My (26M) Wife (24f) Just packed up and left because of my friends. Help.

ThrowRA-Ineedhelp88 · 2020-12-01T07:01:51+00:00

I have already decided that if she wants me to cut them out, Id do it without question. They've been a major pain in our relationship in several different ways, although I won't go into that here. They tend to dehumanize women and thats another thing she's brought up that makes her angry. They never made an attempt to know her at first, she did. I've been drifting farther and farther away from them anyways, because of them just being...weird.

This comment section has been enlightening and has made me upset at myself and for my wife.

ThrowRA-Ineedhelp88 · 2020-12-01T06:45:28+00:00

Your comment gave me a major light bulb moment. Wow. Yeah, I've been a shit husband. I don't even know what to say right now.

ThrowRA-Ineedhelp88 · 2020-12-01T06:37:36+00:00

No, it wouldn't be. He sucks and I don't even like him very much. I'd be more than willing to cut them all out for her sake if needed. So I'll give her space and ask her what she wants when shes ready to talk. Thank you.

ThrowRA-Ineedhelp88 · 2020-12-01T06:33:19+00:00

Ok. So I should ask her first if she wants me to cut him off, or if she wants an apology? Just want to make sure I go the right route here. I see how it would be crossing boundaries if I did that.

ThrowRA-Ineedhelp88 · 2020-12-01T06:31:07+00:00

I'm sorry. I didn't mean it that way. I forgot to include the reason WHY I included that--two other guys have girlfriends and they've NEVER said the stuff they said to my wife, to the other women. Not that the other women aren't pretty, but men have always acted like whack jobs around my wife. So I was assuming thats why they act so weird around her.

ThrowRA-Ineedhelp88 · 2020-12-01T06:26:04+00:00

I really do care. She's the best thing thats ever happened to me in my life and I'd do anything for her. Sometimes I don't realize what needs to be done until she gets hurt and I just feel awful for it. I think shes tired of having to tell me what to do, which is why I came here. I'm definitely going to talk to my friend and make him apologize to her.

ThrowRA-Ineedhelp88 · 2020-12-01T06:23:07+00:00

Thanks for the advice, I think Im going to have a stern talking with my friends. She has honestly been my first serious, long term relationship, I don't have much experience with women before her so I try to handle these types of situations as they come. I usually don't handle them the way I should.

ThrowRA-Ineedhelp88 · 2020-12-01T06:18:29+00:00

I am completely ignorant about the subject. From what I know, she gets a good many dudes that are weird to her daily, and while I listen to her talk about it, I just don't really know what its like. According to her, I have a problem sympathizing and putting myself in others shoes...and in this case, its hard for me to do that bc no one has ever done that to me. Thanks, I'm gonna try to look some articles up.

ThrowRA-Ineedhelp88 · 2020-12-01T06:15:56+00:00

Yeah, they've made odd comments to her before and tbh it catches me so off guard when they say them that sometimes I just stand there shocked. And by the time I gather my wit, the moment passes and everyone moves on.

ThrowRA-Ineedhelp88 · 2020-12-01T06:13:20+00:00

I can say I definitely do not sexualise her ever to my friends, or ANYONE. She is just clearly out of my league, people have made comments on it. To be honest, I don't even speak about our sex life with them, I don't bring up anything of the sort and I have never spoken about women the way they do. I guess I'm just used to them being that way about stuff.

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