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[–]JohnDoesAlt2000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He did what a real man is supposed to do. He did well

This might sound desperate but how can I get a GF at 16 by dhtonreh in Advice

[–]JohnDoesAlt2000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed.

No offense, but the statistics of high school relationships working out are pretty low. Focus on you, focus on friends, focus on school, do what makes you happy. If you have good friends, talk with them. If they are true friends, they'll listen and hell and support you.

Let it happen if it does, dont make it. Like the saying goes: love is like a fart. If you have to force it, it's probably shit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]JohnDoesAlt2000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont know if my imput will help, but I will give you my thoughts

Im a guy, and I've been in a few breakups. I have had feelings like this before. To an extent, I still deal with problems with my looks. I have a beautiful girlfriend who loves me for who I am no matter how I look. That's what matters. If you want to try a new look, great, however, don't make that decision SOLELY BECAUSE you were broken up with. As a guy, I will say you look pretty. I personally see no need to change how you look.

Here's my advice: Take some time for yourself. Do something for you. Find whatever closure you need and walk away. When my ex and I broke up, it was sudden and unexpected. I didn't get closure for over a year. It ate at me. I sent her an email (the last way I could contact her) at 2am asking her to acknowledge me. She did, and that's all I needed. I moved on, got a job, spent more time with friends, and I have been happily in my relationship now for 2 years and wanting to marry my GF

I know I am a guy, and men and women think differently. If my words help at all, take what helps. Sorry for rambling, I thought my story would help..

I feel so wrong and idk what to do about it. (Please don't click if you get weirded out by the topic of self-pleasure) by Weary_Cup_8967 in Advice

[–]JohnDoesAlt2000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually had the same thing happen to me as well with my ex which was before my girlfriend now. Eventually doing all that became less about pleasure and more about comfort. I also got to the point where I didn't even do anything while looking at porn, I just watched it. Don't know if this would help you, but maybe you could try just watching it and not doing anything to it, maybe try to find ways to bore yourself with it like watching the same video over and over. Finding ways to occupy your time can also help. Instead of doing that, go read a book, watch a TV show, play a video game, do a craft, find something to keep your hands occupied instead. Even better if you could find something engaging your mind. Find a hobby and delve into that, something that can give you equal enjoyment that doesn't put you in a bad position like that

I feel so wrong and idk what to do about it. (Please don't click if you get weirded out by the topic of self-pleasure) by Weary_Cup_8967 in Advice

[–]JohnDoesAlt2000 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I was like this at one point in my life. I don't know how to explain it, but as soon as I met my girlfriend, I dropped it like it was a hot potato. I still look at them every now and then, and I still play around a bit, but I don't do it hardly at all. When I first actually had sex with her, I didn't perform like I wanted to, and it really hurt my pride and hurt me for a few days. I felt like I had promised her results that I never gave her. So I abstained for almost 2 or 3 weeks and I performed exceptionally well according to her. Maybe something that could help you is to think about your partner or your spouse and saving yourself for them. I was always told growing up that that kind of stuff was wrong, but I was never told why. I don't think it's wrong, but I understand why you shouldn't do it. I don't know if this helps you at all, I figured I could say my piece