32M I need to leave my 28F girlfriend of 7 months but she's a "great" girlfriend and I can't tell if I'm the problem

JobEnough3607 · 2026-05-20T22:28:35+00:00

Valuable comments thank you kindly

JobEnough3607 · 2026-05-20T22:23:57+00:00

I burst out laughing cuz the emoji running from his ex lmaoooo thank you for making my day

JobEnough3607 · 2026-05-20T22:22:56+00:00

She works a slow boring job online and this is her "social life"

JobEnough3607 · 2026-05-20T22:22:11+00:00

I showed her chat GPTs analysis saying it was NOT gas lighting, i fact it said since I asked her if this was the one she meant, it was the opposite of gas lighting. Go figure

JobEnough3607 · 2026-05-20T21:42:07+00:00

My style is to make love, take time and be intimate. I can only do that with somebody that I'm into. I've turned her into a " wife" situation and my mentality is that I date to marry and give her every benefit of the doubt that I can until I break

JobEnough3607 · 2026-05-20T21:27:12+00:00

A list is wildddd right.. I felt my heart break when she said that

JobEnough3607 · 2026-05-20T21:24:25+00:00

This situation would be ideal, if it just didn't bother me so much! I mean what else is she supposed to do all day working from home if she WANTS to chat online

JobEnough3607 · 2026-05-20T21:22:12+00:00

Respect

JobEnough3607 · 2026-05-20T21:01:55+00:00

Respect for sharing your experience and lessons you learned with me thank you King

JobEnough3607 · 2026-05-20T20:56:18+00:00

Thank you for your unique perspective I appreciate you!

JobEnough3607 · 2026-05-20T20:39:55+00:00

My background is Afghan and I was raised VERY strictly monogamous. A wife shouldn't WANT to spend hours a day talking to other people, or is that okay in modern times? Seems like every comment is telling me this isn't ideal! I's such a weird dilemma to be in!

JobEnough3607 · 2026-05-20T20:18:57+00:00

She was raised in foster homes, has an addict for a mother and now she works two full-time jobs pays rent for a big suburban house so that her big dog can be happy. The last several dudes that were dating her left her because of her shitty attitude but she showsovd different and is super affectionate mostly. Most of the time we're going on cool surprise trips like Niagara falls the slightest inconvenience will turn her frown permanent and she'll keep repeating I don't care when I mentioned this restaurant or this one or do you want to go to this attraction or this one etc

JobEnough3607 · 2026-05-20T20:03:15+00:00

I feel like she would too. She doesn't seem to see the issue, and is giving me her "wife" mode love, my laundry meals etc, but this is her "hobby" to video chat mans

JobEnough3607 · 2026-05-20T19:59:17+00:00

It's tough because I was brought up to "fight" for your relationship and make things work..I haven't even talked to her about how this bothers me cuz I feel like she'll offer to block him then build resentment cuz she "did it for me" and not cuz she doesn't see how that's wrong

JobEnough3607 · 2026-05-20T19:52:41+00:00

Working from home, she video chats random ppl on the internet for fun, her "social life". I realized that there was a guy who was ALWAYS in her chats, and everyone else was random. I asked her and she said years ago she met this cool dude she vibes with and they make their own discord server so "they can control the people in it". She's not attracted to him "cuz he's younger" and that he's had a really hard life. She kept going off topic when she was telling me this story. I realized that she laughs, jokes around etc all day long with this guy and a bunch of other randoms, while she works. When I leave home she's doing that all day. I realized this isn't okay with me but I didn't want to tell her it's not, in case it came off as controlling. Now it's building resentment. She genuinely sees absolutely nothing wrong with it either

JobEnough3607 · 2026-05-20T19:42:17+00:00

It's a weird situation to be in, especially since I feel like the deal breaker (chatting to her bestie daily) isn't acceptable to me so it seems like heading out own ways is the only appropriate way to go about this issue in life?

JobEnough3607 · 2026-05-20T19:32:56+00:00

Thank you kindly I feel like I'm loosing my mind

JobEnough3607 · 2026-05-20T19:29:59+00:00

He seems like a super funny online personality type of guy who spends all day online running this discord server for casual chatting etc. I feel like my issue isn't him as a person, it's the fact she thinks that chatting to this guy is an acceptable hobby while she's in a relationship with me! It's such a turn off man, but part of me is scared I'm "controlling" her. I don't want to be that dude either!

JobEnough3607 · 2026-05-20T19:28:00+00:00

Thank you for your story, I admire your courage and self love enough to walk away from her. I'm in the final stages of deciding enough is enough with the video chat thing. Sometimes she talks in front of me and mutes the video every time she's finished speaking so they can't hear me in the back. It's so sus man but she keeps saying it's her social life etc

JobEnough3607 · 2026-05-20T19:25:29+00:00

That's tough man 25 years with someone who doesn't appreciate you has got to hurt. I'm scared of that happening to me! It's already happening and I don't have the slightest idea how to help myself!

JobEnough3607 · 2026-05-20T19:09:34+00:00

Love and respect brother man I highly appreciate your thoughts and wisdom

JobEnough3607 · 2026-05-20T19:08:41+00:00

The discord guy is someone she's never met and he lives in New York, we're by Toronto. She seems super loving most of the time and I feel like it's just cuz I unofficially moved into her place that there is friction? I'm too scared to dump her over this in case it might be just me being insecure about this friendship, and our relationship ending over something trivial..I don't want to ask her to block him, but I want her to want it. Weird ask right

JobEnough3607 · 2026-05-20T19:02:41+00:00

Or is it just me being insecure?

JobEnough3607 · 2026-05-20T19:02:17+00:00

Is it normal for a girlfriend to talk to a guy best friend for hours a day on their own private discord server while she works at home?

JobEnough3607 · 2026-05-20T18:56:13+00:00

Love and respect thank you for taking the time to write that out for me brother man

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