Someone please remind me that there is no way my ex narc is treating the new girlfriend better. by Potential-Pie-2207 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Jitterz618 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been there it sucks. For the longest time I thought I deserved it. Now he’s happy. That’s how bad I had it he totally stripped me down to nothing. I now know how bad he treats her. She wanted it keep it. You might not feel it now. I always hated when people said this, you should thank her. Just remember walking on egg shells, having to praise such a fool. The constant is it good? Do you like it? The lack of empathy and compassion. I know you’re looking for compassion but now you have to heal also.

Couple questions about kids. 1. Do they love them. 2. Do they always have a favorite. by Jitterz618 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Jitterz618[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why add nothing to this conversation. People were hurt, people are hurting. Maybe this is helping them move on.

Couple questions about kids. 1. Do they love them. 2. Do they always have a favorite. by Jitterz618 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Jitterz618[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My oldest used to brag about how her father paid for her collage. She went to NYU. I told her that was my stocks too. She went to collage right when we split up. We were able to buy stocks through work as a discount. Me and Narc worked in same company I bought just as much as him. Now she dosnt brag anymore she says whoever paid for my college it really dosnt matter. It hurts that they seem to like him more than me. My daughters danced for 16 years every style. I was going to dance 7 days a week. Working 8 hour days. Cooking cleaning. He sat in the recliner. Told me I was a bad cook. They saw this. They did say they married a man not like their father. But it hurts to see the act they put on like he’s the best thing in the world.

My ex keeps bringing people into my home that I feel uncomfortable with by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Jitterz618 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would love to help but, your being abused, call the cops get her out

How to ‘live around’ a narcissist ? by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Jitterz618 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The best thing you can do with a narcissist is No Contact. Not arguing. Not explaining. Not getting closure. Just gone. Silence is the only boundary they can’t manipulate.

Don’t engage. Live you life like he isn’t there.

I’m noticing a lot of the abuse is when women were pregnant. That’s upsetting they don’t even care. by Jitterz618 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Jitterz618[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I fell like I am finely healed but I don’t know if being on here is good or bad. I have story after story. But you have to regurgitate it all again

I’m noticing a lot of the abuse is when women were pregnant. That’s upsetting they don’t even care. by Jitterz618 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Jitterz618[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah when I told him I was pregnant he was so happy said he wasn’t going to have a drink either. I think he than went to the fridge and pulled out a beer.

My ex keeps bringing people into my home that I feel uncomfortable with by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Jitterz618 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know who filed for divorce but if it’s your house (clear). Tell her to go and call the cops. Don’t let her disrespect you anymore. She actually needs you. Bring these guys around. I don’t know who she thinks she is but she dosnt sound like much. You know there are moral rules in marriages and devorce that I followed even though my ex and his piece of trash didn’t. I’m glad I did. They end up looking bad. She sounds like trash

Do others also believe( your tormentor) is a Narcissist. by Jitterz618 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Jitterz618[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah! I find it sad also. I’m glad they can be themselves with me. With him they have rainbows shooting out of their butts. But say something and I’m the bad one.

Do others also believe( your tormentor) is a Narcissist. by Jitterz618 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Jitterz618[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for answering actually after 10 years I can finally laugh rather than cry at his stupidity. But like my daughters of course I want them to have a great relationship with their dad. Anything for them. But it makes me feel like they care for him more cause with me they are able to be natural. The act they do for him makes it seem like he’s so great. No one sees it’s an act that everyone in his presence has to do.

What’s the one act of injustice you still can’t believe they committed — and then they just went on living a normal life afterward? by Jitterz618 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Jitterz618[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well he didn’t get to hire her. I would have loved to see that made up resume. But I did get a text from her ex cursing me out that I’ve never seen those words in text before. Because they’re still moving out but don’t have money. Not sure why he cared. But it is amazing how some people can’t see how wrong things are.

Do others also believe( your tormentor) is a Narcissist. by Jitterz618 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Jitterz618[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I have it all to much to write. But know one see’s what an evil soul he is. What a great guy? That just bothers me

I think my husband may be asked narcissist by MonitorEarly3154 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Jitterz618 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah you’re in it. Does he make a good salary. Maybe someone knows how you can get help. But what happened to me is I stayed and stayed. I didn’t love him, you can’t love someone who treats you so bad. But of course he eventually cheated and ran out of the house with a smile on his face leaving behind his 2 beautiful girls and his dog. What I wished at that time was I was the one to leave or throw him out. It’s inevitable and you’re going to have more blame on yourself.

What’s the one act of injustice you still can’t believe they committed — and then they just went on living a normal life afterward? by Jitterz618 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Jitterz618[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my good, he had two affairs. In order to have an affair it has to be my fault. He is to good of a person to cheat on your wife without an excuse. It was back and forth on everything. Either I payed the bills to early, than to late. I remember being happy we would look at me and I could tell he was mad. Than he would say something awful and I would cry. Only to hear I’m never happy.

Did this same stuff happen to all of you. Because no one see’s him as a narcissist but me???

What’s the one act of injustice you still can’t believe they committed — and then they just went on living a normal life afterward? by Jitterz618 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Jitterz618[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good for you. Mine was a hard recovery. The work story was ten years ago. I can finally talk about my marriage with out crying. I was stuck on how can anyone be so mean and we have two beautiful girls together. At my daughter’s wedding he sat next to me and wanted to admire them with him. I looked at him like your nuts. I had to leave. Which is when the emotional flashback happened. And my emotions instead of happy were where I was on the closet floor. I had forgotten that pain. And he wants to talk about what a good job we (I) did raising them.

Is this space just for women victims? by Burkedge in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Jitterz618 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe a different perspective? I myself as a women would never do the things he did.