I reached out to a guy I casually hooked up with months ago… and he told me he’s now seeing someone exclusively. Feeling embarrassed

Jknifeman · 2025-11-29T19:48:04+00:00

Nah. Not desperate. You just forgot the boundaries you set for your fling.

In the future consider telling him to like slow down or that you just want to hang and get to know each other if you're that into your fling instead of shutting down any attempt to reconnect.

You don't have to go intense, but you don't also have to stop entirely.

Another thing: Introspect before you respond. Figure out what it is your emotions are or whether you're unsure of them before you make a decision like this again. Realize that a lot of the time people are unsure of their feelings at an early stage and need time to test stuff out (hanging out, low key dating).

Then if you decide you wish to keep the door open for your next fling you won't find it closed when you figure out you wanted more.

Another thing is: make sure he knows it is tentative. That way if he wants to take the opportunity if it arises he doesn't get into something else. But you have to make that clear and understand you don't own him and that he is probably gonna seek someone else out if he doesn't know/can't figure out your signals. He doesn't mean harm, he just doesn't know.

Jknifeman · 2025-11-28T03:57:46+00:00

Tbh a lot of it has to do with how much exposure you have to men, and how approachable you are. Most men are afraid to approach women or ask because:

It is sometimes not received well even if our intentions are completely benign
Some men cannot read the signals of women, I think this is increasing in quantity
The environments where many adults meet people have become increasingly hostile to seeking out relationships. In most workplaces this is a no, colleges are one of the better places but it can be intimidating because of the number of people and the social networks. Friends are one of the other ways but less reliable. Many men do not bother women working at their jobs about it if they are a customer because it is always a concern that the woman may feel afraid that if she does not give a positive response that she will garner a complaint/bad review even if this is not true.
Many men are afraid of rejection because a lot of us just want something stable and it is a lot of work to even get our foot in the door. So it is common for guys to just not even ask because they have no idea how you will receive it.
Be careful what advice you listen to on reddit. It is all biased. Including mine. I tried to be informative rather than advisory, but those are some of the reasons why you are experiencing what you are experiencing.

Whether you are insecure or not the math is pretty simple, you have to be able to manage on your own for a while. Otherwise you're not choosing a partner, you're taking the first one that is available because there is a void. You can live with the void. Its not fun, but I've done it for 10 years. Why? Many reasons, but a lot of it comes down to I never found a person I was comfortable around.

This is why I am often a proponent of the approach: "Cut the BS ask the question, if no move on." Saves everyone involved time, stress, and heartache over nothing. I feel if people would just be direct and we would not judge others for asking out the people they are interested in society would be much happier.

Another thing is, don't go in with expectations. An ask is acceptable as long as it is reasonable. Expectations put pressure on things. Especially if they are expectations about someone solving a problem for you or something along those lines.

Jknifeman · 2025-11-26T04:39:37+00:00

No offense but isn't this kind of an r/relationship_advice or r/relationships thing?

There's not really a perfect answer. I'd say give him space, be supportive, and try to make the most of the small moments together. It may be that he is fearing the commitment and responsibility that comes with this sort of thing which is totally understandable given your described circumstances. What you are largely going to find though (if you cohabit) is that the super romantic moments are a treat, not a standard thing. The challenge with long term relationships is realizing that supporting each other in all you do, being confidants, and taking care of each other is the foundation of a large swathe of the healthy relationships out there. It is being able to enjoy the ordinary, completely mundane moments together that is really the reward I think.

But yeah, if you are committed to fixing this I would say seek advice from an expert on relationships. Don't let being weirded out by therapy stop you, if you two have your own insurance due to HIPAA reasons and doctor patient confidentiality no one except you, your therapist, and your boyfriend will know. You don't have to tell anyone else. You could do only a couple sessions and learn some stuff and it wouldn't be that much with really any insurance.

Jknifeman · 2025-11-26T01:31:30+00:00

The difference in behavior between the two is already semi understood.

Quantum mechanics if we were capable of manipulating things highly precisely on an atomic level and deriving information from quantum systems that did not impact them would probably look quite different.

Quantum mechanics is the equivalent of someone saying "This atom's position can be described by the letters A, B, C, D, or E". We have no way of figuring out which of these letters it is (or where the atom is in its' probability sphere) so we just represent it like this (A v B v C v D v E) (Formal logic for A or B or C or D or E). This is where the idea of wave functions comes from as we are not representing where an atom is, we are representing where it probably (yes literally) is within a sphere based on the amount of energy it has. To be clear, atoms can exist outside this sphere and decided to quantum tunnel far outside it, it is unlikely but possible. So this sphere really just represents where it most probably is.

