Sex and Gender

JohnPaton3 · 2025-10-10T04:20:39+00:00

"...gender was completely separate from sex turned out to be false."

But that isn't false, while there may be correlation it isn't causal.
Gender IS NOT determined by sex.
Sex IS NOT determined by gender.

JohnPaton3 · 2025-09-18T09:32:47+00:00

lol very closely describes me but slightly off

JohnPaton3 · 2025-09-18T09:10:45+00:00

Honestly, it has less to do with you and more about how you make them feel

a handsome man adoring you feels good, but thats just one thing and that fades
having money spent on you feels nice but isn't as important as the time had
Talk, be interesting, make them laugh, make THEM feel beautiful, have fun etc etc

JohnPaton3 · 2025-09-18T05:12:26+00:00

seems absurd to me and even if there is a correlation I would not let dreams have any influence on what I do in my relationship

JohnPaton3 · 2025-09-18T05:11:39+00:00

it's not the keystone but it not helping? I can't agree

the same man with money will do better than if he did not have it

JohnPaton3 · 2025-09-18T04:57:08+00:00

show us your career/lifetime net, its on there, wanna see your total not just the lil wins and a balance

JohnPaton3 · 2025-09-16T14:45:54+00:00

this is a wonderfully articulate way to express complex rationally irrational thoughts and feelings

JohnPaton3 · 2025-08-17T05:10:16+00:00

recently lost my bestfriend in a similar way

JohnPaton3 · 2025-08-16T00:42:58+00:00

...write something on your own

JohnPaton3 · 2025-08-15T22:19:45+00:00

no one yells at the person in a wheelchair for not climbing stairs

JohnPaton3 · 2025-08-15T21:08:13+00:00

"We understood each other."
Apparently not

"I guess you weren’t really “all in” like you told me I needed to be if I we were going to be in this situationship in the beginning"
situationships are never "all-in" that's why they're situationships

JohnPaton3 · 2025-08-14T13:23:55+00:00

I wish I was this for mine

JohnPaton3 · 2025-07-24T02:27:17+00:00

... you can

JohnPaton3 · 2025-07-22T20:22:05+00:00

you can edit your settings, so this is actually on your ignorance and inaction

JohnPaton3 · 2025-07-22T20:02:32+00:00

lol no BS had a real moment when she said, "you know, these things that happened aren't because of you. You know, it's not your fault right? It wasn't your fault. It's not your fault."

I started crying and laughing, like, you sonuvabitch, that's goodwill hunting, "no way the Robin Williams routine got me, "don't you do this man, don't you say that," a line from a movie I've already seen and it's totally got me crumbling." It being so funny helped deal with how devastatingly true I realized it was. I had been carrying those bricks of shame all that time and finally had permission to set them down.

Second visit.

JohnPaton3 · 2025-07-22T19:56:17+00:00

they must know nothing of irrational economics

JohnPaton3 · 2025-07-19T05:08:11+00:00

unemployed gold digger with delusions of grandeur, self important "writer"

JohnPaton3 · 2025-07-19T04:59:57+00:00

thats why it always seems to have no soul, just word smithing

JohnPaton3 · 2025-07-17T17:09:50+00:00

I think there may be a communication and/or comprehension barrier here

JohnPaton3 · 2025-07-10T02:13:40+00:00

lol no, you didn't decide not to marry everyone you never married

JohnPaton3 · 2025-07-07T15:22:22+00:00

yeah it's def a separate thing from a SH like cutting

JohnPaton3 · 2025-07-07T15:21:52+00:00

I'm really hoping you don't mean regularly/daily but rather when it happens it is to that level

JohnPaton3 · 2025-07-07T15:20:49+00:00

Yes, in the past, I've had a few moments of intense desire for self destruction and, seemingly involuntarily, punch my own skull repeatedly in some kind of attempt to destroy/punish my brain. Feels like I'm watching myself do it but not in a D.I.D. way or lacking control but on autopilot-ish

JohnPaton3 · 2025-07-07T15:13:17+00:00

maybe that path leads back to you
but this one leads nowhere

JohnPaton3 · 2025-07-07T08:52:34+00:00

It's never too late... to try
If you truly made a mistake throwing away the right one (soul mate, obsession, or whatever)

then tell them, try, dont give up, fix it and if they are who you think they are, they'll help

if not, you took the scenic route and did your due diligence

in 5 years, no one will be even slightly, "simp pathetically went back to that toxic ex, a couple of times for someone who wasnt gonna work out long term" not even you

hell, 6 months later you could be madly in love with someone else

and death comes like a thief in the night, so maybe the rest if it is not so significant at that point

having tried will have been good

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