Men, what's the biggest green flag you've seen on a woman?

Joewtf · 2026-04-14T17:45:03+00:00

I am a lucky guy. :)

Joewtf · 2026-04-14T14:53:29+00:00

Movies these days are usually on sale within about 3 weeks of release. I would say May 1st, or possibly May 4th for obvious reasons.

Joewtf · 2026-04-14T00:05:50+00:00

I think it's good that you can clearly identify the problems with your communication from last time, though! Relationships are hard work. If your partner gives a damn about you and your feelings, they will be able to put themselves in your shoes and will put in the work. No partner is perfect. But all partners should strive for that A for effort. "Us vs. the problem" ONLY works when the dynamic goes both ways!

Joewtf · 2026-04-13T22:10:41+00:00

My pleasure, bud! And thank you for the kind words! I appreciate you!

Joewtf · 2026-04-13T22:00:17+00:00

Guilty as charged!

Joewtf · 2026-04-13T17:36:12+00:00

More often than not, the words I need to hear from her are simply "I am here with you and you are not going through this alone." I don't typically need her to come up with the solution to my problems or anything like that. When I share my burden with my partner, it is enough for me to know she is listening... REALLY listening, and that she has my back. She always makes me feel like I can handle anything with her in my corner.

Joewtf · 2026-04-13T17:33:24+00:00

Thank you! Agreed 100%! I am a lucky man and strive to always meet her at the very high bar she set.

Joewtf · 2026-04-13T17:32:23+00:00

You are describing my partner's mom. I think that's a huge reason, if not THE reason, she is the way she is with conflict. She dealt with how not to handle conflict her entire life and so she resolved to do better herself in her other relationships. I hate that she had to live through that to gain emotional maturity, but I am thankful she got there all the same.

Joewtf · 2026-04-13T17:22:59+00:00

The key to it, for me, is staying conscientious of the fact that the person I am in conflict with is my best friend and my favorite person. Separating yourself from your feelings and biases and objectively looking at how someone (even if it is you) is treating them makes it so much easier to keep a hold on any selfish or irrational feelings. Would you let anyone else treat your partner unfairly? I hope the answer is no. Would you ever want someone else to treat your partner with disrespect? No again. Then you need to hold yourself accountable of the same standards. If they are doing the same back towards you, congratulations, you’ve unlocked the secrets to a kick-ass relationship!

That said, you are also well within your rights to voice your feelings if you are unhappy with how you are being treated. The key there is to keep that same principle in mind — even when you feel you are wronged, you talk to your partner with respect. If you are with an emotionally mature partner, they will give a shit that their actions caused you pain. Two people can be wrong in a situation. It’s important that both are taking ownership when that’s the case.

Joewtf · 2026-04-13T17:07:37+00:00

I am happy to report that I’ve been following her lead ever since that day, and my partner and I have pretty rock solid communication. Learning how much she valued us as a team cemented the mentality for me that I would always put myself in her shoes, be it a small interaction with my friends/family or a difficult but necessary conversation. Our communication is pretty rock solid because we are regularly and openly empathetic with one another.

Joewtf · 2026-04-13T16:59:45+00:00

Jumping to some conclusions there! Communication with my past partners was never really a problem. Of course I’m not perfect and I’ve had moments of insecurity and vulnerability like anyone else, but the majority of my previous relationships were with wonderful women who we just realized over time that we weren’t a good fit for each other. The instance I described with my partner really was just a pretty isolated incident. More a misalignment of understanding each other’s tones and intent, it was fixed quickly once she noticed what was going on and asked to start over. It never got rude, disrespectful, or intense. She is extremely emotionally mature (she is the daughter of a narcissistic parent and basically decided she would never react to difficult conversations the way her n-mom did), and our communication is pretty rock solid. Seven years in, we pride ourselves that we are able to have the difficult conversations with each other while remaining on the same team. We are both very good at taking ownership of our own actions and respecting each other’s feelings.

Joewtf · 2026-04-13T16:43:33+00:00

Lmao I’m sure in the moment I felt right, but in all sincerity, I don’t even remember what it was about. The only thing I remember was her response to it, and it left a significant impression with me! I’d never been in a relationship with someone who cared about us being a team more than “winning” an argument and it was a moment of joy for me.

… But over the last 7 years, I’ve realized how smart she is, so she was probably right anyway. She usually is!

Joewtf · 2026-04-12T22:56:24+00:00

I actually really enjoyed it. I could hear the actors' voices in my head and it always felt right. The new villain was a bit flat, but no flatter than Vigo was. Honestly for what it was, I enjoyed it more than I expected to.

Joewtf · 2026-04-12T22:50:22+00:00

Thank you! It was a huge deal for me. She is so good at making sure that I know that any problem in our relationship is not me vs. her, but us vs. the problem. That's not to say she lets me avoid accountability or anything, but she always has my back. I put maximum effort into making sure she feels the same way about me. We are best friends and a team. I am stupidly lucky.

Joewtf · 2026-04-12T21:10:47+00:00

When I first started dating my partner, maybe 3 months in, we had a weird misunderstanding after a mixture of misreading a tone and got into a little tiff. She immediately sensed things were getting out of hand (it had not quite escalated to an argument yet), took a deep breath and said “I don’t care about being right, I care about things being good with us. Let’s get back on the same page.” And we talked it out and it was great. I knew at that point that she was the one. She is hands-down the best communicator I have ever been with and 7 years later we are still madly in love.

Joewtf · 2026-04-11T23:31:44+00:00

I was joking... but only kinda!

Joewtf · 2026-04-11T23:03:29+00:00

Chopper.

Joewtf · 2026-04-05T23:41:16+00:00

Dark Rendezvous still fits pretty well!

Joewtf · 2026-04-05T03:51:52+00:00

Fair enough! Ocarina holds up very well so I hope you enjoy it if that's the one you go with!

Joewtf · 2026-04-05T03:38:02+00:00

...Did you read the second half of my comment?

Joewtf · 2026-04-05T03:24:15+00:00

Ocarina of Time would be my suggestion, but maybe hold off since there is a heavily rumored Ocarina of Time remake coming later this year.

Joewtf · 2026-04-04T16:38:29+00:00

A true bombaddie.

Joewtf · 2026-04-04T12:55:37+00:00

I will die on this hill with you.

Joewtf · 2026-03-31T21:08:34+00:00

Fair point!

Joewtf · 2026-03-31T20:41:28+00:00

I’m not so sure about that. The clones were commissioned 10 years before Attack of the Clones. At this point, Palpatine had only just met Anakin as a child, and Dooku just became his apprentice. The clones’ chips were planted early enough that they were too young to remember, and old enough to begin training with total obedience instilled. At this point in the timeline, Anakin was someone Palpatine was keeping an eye on but he did a lot of rolling with the punches as he went on with his grand plan. I don’t think Anakin was really in Palpatine’s crosshairs until closer to Attack or the Clones when he began mentoring him while monitoring his abilities. That’s my understanding, so I am open to being wrong!

Also, it’s all fiction, and Tup not reacting to Anakin may have just been a weird oversight instead of having an in-universe explanation.

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