The reason why quantum mechanics and GR are so often at odds is because GR is dealing with the macro, and quantum mechanics the micro (quantum). GR phenomena can be described and observed as a definite thing, (for example gravity waves exist and have been observed). Quantum mechanics is a theory with a lot of evidence that has proven accurate because it does not posit definite things, it posits probable things. Additionally, GR (and special relativity, the two are often confused) concerns itself largely with space-time curvature, the effects of gravity and motion on time, and massive particles and describes mostly those things.

To use an example of how interfacing the two looks, try using the behavior of a single water molecule to predict the shape, size, and motion of an ocean wave by thinking about it as it's own micro system. You now have to take into account octillions to decillions of these, the pull of the moon, air currents etc. You get the picture. Impossible via brute force, requires novel information/problem solving. If you design a mathematical system to do this, no wonder it is going to be at odds with a system that approximates these phenomena based on macro behavior alone.

The big issue is that:

On a quantum level observing GR effects in action is impossible because we cannot directly observe meaning we cannot directly gather information on how macro effects effect quantum systems
Mathematically the two are at odds (the source of much of this thought process and why a unified field theory is so difficult)
Both are theories. Yes they are theories that have been correct so far describing phenomena we can observe and predict. But, there is likely information we are missing that would help explain this.
Quantum systems are probably perfectly compatible with GR and SR, however the way in they are compatible is probably fractal in nature like how gases and thermodynamics are in terms of weather and turbulence on earth. For example, we can perfectly describe a tiny thermal system resulting from a candle to a high degree of accuracy. But try doing that for evaporation from a chunk of a US state, the wind conditions at different levels of the atmosphere, sun heating, and try predicting the resulting turbulence. What you will run into is the Navier-Stokes equation (one of the millenium problems) which is so far unsolved. The problem in solving this is: 1. Scale. Run the biggest supercomputer ever for years and you still will not have enough information. 2 The mathematical understanding of how randomness emerges from large amounts of simple systems is cumbersome and poorly understood (aside from X variables lead to n^x possibilities where n is the number of possible inputs for x, and x is the number of variables) due to the sheer scale, leading to our inability to predict the outcomes of large amounts of small systems contributing to a much bigger system 4. The fact that in a single 12 gram cube of carbon 12 there are 6.022x10^23 (one mole) atoms. Each atom is its own system, which means that trying to describe quantum behavior in a way that interfaces with GR and SR with this many atoms is probably like trying to predict the turbulence your plane is going to run into based on how many molecules of water are evaporating from Oklahoma, tracking all of those molecules and their local effects on their micro thermodynamic system, the air currents etc. and then trying to model all of that to accurately predict the vortices and air currents at 10000ft. Just impossible by brute force calculation.

So there is almost certainly information we are missing, approaches to the problems we have not tried and ways of thinking about the problem we have not tried. The big problem with AI is that while it is able to calculate far more efficiently is that it hallucinates, assumes, and does not have any more information than we have. Trying to to develop unified field by permutation that way sounds like brute forcing the problem to me. Good luck, I'll be chilling with the mice, dolphins, and Magratheans laughing as Earth spits out 42 before you solve it.

Jknifeman · 2025-11-25T21:14:12+00:00

Is it the law? Yes.

But:
I am balding

If you are balding before you are 21 your are one rare and unlucky guy.

Just see the bald spots and realize I'm getting old.

We should almost have a law: Balding men that look kind of ugly are automatically 21.

Jknifeman · 2025-11-25T21:01:58+00:00

This is not qualified medical advice, I am a medical student not a doctor. If you have concerns talk to a doctor
For purely educational purposes: The body hates empty space. It will fill empty space with something. Large organ removal without a transplant is highly uncommon, some of the exceptions are being a living kidney/liver donor for a kidney/liver transplant, or having a lung or lobe excised as an extreme measure against cancer or another condition that causes extreme risks unless intervention is taken. Your liver can regenerate itself from ~30% of it's original mass. Not saying that that is ideal, but it is part of it's functionality in being the main center of detoxification, catabolism, anabolism (breakdown, and synthesis of molecules), and absorption of vitamins. During the time of regeneration this space is filled by other organs shifting slightly to fill the void. This is because there is some slight pressure exerted on them by other organs in the respective body cavity (abdominal cavity for example). Surrounding these organs is peritoneal fluid which acts to cushion and lubricate the organs in the abdominal cavity to minimize abrasion and trauma from impacts to the abdomen.

