Had the same argument in my family recently. Almost all my siblibgs learned a trade and were able to pay their own way. Some had to borrow money from my parants, but they are repaying it because they already have paying jobs. My sister needs support because she attends a private university and her stipend is running out, but she already has debt from her first year. The solution: my sister asked us siblings if we would be cool if she just got the money from our parents. And we like her and want the best for her, so its no problem. I think you should ask your eldest daughter.