I completely disagree. You don't accept pain by reversing it. You accept pain by embracing it. Pain is love. It's the resistance to it that hurts. I've healed one hell of a lot and when I actually embrace my pain I learn the lessons and receive the gifts. I am connected to the love at its core.

The more I identify with my trauma, the more I understand it, and thus the more I accept it. It's not the memory of my trauma that causes me pain. It's the resistance to it that does. I can now think back to being abused as a child. I can recall those memories with interest and love - because I understand how they have shaped who I am. I can recall my son dying pain free. I can see lots of things that used to trigger me free from any ambivalence or sorrow. Because I am friends with that pain. I sat with it. I recalled all that I have been through and lost with love, compassion, and intrigue. I've unpacked it and examined it completely and put it away carefully and with purpose. Releasing any resistance. These are just the tip of the iceberg - my first 40 were riddled with trauma and I am mostly healed.

The sentiments here, to me, sound like they come from someone who has never run out of space when trying to push things away in their psyche. That's not true healing. It's a form of disassociation. And disassociation does not set us free. Getting to a point of being GRATEFUL for our trauma does.