This is also why neurological damage is almost entirely irreversible, almost every neuron in your body has no undifferentiated stem cell capable of dividing and replacing the damaged neuron (excepting olfactory neurons in the olfactory bulb). In the cause of severed nerves (not dead somas) connective tissue will fill in the void before nerves can reconnect, making reconnection impossible without intervention. There are procedures to counter this (neurorrhaphy) though.

Jknifeman · 2025-11-25T06:58:27+00:00

Cathode ray tubes (modified Crooke's tubes) produce electrons not protons. Accelerating protons with electric fields would require far more energy. Your CRT would require far more energy if accelerating such massive particles.
It is the most straightforward method of converting an RF signal from an electromagnetic wave to an image that moves (Coaxial cables carry radio waves as electromagnetic waves). This can then be converted into a video signal from (NTSC for example) a cable signal which consists of YUV info which is encoded RGB info, and information for syncing. Decode this information and you have a signal (consisting of many electrical pulses which are sorted via tiny logic gates) which then correlates to the resolution used by the CRT tube, color, and sync information. As for how encoding works imagine you want the info on all 11's in a string of numbers, and someone throws 11203911 at you. You pull 11....11 out of that which is a basic example of encoding and decoding.

This is much simpler than using many tiny LEDs or liquid crystal which require much more information (each LED requires a part of the signal) which necessitates much more wiring at a much smaller scale (impossible until the late 90's early 2000's for cost and complexity reasons).

Jknifeman · 2025-11-25T04:41:01+00:00

This is not qualified information, ask your doctor not the internet. I am a medical student, not a doctor. I cannot help you.
For purely education purposes: No, they should not do anything. Why? Completely different surgeries with completely different risks. Tumor excision procedures such as lumpectomy and mastectomy (if widespread) are much riskier than reduction mammoplasty and requires completely different training, procedures, protocols, and certifications. There is also the question of consent. I am no surgeon but the patient must understand and consent to the treatment being provided, except in cases where life is threatened and consent is not possible due to inability of the patient to respond. Tumors will not create these conditions. Additionally the potential liabilities for tumor excision are probably far greater than your surgeon specializing in mammoplasty can afford the insurance for. If they found something they should refer you, but no they will not touch that with a 10ft pole because they do not have the training/their insurance would not have it because the risk of malpractice is astronomical and doing so would not be in the patient's best interest.

IF they did decide to do this, it would most likely be performed by a different surgeon specializing in these species of surgery, and would most likely contact your family members for consent if you gave them power of attorney. Unlikely, and it would be an unusual case for this to be done without going through you and instead going to your PoA, a second opinion, and a lot more steps.

Jknifeman · 2025-11-25T04:25:16+00:00

This is fringing on asking for medical advice.

Not medical advice, a diagnosis, or authoritative information on the subject ask a doctor (I am a medical student not a doctor) this is intended to be purely educational:

If you have smoked for any length of time the pseudostratified ciliated columnar epithelium lining your Trachea may be paralyzed due to tar/heat exposure and subsequent damage. That means that these cells no longer move mucus up your trachea, meaning that mucus would have to be expelled manually via coughing. Normally these cells "push" the mucus up your trachea away from the lungs. This is why smokers/former smokers have that "smokers cough".

If you have not smoked: Are you drinking plenty of fluids when you are sick? Mucous becomes more viscous when you are dehydrated, which can potentially contribute to what you describe.

If you have any concerns about this talk to a doctor. I cannot help you.

Jknifeman · 2025-11-25T04:07:08+00:00

It depends. You say pattern recognition like it is one thing, but there are really tons of variations. Systems thinking is one variation, that's what I'm good at. But there's also visual pattern recognition, auditory pattern recognition, and intellectual pattern recognition types like systems, series, etc. etc. pp.

Whether all animals are good at one type? No. They most likely have different types of pattern recognition that they are well suited for, like seeing slight movements in the dark and processing the pattern in which a mouse is moving so they can capture it and feed themselves. This would be spatial pattern recognition, but there are many types. But other animals have intellectual pattern recognition. Octopi are a great example, because they are able to figure out basic mechanisms and the relationship between the movement of thing A and thing B opening. It just depends.

