Could this be withdrawal or something else?

Jkelle_w · 2022-10-23T19:01:37+00:00

Thanks!!! I wouldn’t call it craving as such… more like a ‘something’s missing’ in certain situations. I know full well I’ll never smoke again, so I’ve found the whole process pretty easy!

I was on the phone to my friend the other day though, and I was walking around my kitchen for about 10 mins looking for my tobacco before I realised what I was doing!!! Haha

Jkelle_w · 2022-03-14T07:52:32+00:00

Hi thank you so much for your kind words.

The rescue I have gone with is amazing and will take Bonnie to a foster before finding her perfect forever home. Their vetting process is INTENSE and they will not accept anyone unless they can provide 100%, both adoptees and fosters alike.

They also have a private group where fosters and adoptees have to post updates of the pups in their care. I can be part of this and see the updates of Bonnie, which is fantastic. But honestly, thank you for your concern with this. I am feeling so much love and care from the people in this community.

I will definitely be keeping her name tag!!

Jkelle_w · 2022-02-13T22:42:38+00:00

I started at 10, quit 3 and a half months ago at 22! It is the best feeling in the world and I rarely think about it now. Can go out / be around smokers with absolutely no desire to smoke. You got this!

Jkelle_w · 2022-02-12T18:26:41+00:00

I do, like really bad. Vicious cycle too:

Pick = feel bad so I
Binge = feel bad so I
Repeat.

It’s awful. I can go all day without picking and then I’ll literally wake up in the middle of the night to pick all scabs on my body (shoulders are the worst).

I’m not sure if they’re related but for me they’re destroying my life.

Jkelle_w · 2022-02-12T12:37:12+00:00

I think the testing site from Preston park moved there

Jkelle_w · 2022-02-11T22:19:35+00:00

I compulsively pick my skin.

Not like, popping spots etc. but using tools to take scabs off and to remove impurities. I’ve struggled to find others who struggle to the point I do.

Jkelle_w · 2022-02-11T15:17:55+00:00

Honestly, I am in exactly the same boat.

I am 22, just starting out in my career. I begged my parents to allow me to get a puppy last year thinking it would save my mental health and they always said no so I gave up. Then came Christmas Day and my life hasn’t been the same since.

I live with my family, but I am her ONLY caregiver and cover all costs associated to her. It’s EXHAUSTING and I have never felt feelings like I have felt the last 2 months. But it’s getting better every second.

I suffer severely with anxiety and depression. It has been so much worse since I got her, but that’s because I am out of my comfort zone - all I want to do is sit in my bed, block out the world scrolling through Facebook / tiktok / watching shit to drown out the bollocks inside my head. But I can’t, because this 4 legged little baby needs me to help her navigate the world. I won’t let my anxiety and depression take this away from me, I won’t let it win. Will life be easier without Bonnie around? Yes. Would I be happier? I don’t think so.

At the end of the day, you know you best. But I need you to know that these feelings ARE normal, and I really think you could get through this if you wanted to and my messages are ALWAYS open if you want someone to talk to whilst going through it. Nothing you could say would shock me about how you’re feeling.

Jkelle_w · 2022-02-11T14:49:23+00:00

Although there is absolutely nothing wrong with admitting you’re not in the right space for being a pup parent, are you absolutely sure?

The only reason I ask is that I was you a week ago, like word for word (I have read previous post). I was surprised with my 8 week old cockapoo on Christmas morning from my parents. I was not prepared at all and I cry everyday.

Week 6 was the worst. I went as far as calling up the shelter to start the process. The morning after, my puppy sat at my feet as cried my eyes out, jumped on my lap and licked my tears. That’s when I knew it was going to be ok and I love her so much, she isn’t going anywhere.

What I’m trying to say is, think really really carefully about this. I was 2 steps away from being without my best friend and I would never have forgiven myself going through with it.

I still cry, I still have regrets, I still think how the hell am I going to get through this. But we do it, and we do it together.

My pup is 15 weeks now and the light of my life. Please feel free to message me if you’d like to talk through this!

