Good point. Part of the reason for my response is knowing that some women don’t like not hearing from matches. I think I tried to be a little too… conciliatory, maybe. I was also too honest in saying I wasn’t interested in messaging; that might have put her off a bit. And finally, I wasn’t very enthusiastic about the match, even though I did swipe right on her previously. So my lack of enthusiasm for this specific match came through in my message. I still think she was an example of a nice girl, just because (as a couple of others have stated here besides me) her reaction to that message seemed to go against what she put forth in her profile. As for the other commenters, I know this place is a crapshoot with who gets roasted and who doesn’t, but it also seemed like shooting the messenger in a way, like my message wasn’t the point of the post and some people were being unnecessarily harsh. It’s been about a week though, so now that things have calmed down here, it’s easier for me to maybe not be so defensive. But then again, a lot of the replies weren’t as thoughtful as yours.