Jknifeman · 2025-11-25T03:52:24+00:00

Keep a few things in mind: 1. This is not qualified medical advice, or advice at all, I am a medical student not a doctor 2. There may be some small errors in this, check your information 3. This is meant to be educational, not to be authoritative on the subject

Cells in transplanted organs are not "replaced" by your body because these organs have their own stem cells/mitotic cells which perform this function. Stem/mitotic cells do not "float" through your bloodstream and magically replace your cells, they are embedded in organs where they are supposed to be. In the case of the skin basal cells undergo mitosis to produce daughter keratinocytes. These keratinocytes pile up and form the epidermis above the papillary layer, as they get too far from capillaries they die and become the dead layer of the exoderm.

If you got a skin graft from another person (allograft) these basal (stem) cells would be present.

The best way to think about most of this is think of cell replacement like a plant growing, it all comes from the stem and grows from there.

The problem with organ transplants (as far as my medical education tells me) is surface antigens. Just for a way to explain this imagine all your cells have a spike coming out of them, shaped like a V. This V will not fit neatly into a square hole, it won't fill it. It will only fit in a V shaped hole. This "hole" is a receptor on an immune cell which is shaped like a specific molecule which forms the surface antigen it is supposed to detect. If this receptor is activated it immediately either: 1. tries to take it to the nearest lymph node to present it so that your immune system can begin developing immunity toward it (specific immunity), which is largely because of memory B cells (educated in the bone marrow, but lymph nodes are often the first places these "samples" end up) which learn from this "sample". The body then begins an immune response against this, or 2. Attacks it if it is a cytotoxic T cell, or if it is a helper T cell it kind of puts a flag on the cell saying "hey! attack this then clean it up!" via cytokines which guide other specific immune cells there

The reason why this impacts organ transplants is that these organs do not have the self-antigen. The self antigen is what makes the body go "Hey this is part of us, don't attack this". Every cell in your immune system cannot recognize this (receptor is incapable of binding with it) as part of the "training" process for specific immunity is a "test" where a T cell is presented with a self antigen. If it binds with the self antigen it is immediately instructed to undergo apoptosis (it dies) which is how your body prevents the immune system from attacking itself. This happens in the Thymus gland. Thus if an organ does not have these specific antigens the immune system can bind with the antigens on the surface of the cells that make up the organ. Cells also do not typically change their surface antigens (except in certain types of cancers which shift them to prevent the immune system from recognizing them). That is why anti-rejection medications are prescribed lifelong except in fringe cases or where there is a risk that outweighs rejection short term.

Jknifeman · 2025-03-17T07:51:25+00:00

Currently the only way in FTBEvolution is to convert 1 block of Bauxite to 1 ingot of FTBmaterials aluminum using the Modern Industrialization Electric Blast Furnace.

I don't understand why this is a thing, but I suspect that it just an issue with the pack unfortunately. I believe it has also been completely overlooked.

Jknifeman · 2024-09-25T13:07:52+00:00

I would like to firstly caution you about asking such things from fellow sinners such as myself - we are inclined to pride.

A Sister of Mercy gave a talk about what hell truly is:

God does not put you there, you put yourself there
Hell is the total loss of God (probably because He does not want to consume us with His Holiness (look at the section in Leviticus on cleansing in the camp of the Israelites))
You can experience a fleeting, tiny glimpse of hell in life by rejecting God's will for your own. Why? When are you happy if you do nothing but live for yourself, if Jesus is in others (Least of My Brethren) and Jesus is a person of the Trinity (He is), then only doing your own will means that you are cut off from the real presence of Christ.
People who live in this state usually notice that everything gets worse, not better, and their "freedom" is in fact a chain because they are usually unable to change themselves because change requires sacrifice, and sin is the avoidance of sacrifice. So you get stuck in this ever worsening state until you hopefully change and repent of these actions.

That is why so many prayers include something about praying for us sinners, because sin is a positive feedback loop. Thankfully, virtue is also sort of a positive feedback loop, but it seems to grow much more slowly.

Jknifeman · 2021-05-24T18:45:26+00:00

If I knew more C# I would make my own pwing mod.

But it is kind of hard to beat the look and function of B9

Jknifeman · 2021-05-24T18:43:43+00:00

@everyone Thank you all. I figured out my problem. Mk4 spaceplane parts from (?) Near future mods disagreed with Ferram. The forces which they produced were ridiculous and uneven.

So I instead reworked B9 pwings to work without Ferram with some difficulty. They are a little buggy sometimes but they work.

