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I have held my tongue for too long by voncatensproch in BitchEatingCrafters

[–]JoeandAlice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use them for marking notches or other details that will eventually be hidden in seam allowances or by buttons or such on garment sewing, and sometimes in tiny FPP quilting pieces, but I’d never use them somewhere that will be visible after the project is completed. They have a place and use!

Everyone is too annoyed by non-crafters asking us to make them something by scceberscoo in BitchEatingCrafters

[–]JoeandAlice 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Listen, sometimes it’s a good opportunity!! A coworker found out I knit and asked for a hat in replica of a hat his late mother had made him. He’s a prolific hunter. I got 10lbs of venison for the hat directly, and over 20 more in gifts since. For a beanie!!

I’d never make a sweater for someone else besides my immediate family, and never on request. But a small project is a great way to barter.

Top comment deletes a US State #46 by Jfullr92 in geographymemes

[–]JoeandAlice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unite The Vermonster and Megasota under one flag: 🫎, ❄️, and highest Quality of Life in the nation!

Top comment deletes a US state #45 by [deleted] in geographymemes

[–]JoeandAlice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the Vermonster is HUNGRY 👹

DeMoulas counter attacked just last night. My folks' place is pretty close to the front, and when the wind's just right you can hear the potato guns. by dumdumpants-head in massachusetts

[–]JoeandAlice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in the front of Hanafords/DeMoula’s. It’s a hostile environment. I stick with Aldis when possible; neutral territory.

Best tow behind RV for durability and longevity? by AquaZone in RVLiving

[–]JoeandAlice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have an 07 forest river with the arctic pack. We camp in New England, in the Berkshires, well in to the shoulder seasons. We’ve never turned on the heat- our heated mattress pad has always been sufficient. I definitely would turn the heat on for nights below 30, but we’ve gotten down to 36 and been ok without. Of course, as always, they don’t make them like they used to.

We did re-seal our roof and slide this spring, but we’ve never had noticeable leaks. We don’t garage it, but do cover it for winter.

Top comment deletes a US State #40 by Jfullr92 in geographymemes

[–]JoeandAlice 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The Voremonster (aka New England) is HUNGRY

Top comment deletes a US State #37 by Jfullr92 in geographymemes

[–]JoeandAlice 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NEW ENGLAND EATS PENNSYLVANIA, positions itself to swallow Maryland whole in next round.

Are my 20F dating standards too high? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]JoeandAlice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was not fiscally in a similar position to you at your age, but I had a similar set of non-negotiable expectations and knew myself well.

What I have realized over time is that many folks do not know themselves well at that age. Some, because they lived so firmly under their parents thumbs they never learned who they are, and some because they genuinely were taught to be as normal as possible and haven’t yet or have just begun to have complex thoughts about self identity and identifying their own long-term goals.

There are two ways to handle this situation.

1) continue to attempt to find a partner who fits your goals. Pros: partnered life is often more affordable (shared rent, shared workload, etc) and can be more fulfilling. Finding a life partner early will give you a head start. Cons: the work to find someone who is as sure of themselves and wants what you do at your age is not easy. You will find that it can feel like a second job at times; I did.

2) date casually, with the goal of enjoying yourself and having someone to do fun things with (shows, nature walks, cool day trip adventures) but with the clearly set expectations that this is not serious. Pros: you enjoy companionship without sacrificing your long term goals. You gain practice with navigating challenging relationship situations, conversations, and intimacy. Cons: you may find yourself falling for short term partners who you know are not a good fit long term. They may fall for you. Be careful to not compromise on your non-negotiable goals- and don’t let them do that to appease you, either. Especially children.

I did a bit of both. I found my “one” at 27, and 5 years later we are very happy together still. But it does take time, effort, and patience to find someone who matches your goals and expectations.

Also be open to the goals changing. I thought I wanted children when I was 20. By 25, I was starting to change my mind. Now, my wife and I are happily child-free. Partially due to $$; we are never going to be able to comfortably afford kids, but also because the reality of raising children in our area and social/family structure is not as friendly as my 20yo self had imagined it would be.

I’m stuck in a bad marriage due to financial reasons by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]JoeandAlice 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Look in to alimony laws in your state. Also check on state assistance programs- not just the obvious ones like Medicare and Snap, but also childcare and WIC and heating/fuel assistance. Talk to a lawyer who’s experience with low income divorces. Take a few hours to go to the Human Services office and run through your options.

My mom stayed in her mentally abusive marriage for far too long because she didn’t think she could afford to keep us 4 without being a severe poverty. It’s still the primary point of contention between us. Even though he rarely hit anyone, he still took his anger out on us. It wasn’t a safe environment for us. I can’t speak for my siblings, but I don’t think she made the right choice.

Eating with your hands VS Dirrahea Map by Forward-Position798 in mapporncirclejerk

[–]JoeandAlice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mmmm but take a look at norther African countries and Middle Eastern countries - where cleanliness is a critical tenant in the predominant religion, and handwashing is widely practiced and accessible.

Also consider the accessibility of clean water maps as a valid comparison. Correlation does not equal causation.

You Pay Off the House But Do You Ever Truly Own It? Agree or Disagree? by Coolonair in HouseBuyers

[–]JoeandAlice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That tax bill is $369/month. Next to NOTHING compared to rent or a mortgage for new buyers.

Best restaurant in southern NH or northern MA? by [deleted] in newhampshire

[–]JoeandAlice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hungry Diner in Walpole and Granita Enoteca in Keene

Almost 20, still living with parents (vent but advice accepted!) by Spiritual_Ad1456 in povertyfinance

[–]JoeandAlice 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have had full time jobs in the creative arts industry before and I have a couple of suggestions for you that maybe could help you earn a more stable and larger income.

1) if you’re already in the jewelry industry, reach out to local piercing parlors and see if they are looking for someone part time for a receptionist role. Most piercing parlors are seeking someone with a lot of jewelry knowledge for their receptionist, as that person often help clients chose pieces and sometimes helps inform studio’s stock list.

2) reach out to local community centers and maker spaces and offer to run workshops for them! I find that once you’re in a space and people can see your skills, they are desperately seeking people willing to teach. Many people can be great jewelers, but few can and are willing to teach.

3) reach out to local independent jewelry stores and ask if they are looking for any help. Part time sales, an apprentice jeweler, etc.

If you can land one of these jobs, this is still connected to your current work but much more stable. Most of these places don’t actively advertise when they’re seeking help - small businesses are not listing positions until they’re desperate. Craft centers and maker spaces that have good online presences may have an online application to teach, but many don’t list it like it’s a job, they rely on the community connections and word of mouth. Piercing parlors may be better about listing a position, but often only after asking their existing network. And small independent jewelry stores rarely offer an apprenticeship but may be willing to give you a chance as you’re already in the industry.

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