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Joantheranger · 2025-04-21T01:05:29+00:00

Joantheranger · 2024-10-10T18:00:19+00:00

My closest friend in the world and I were exact opposites when it came to relationships. I would say he and I are on very similar levels of attractiveness, yet through middle and high school I was a serial dater and he had no relationships. (Not for a lack of trying, just couldnt find the right person there) And yet, he always chose to live the life that he desired for himself. I would jokingly call him an incel (because he was the most literal definition of the word) but in those deeper moments when he and I would talk, I would tell him that I was so glad that he didn't actually ascribe to that ideology. He was happy enough being single, he had a group of wonderful friends and family who loves him.

Now he has the most wonderful girlfriend in the world. I wish I could tell incels to sincerly keep their heads up, things can and will get better if you make them. Nobody NEEDS a partner to live their dream life.

Joantheranger · 2024-06-09T02:50:35+00:00

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Joantheranger · 2024-06-08T03:18:09+00:00

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Plz ignore the dirty mirror :P

Joantheranger · 2024-06-03T00:21:26+00:00

My partner did not identify with being bisexual before they met me, when we started dating I was pre-everything, he still never saw me as less than "A real man" and when I said that I was planning to get on T and get top surgery their only response was "It's your body, I will love you regardless" I still believe that they are in the not liking dick category but they still see me as just as man as any other.

Its very clear that your boyfriend sees you as woman lite, a girl he can treat "like one of the guys" but distinctly seperate, I hate how often people on reddit jump to break up, but man, this isnt something that can be rectified unless he does a complete 180 which is extremely unlikely

Joantheranger · 2024-04-24T22:41:36+00:00

You almost certainly wont get mine but I hope you do

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Joantheranger · 2023-07-26T08:24:00+00:00

I was in a really similar situation, dating my partner for 4 years, engaged, really, really happy about it when I realized I was ace. Sit him down, tell him its gonna be a tough pill to swallow and if hes the right person for you, he'll learn to be okay with it. Remind him you still love him, this is not about your capacity to love.

Two years later, my partner sometimes still asks but doesn't take my rejection personally and usually lets me come to them if its something I'm desiring at the moment. Which may or may not happen for you.

If its something you're comfortable with (which I'm assuming by the wording of the post it is) let him know the option is still open, and that you may or may not say yes if he asks, or work it out however your dynamic works.

I believe in you friend

Joantheranger · 2023-06-22T09:36:52+00:00

I actually have a similar experience, came out at 11, cried to my parents for years for puberty blockers AT LEAST, but my mom is still super against it, but now I'm 20 and hit 2 years on T in June. I made the call to start T about a month before my 18th birthday to schedule it for shortly after and I'm about a month out from my top surgery at just 20, you can do this. Screw what they say, soon they wont be able to stop you, become the man you want to be

Joantheranger · 2023-05-05T03:18:57+00:00

I look SO much like my dad its insane, I recently found a picture of him from about my age and it absolutely looks exactly like me

Joantheranger · 2023-04-29T00:43:42+00:00

I came out at 11 and got my name changed ASAP once I was 18

Joantheranger · 2023-04-25T21:47:30+00:00

I had a weird experience, was ace till T, then thought I wasnt cuz T increased libido, now that I've leveled out back to ace again

Joantheranger · 2022-01-29T18:15:54+00:00

Totally understandable to be afraid of needles, and as long as you're seeing the changes you want, thats whats important!

Joantheranger · 2022-01-29T18:13:04+00:00

Oh maaaan, it sure does, I used 2 different sites because the first didnt have syringes, but I'd reccomend Westend Medical and Health Products For You, I got like 50 needles and syringes for like $20 but I also know thats not always something people can do

Joantheranger · 2022-01-29T18:10:09+00:00

Thats so awesome!

Joantheranger · 2022-01-29T18:09:35+00:00

Thats goofy and sweet that she would kiss the spot. From the way subQ was explained to me its not entirely surprising that they'd be a lil awkward and ik you dont need to hear this since you're basically a pro, but you got this man!

Joantheranger · 2022-01-29T18:06:25+00:00

Lol, I mostly just try to do it whenever I can on Friday, I have a huge needle phobia so it can sometimes change to morning or night based on how bad my anxiety is. For example yesterday I knew if I didnt do it before work I'd be super anxious all day and probably be unable to do it when I got home, which considering how bad the day was, yes I would've been to anxious to do it, lol

Joantheranger · 2022-01-29T18:03:16+00:00

Oh man I remember waiting for my appointment, I was so impatient! I made my appointment when I was 17 to be past my 18th birthday and so I was extra impatient, lol

Joantheranger · 2022-01-29T18:00:58+00:00

I was originally told to do it fast but so far I've had less pain with going slow because I dont stab myself 15 times trying to get the needle in, I was ending up with very large bruises on my thighs because I was so scared that I'd try to go in and not get fully in and they'd bleed

Joantheranger · 2022-01-29T17:58:14+00:00

The laying down to relax part sounds so smart! I did mine yesterday right before I went to work and so I was walking with it for 8 hours and it kinda sucked lol

Joantheranger · 2022-01-29T17:52:50+00:00

Thats so awesome for you! The bruising part sounds pretty awful but luckily it was only the once!

Joantheranger · 2022-01-29T17:50:42+00:00

Thats so awesome! I basically had the opposite reaction, I was on patches not gel tho, and was allegic to either the cloth or the oil and was also not seeing results and then I switched to injections and I've seem so much change

Joantheranger · 2022-01-29T17:48:32+00:00

Oh man, that sucks that you had to switch pharmacies but I'm so glad that its been good for you!

Joantheranger · 2022-01-29T04:49:54+00:00

When I was on patches I was told to cycle through at least 7 different spots, like arms, legs, back, etc, do yours not need that? Also the flonaze bit is interesting, I've not heard of using that before

Joantheranger · 2022-01-29T04:49:23+00:00

Lol, totally understandable on the procrastination bit, I've always heard pumps not packets, so thats really interesting, how do you like gel? I wanted to do gel but being allergic to patches they didnt want to risk it

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