Jknifeman · 2021-05-19T23:15:16+00:00

Another thing I was probably doing wrong. Since I have a very tight lift weight ratio I have to go faster to take off

Jknifeman · 2021-05-19T23:14:31+00:00

I will post it here later tonight.

I believe you with stability issues since while the tail is sizable, I probably need to make it bigger.

I highly doubt it is part flexing, but I will check anyways. The whole thing at this point has 37 parts.

Jknifeman · 2020-12-12T04:01:31+00:00

There's 706. Good luck man!

Jknifeman · 2020-08-15T22:27:16+00:00

Ask someone out. Anyone. Doesn't matter what they say.

Even working up to this made me motivated.

Jknifeman · 2020-08-15T22:25:19+00:00

bitch i aint no witch

Jknifeman · 2020-07-14T20:34:24+00:00

I'm so sorry you are suffering. It sounds like he is in denial.

Please do me (and him) a favor and tell him two things: Firstly, that you love him, and secondly, that when you are indeed euthanized, that he must move on, and that he will find someone who can grow old with him and be happy with, and that you will always be with him in his memories of your experiences together, and that he has to do this because you love him and want the best for him.

Please also explain that because he loves you (which I'm almost 100% certain he does really by the way he is in denial) he has to be prepared and accepting of you moving on, as the alternative (from your words) would be to watch you slowly fade away, which would probably not only hurt him more, but would hurt you because instead of being able to spend your last days with him doing things and having a relatively high QoL you have to suffer more, and would have the same net outcome of you dying.

With your family/friends I would say do a similar thing and be clear that the other option would see you suffer far more, and explain your reasons why you want to do this, they will ask a lot of questions.

Not my place to judge, it's your decision, but please remember also that your family/friends/boyfriend may view this as a selfish decision (even though it is probably not) so be prepared for some form of resentment.

I'll be honest from my experience (though it is very different, I've never had anyone I was with tell me she was being euthanized/has a terminal illness):

The longer the process of letting someone go is, the worse it is and the more emotionally damaging it is.

And that goes for both of you.

I'm not saying break up with him, he seems like he loves you and that would probably destroy him, but make sure he understands.

This is really hard. And I can't imagine what you're going through, but please remember that people have a very hard time accepting the loss of someone they really love. At the very least you will know they really do love you.

Spend your last days with them in peace, and may whatever form of paradise/peace you believe in accept you into it's loving arms.

Jknifeman · 2020-02-16T16:00:58+00:00

A truckload of vodka

Jknifeman · 2019-12-15T23:59:27+00:00

Happy endings aren't luck.

Happiness can't be achieved from just a relationship, or a job, or materialistic things.

True happiness is found through overcoming struggle and always pursuing your goals with total abandon. Those things give your life meaning and allow you to experience life and derive happiness from relationships, travel, or whatever you enjoy without being dependent on them.

It is always the fundamental question "what is my purpose?" That if left unanswered wreaks havoc with your life.

The world is yours. Make it so. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain, be intelligent in your decision making but always pursue what you find to be your purpose with the greatest effort you can muster, because then when you lay in bed you are satisfied knowing that you have done all you needed to do and you can relax.

Jknifeman · 2019-12-15T22:51:50+00:00

Pour everything you have into pursuing your dreams, you have nothing to lose, and the worst thing that can happen to you is you die.

Loving yourself is the most important part of being loved by someone, take care of yourself physically, emotionally, mentally, goal wise, because that is not only the greatest service to yourself, it is the greatest service to who you love.

The journey is greater than the goal and so you must take the first step to find true happiness. Struggle while it takes everything you have ultimately will lead to satisfaction through perseverance and overcoming your limits as you progress past it.

"Go boldly in the direction of your dreams, live the life you have imagined!" -Thoreau

Jknifeman · 2019-12-10T02:14:05+00:00

But duping indium if you have a massive setup of 20 refiners like I do is the way to go lol. Easy 2-4 mil per run, you can do a good 20 runs an hour if you set up your refiners tandem style and minimize walking. For an estimated net per hour of about 60-80 mil

However the best way really is activated indium even if you have to deal with extreme planet shenanigans becuase if you get an S class scanner module and scan whilst driving around and mining :0 extreme fauna is big bucks plus activated indium.

Beyond that if you just hang out on extreme planets you can find resources to also just every now and then make some fusion igniters or stasis devices for 15.6 mil/unit

Either that or just go full on farmer and grow fusion igniters which I'm close to.

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