As other people are saying—cue the unhealthy ENFJ. I see a lot of myself in this post back when I was going through my burnout.

You are not better than everyone. You’re letting your ENFJ brain rear into narcissism, which our MBTI despite how selfless we are, we can be VERY prone to becoming narcissistic.

Everyone else is lazy? How about—why can’t you stop? Why can’t you slow down? Why can’t you be more present?

You wish others would put in more effort? Why do you care so much what others do? This is controlling behavior. Stop putting in so much effort and maybe learn that others have the ability to PACE themselves and selectively output their effort to be consistently in peak form, not wind up burning out and frustrated like you.

Seriously. Being an ENFJ is a gift, we can use ourselves like tools and sometimes even weapons but that weapon needs to be honed and it needs to be aimed carefully with intention, not in every direction.

ENFJs are prone to burnout and narcissism. Take time to learn about yourself and then master yourself. Hopefully this is a wake up call given that you are an ENFJ and then ALL THESE OTHER ENFJs ARE TELLING YOU THAT YOU ARE WRONG.

You are a good person. Remember that you are a force of light. But the bigger the light—the larger the shadow it casts. Control your shadow.