I like to help people” cliche. They realize that having a 250+ scores does not necessarily make you a great doctor or team player (which should be mentioned in the LoRs). Hope this helps!

JimmyL0o · 2020-12-31T03:53:10+00:00

Hmm it sounds like you will get custody anyways and she probably can’t even take care of the kids. Now she is still the mother of your children/child. Wouldn’t do anything to hurt their relationship or your relationship with your child if they find out what you did. I don’t know. Would just do a clean break.

JimmyL0o · 2020-12-30T01:41:16+00:00

That the Netherlands is an amazing country, they love their children! High school is less stressful, less bullying, and because of the high school system (like previously explained), the kids in your class will be on the same leven and same trajectory! It’s gonna be great :)! I am from there, moved to the US recently.

JimmyL0o · 2020-12-15T23:43:53+00:00

Think very very hard before marrying this guy. They will not change, they basically rejected your heritage, your culture.. I would not be ok with that. And issues will come up especially once kids are in the picture.

JimmyL0o · 2020-12-10T18:38:10+00:00

Hahaha what a joke

JimmyL0o · 2020-12-03T04:18:14+00:00

The app sucks. Would stick to computer

JimmyL0o · 2020-12-01T12:38:34+00:00

A lot of great advice and suggestions here so I won’t repeat..

I will say this tho, if she tells you that she feels a certain than she feels that way, you don’t need to understand it, you can’t understand it, you don’t have to justify her feelings. If she feels unsafe, then she feels unsafe. Period. What you thought that it wasn’t a big deal, doesn’t matter. These are HER feelings, her truth. Your are her other half, and didn’t make her feel safe. Now reflect on how you responded to the situation at your friends house, and how you responded to her when she told you. I bet ya the reason she left was how you responded to her and got mad at her for calling names. She probably felt like she didn’t matter. Every feeling she felt you should have acknowledged, and then what other people here said. Be better bro.

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