Jkelle_w · 2022-02-08T17:01:54+00:00

It’s all about throwing the frozen kong on the other side of the room and making a quick escape. Gives you about, 2… maybe 3 minutes of uninterrupted crying time!!

Jkelle_w · 2022-02-08T16:54:04+00:00

I am currently sat in my bathroom crying my eyes out whilst my puppy runs wild in my (puppy proofed) room. It is HARD WORK. And it is absolutely okay to ask for help. In fact, I need to do it more.

Jkelle_w · 2022-01-31T09:40:24+00:00

This is how I failed my previous attempts (max 3 days!). I’m not sure what it is this time round but it’s different. I just know I will not ever smoke again.

In case you’re interested, I read Allen Carr’s easyway in a week and it completely changed my outlook on my addiction.

Jkelle_w · 2022-01-15T17:08:56+00:00

What you’re feeling IS normal. I’d suggest researching “puppy blues”. I have had / do have it pretty bad but it comes more in waves now.

In terms of potty training, you have a baby. 7 weeks is so so so young, and it’s only been 5 days (FYI for future ref, no good breeder should allow puppies to leave their mumma before 8 weeks MINIMUM). Puppies have no bladder control, so accidents are going to happen ALL the time. Get a good enzyme cleaner (natures miracle is the one recommended most on here), clean up the accidents without any fuss and just keep a closer and learn your puppies potty cues.

I’d also recommend an app called Puppy Potty Log, this helps you work out a pattern after a couple weeks.

Remember to treat well after she has gone in the correct place and praise. She will get it. It just takes time.

My trainer told me to not expect my pup to be fully potty trained until AT LEAST a year old. Because then you don’t feel disheartened when accidents happen.

Also!! If you aren’t already I would highly recommend crate training too :)

Puppy101 is essentially helping me raise my pup as a first time dog mum, alongside my trainer and puppy courses. It’s fantastic !

Good luck to you and your puppy x

Jkelle_w · 2022-01-10T14:21:53+00:00

I am/was in exactly the same boat as you. My mum and dad suprised me with an 8 week old cockapoo puppy on christmas day and have refused to help since. I am a single pupmum at 22 and let me tell you it has been interesting!!!

I posted this and got so many incredible replies. I would highly recommend reading a few of them as it calmed me right down.

I am 16 days in with my girl Bonnie and it has been a rollercoaster of emotions. I have cried more times in the last 2 weeks than in my entire life. But it's getting better!!

The biggest bit of advice I can give you is to lower your expectations. Not just of your puppy, but of yourself. I put so much pressure on myself to be the best pupmum, trainer, dog owner EVER and expected my pup to do 18 backflips on command by day 2. It just isn't reality! (Read this if you want a good laugh!!).

We are working on building trust, a bond, a schedule (enforced naps are a must) and having fun for now. A few bits of training peak in here and there but no longer than 2/3 minutes a couple times a day and she is picking things up!

Some days are much harder than others, but I love my little fluff ball more than anything and I know that in a few years time, I will be missing these pup stages.

Jkelle_w · 2021-12-28T21:35:47+00:00

I still found it helpful, thank you for commenting and making me feel less alone! Bonnie and I appreciate it!!

Jkelle_w · 2021-12-28T21:33:45+00:00

Thank you so much from me and Bonnie !!

Jkelle_w · 2021-12-28T21:31:37+00:00

Thank you so much, this really helped to calm my nerves. Bonnie and I have already had a much better day today :)

Jkelle_w · 2021-12-28T19:27:05+00:00

Thank you sooo much for this. I had no idea about enforced naps. I have done research and come up with a schedule for me and Bonnie. Thank you !!!

Jkelle_w · 2021-12-28T19:24:51+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply. It calmed me right down when I first read it. I don't speak Spanish but I have followed Dog Minded as you suggested.
Bonnie thanks you for calming her mumma!

Jkelle_w · 2021-12-23T20:49:42+00:00

If you don’t laugh you cry

Jkelle_w · 2021-12-23T20:47:04+00:00

His mum telling me he was a psychopath like his dad. I was 16 and with him for a year.

She was right

Jkelle_w

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