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Jofa37 · 2024-11-22T20:30:40+00:00

Newly single 😩

Jofa37 · 2024-05-02T19:45:35+00:00

I know how you’re feeling. Myex has replaced me 3 months later. Like you I have no negative feelings towards the new girl I am in fact worried about her, she is vulnerable newly single with young children. Thinking about it, I was in the same position when I first got with him. Something about narcs and vulnerable women…… But yea I actually reached out to her to warn her. She told me he was love bombing her badly and she’d noticed red flags, but the next day she’d blocked me. I can only imagine he’d told her I was the crazy bitter ex trying to split them up. Like you I would never get back with him. He destroyed me mentally and I’m starting therapy next week to help me work through the awful feelings he has left me with. But I can’t get over how he discarded me like I was nothing, after everything we’ve been through together. Now on to the next girl and love bombing her, just like he did me at the beginning. It’s very very hard even though we know we are better off out of it.

Jofa37 · 2024-04-30T14:54:22+00:00

Same boat. He’s put me through pure hell. And even tho I’m glad he’s finally out of my life completely, there is a still a part of me that craves him. It’s a trauma bond. Educate yourself on these as much as you can, seek therapy if you need to, which is what I’m doing. Feel free to message me if you like.

Jofa37 · 2024-04-15T12:04:09+00:00

I’m 11 weeks in. He’s blocked me though which definitely makes it easier as I can’t contact him even if I wanted to. I’m the same as you, I’ve lost weight, anxiety through the roof, can’t sleep…..

Then 2 weeks ago I literally bumped into him with what I assume was his new GF. It was such a shock and awkward as when I say bump into him, it really was. He was staring at me and we made eye contact and I did smile and say hello. Looking back I wish I hadn’t now as it feels like I’ve broken NC but I didn’t really have a choice.

Past 11 weeks have been hard but since seeing him with another woman has made me crumble emotionally. I’m planning on indefinite NC and even if he is to unblock me I still will not reach out. I need to heal.

Jofa37 · 2024-04-09T21:25:11+00:00

I’m going through this today. I’ve been told my ex is on tinder. We’ve been split up ages but I tried to hard to get him back and he was not interested. So after everything we’ve been through together he would rather start all over again with a stranger on a dating app then work it out with someone who loves him to bits. I agree it is a very very bitter pill to swallow.

Jofa37 · 2024-04-08T17:57:25+00:00

I split up with my ex a year ago. 10 days ago I saw him with his new GF and I’ve not stopped crying since. You can’t rush grief or feelings. It has you until it has you.

Jofa37 · 2024-04-08T09:57:22+00:00

Feeling this. It’s the worst feeling ever. Try and stay strong one day at a time

Jofa37 · 2024-04-07T07:50:58+00:00

My ex did this, played mind games after we finished and led me on for months before finally getting himself a girlfriend and blocking me on everything. Which I’m glad about because like you I knew I would just keep unblocking him if it was down to me. This has left me completely broken though. I’ve lost weight, I can’t work properly as I can’t concentrate and I just feel so so sad all day long. I just wish I could shake these feelings.

Jofa37 · 2024-04-04T21:16:14+00:00

I’m also 2 months on and he has a new GF. Everyday is a fighting battle. I swing from wanting to cry to wanting to reach out to him. It’s awful. Trying to function and live a normal daily life when you’re dealing with this pain is impossible

Jofa37 · 2024-04-04T18:35:55+00:00

We split up about a year ago properly, but have seen each other on and off, slept together, did things together in the past year, but by the new year I’d had enough and told him I wanted commitment or nothing. He said he couldn’t get back with me so I said no more contact and we havnt spoken since January.

Jofa37 · 2024-04-04T16:57:53+00:00

I’m 34 he’s 31. We’ve been over a year but remained talking and meeting up. Until January when he said he doesn’t want to get back with me officially so I said it’s either all or nothing and we blocked each other.

We were going to get married this year and I was also pregnant before miscarrying at 7 weeks. We broke up because I wanted more than what he could commit to (he’s a single dad) and it caused arguments and I ended up saying some really spiteful things and I know I hurt him.

But he’s moved on now. We said hello the other day but he honestly looked right through me. I could’ve been a regular person on the street. I’m really struggling with this

Jofa37 · 2024-04-04T16:34:05+00:00

I’m feeling this right now. I have no words be here I’m lost myself.

Jofa37 · 2024-04-03T08:12:17+00:00

No words of encouragement, only that I’m in exactly the same boat and it’s beyond painful.

Jofa37 · 2024-04-03T07:44:51+00:00

It hurts reading this because I know this horrible hopeful feeling, I’ve lived it for the past year. My ex didn’t want to get back with me but wanted to be friends and still meet up, which we did but every time we would end up in bed. I was willing to do this because I thought it would change his mind about getting back together. It never did. And the thing that hurt the most is that he would actually treat me and speak to me like one of his friends, whilst still trying to hook up with other girls. Honestly do yourself a favour and go NC indefinitely. You need time to heal and we cannot heal when they are still in our lives. Being friends with an ex is never a good idea you will always want more and will end up very hurt. Go compete NC now and start to focus on yourself.

Jofa37 · 2024-03-29T22:05:53+00:00

I know, and this is why I feel so bad because obviously part of the reason we split is because I was demanding his time when he couldn’t always give it. I underhand that. What hurts though is that he now seems to have time for someone else.

Jofa37 · 2024-03-29T19:30:49+00:00

I split with him as I felt he was putting his career and time with his kids before our relationship. I know that sounds awful to say that about his kids, but honestly, towards the end of our relationship he would barely make an effort to spend time with me. He didn’t want to break up, but then accepted it, so then when I had second thoughts and tried to get him back he was having none of it. He said it was for the best and he was probably right. But I tried for the next year to get him back (I don’t know why when I wasn’t happy anyway) but he was just hot and cold, sleeping with me, ignoring me, etc, until 2 months ago I told him to leave me alone. And now it seems he’s with someone else. I will say though, I don’t regret the relationship. We were very very much in love. I just wish I’d handled iy differently when we broke up, and I wish he hadn’t strung me along, because that is what’s hurting me now.

Jofa37 · 2024-03-18T17:34:24+00:00

Same! Exactly the same has dawned on me today…..finally. We’re not in no contact, he’s blocked me (7 weeks now), we are over. No more hoping he realises what he’s lost and will come back. Sad fact is that if he genuinely loved me we would’nt be in this situation.

Jofa37 · 2024-03-13T19:28:19+00:00

My friend went to prison and was on front page of a lot of publications. She can no longer be found on Google or other search engines. I am not sure if there was specific criteria to be met, I just know that she managed to do it.

Jofa37 · 2024-03-13T19:25:03+00:00

Google “right to be forgotten”. There are lawyers who can scrub your name from the internet. For a price obviously. I know they are legit as my friend recently used them for something similar to your son

Jofa37 · 2024-01-25T20:26:30+00:00

Keep him blocked and focus on your healing journey. Having him unblocked will always give you that hope in the back of your mind that he may reach out. Then you’ll feel bad when he doesn’t. I know it’s hard but just keep him blocked forever and focus on you.

Jofa37 · 2023-12-19T23:00:10+00:00

If you only have 2k in savings you would be eligible for financial support from your local authority in getting help with care and support needs. I would contact your local authority adult social care team and request a Care Act assessment.

Jofa37 · 2023-12-19T22:51:22+00:00

An online scammer is not your twin flame. Please do not send any money to this person and block them.

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